Who did you consult before choosing your wedding date?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who did you consult before choosing your wedding date?
    parents : (39 votes)
    15 %
    parents and immediate family : (35 votes)
    13 %
    parents, immediate family, and closest friends : (31 votes)
    12 %
    we decided on a date without consulting anyone : (137 votes)
    52 %
    other (explain) : (20 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We told our parents, but I didn’t feel the need to consult anyone since they had almost 2 years notice, it was right here where we live, and even if it was a crazy destination wedding at midnight on a Tuesday… they’re our parents so we knew they’d come. 

    Post # 4
    2800 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We told our parents and would have changed our date if they had a problem with it.  At the same time, we had our date 11 months out.  Most people aren’t planning too much that far out. 

    We did/do have two conflicts that we are sad about, but we know there is no perfect date. 

    Post # 5
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We checked the date with our parents, siblings and officiants. It took us a long time to hear back from 1 officiant, so we ended up letting most of the bridal party know the date before it was official. But we didn’t exactly ask permission. Luckily we didn’t have any conflicts among the VIPs!

    Post # 6
    3846 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @flapperphilosopher:   We live in a university town, and wanted a May or June wedding date, so we checked the graduation dates as well as the local events calendar for other big happenings.  

    Post # 7
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    we consulted our parents and our immediate family members.  my sister lives out of province but comes home to visit at least once a year.  i wanted to confirm with her when she was planning on coming home.  it worked out perfectly.  she actually waited for us to set a date before planning her next trip.

    Post # 8
    983 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We didn’t consult with ANYONE. We were paying for our wedding ourselves so I didn’t feel the need to ask anyone else’s opinion. I did take birthdays & anniversaries in consideration, but that was it.

    Post # 10
    1441 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Our parents made it clear that they would be there whenever we planned it, so we didn’t consult them per se but obvs if they had said from the outset that certain dates were bad, we would have kept that in mind. 

    Post # 11
    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We’re having a long engagement, so we picked our date without consulting anyone. We figured it was far enough in advance that no one would have plans that far out. We did take Easter into consideration though, and picked the following weekend so there wouldn’t be a conflict.

    I did talk to one of my girlfriends though, because she’s in med school out of state, and I wanted to make sure she’d be able to make it to an April wedding because I wanted to ask her to be a bridesmaid…but that was the only person I consulted.

    Post # 12
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Our birthdays are exactly one week apart, so we got married on the Saturday between our two birthdays!

    And we weren’t changing it for ANYONE!

    Post # 13
    3202 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We asked everyone whom we invited to the wedding!

    But we had an intimate wedding, lol. So we asked parents, grandparents, siblings, and the two friends we invited. Everyone was just like, “Oh, whenever! We’ll be there!”

    Post # 14
    1286 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We decided on our date before we were even officially engaged and we didnt consult anyone. We did what worked for us and we gave them 13 months notice. 

    Post # 15
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    We asked the immediate family and bridal party if they had any blackout dates, then chose the date from what the venue had available.

    Post # 16
    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Our caterer and my church. I had an idea of the time of year I wanted (Jan-Feb) and we knew exactly who we wanted to cater. His schedule is tight during those months, and the Church I wanted to get married at doesn’t do weddings during Lent. There were two weekends that lined up perfectly, and we went with the one after the Superbowl  😉

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