Post # 1
Hello fellow Bees,
I am wondering if I have asked for my Bridesmaids to pay to have their hair done for my wedding who decides how they will wear their hair? Me or them? Do I suggest for them to wear it a certain way and they can choose a style? I plan to wear my hair down with lots of volume and curls, a little vintage twist at the top so I don’t want them to have an elaborate hairstyle that outshines mine? Any suggestions?
Post # 3
I think the bride can suggest a style or suggest a style that’s not permitted, but if the bride intends for the BM to get their hair professionally done, she really should pay for it. I don’t know which option this falls into – Bride can suggest a style, but unless she’s paying for it, can’t demand one. That’s what I would pick lol..
Post # 4
Well, for one, I don’t think that any hairstyle is going to outshine you–you are the bride and by virtue, you trump everyone. But practically-speaking, any hairdresser or salon is going to spend waaay more time on you than any of your BMs anyway. And besides, you don’t necessarily want the most ornate hairstlye out there–you want the best one for YOU and something that completes your whole “look,” which might be something very simple. So just remember forest for the trees, here!
Most weddings I’ve attended/been a BM for allowed BMs to choose their own hairstyles based on whatever would be flattering for them. In a couple of cases, a bride requested that everyone’s hair be down or up, which I personally think is fine ONLY if the BRIDE pays for it (otherwise, it seems a bit much to force your BMs to plunk down cash for a hairstyle YOU want, but not necessarily what THEY want).
Post # 5
I say let them choose. The furthest i would go is up or down but really, in the end, having everyone look best in whatever style suits them is what will be the best for everyone.
Post # 6
I paid and I also let them pick. They all turned out great – trust me, no one is going to outshine the bride even if they have the best hairstyle ever! 🙂
Post # 7
if you are paying for their hair to be done, you can decide. if they are paying for it, you can give guidelines and that’s about it.
Post # 8
I’m having my MOH choose whatever she wants. =)
Post # 9
I think if you’re requiring them to get their hair done at all, you should pay for it.
But I also think they should choose their style.
Post # 10
they do…within your taste. nothing tacky and im good
Post # 11
I agree with some of the PP’s. If the BM’s are required to get their hair done then you should pay for it.
Otherwise, if they are paying for it themselves they should be able to choose whatever style they want (and also be allowed the option of doing their own hair).
Post # 12
I agree with everyone else. You can give some guidelines. All I asked of my BM is that they wear it off there face pinned back somehow either up or down. I just dont want pictures with hair in everyones face…lol We are chipping in for everyone to get hair and make-up done (cant pay for all 7 BM) but in my experiance as a BM I wanted to do what my friend (the bride) wanted, my BM seem to have the same feelings. Some of them asked what I wanted their hair to look like…I dont think you will have too much of a problem.
Post # 13
Mine are all required to shave their heads.
Post # 14
Option 5 – not wasting time and energy worrying about being “outshined” by a …. hairstyle?
Post # 15
My bridesmaids did whatever they liked with their hair.
Post # 16
There you are with that razor-sharp wit again! Hahaha!