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I'm planning to go dress shopping and initially invited my bridesmaids (I have 7), my mom, and FH's mom. Well, then we invited my grandmothers, and a couple aunts. We would have a huge group going shopping. My grandmother suggested I go with my mom alone, and then invite everyone back for a fitting, if necesary. I know that my BMs want to go shopping, and I would hate to cancel on everyone, but now I am thinking about going with just my mom. Anyone have any advice on how to handle, or if I should just go with everyone?
I think it might be best to go with just your mom for the first round so that you can get a feel for what you like and then go with your girls and show them all the great things that found and get their opinion at that point. I hear about a lot of people being persuaded to buy something they don't love because everyone else loved it. So maybe find out what YOU like first!
That just sounds like too many people. There is bound to be conflict and clashing personalities. I would not take more than 2-3 people tops with you. Maybe just your mom, FMIL, and MOH?
i agree with the other posters, that's too many people! my first time i went with my sister and FSIL. i can't imagine having more than 2-3 people there, you'll probably end up confused. go with your mom first to get a more distinct idea of what you like :)
It does sound like way too many people. Too many opinions. Go with someone who is supportive and who's opinion you truly value, but will support you in your choices. For me, this was not my Mom. My MOH was the best pick for dress shopping. I can't imagine having more than 2-3 people there.
I went with my mom and my SIL to be. My plan was to keep it a small group & it worked out perfectly for me. However we did visit Kleinfeld's and as I sat in the waiting room they called in the woman next to me. She got up, then her mom & grandmother and then about 10 other young woman. I'm sure they make up the bridal party but that's a lot of opinions.
I had planned to go with my mother, but she stopped speaking to my shortly after I got engaged. So, I went with various bridesmaids individually and my FMIL. I went alone once and found two dresses that I liked, then brought back 2 bridesmaids, FMIL and FSIL to help me choose. Well, I wound up buying a totally different dress that day, but I will say that I wouldn't have wanted all four of them there when I was first trying dresses on. I recommend going with 1 to 2 people, or even by yourself (which is what Vera Wang recommends, by the way) to get a better idea of what you are looking for. Then, you can always invite a group of people to help you make the final decision. The dress shop will probably appreciate a smaller group too. It can get crazy with too many people.
I went with just my mom and wouldn't have had it any other way. It was so important to me that she was part of the decision, especially because I knew she would give me honest opinions. When I put on the dress that felt like "the one", she had tears in her eyes and it just had the day perfect.
Have fun with the shopping, but definitely limit your group. I wouldn't take anymore than 3 people, max.
When my BFF went dress shopping for her wedding dress she just took me, MOH
I took just my mom. I trust her the most, and she carries my father's checkbook. :p
You are going to take up a LOT of room in that shop, just so ya know. In most of the places i tried on dresses, i'm not sure there was room for that many people!
I just took me and my camera phone, in lieu of my mom who was in Vegas at the time. Less people=more efficient for me and it is TIRING trying on dresses. Man! Whew! If you want, take them somewhere just for fun, but keep that in mind. Do your seriosu dress shopping with someone who's opinion is numero uno.
my sister came in during spring break from out of town (out of state, actually) and went shopping with me =)
I went with 2 of my BMs and my MOH to find the dress, next I'm going to take my mom, aunt, another BM, and my FMIL. I think it's really nice to have already found the dress and it's more like I am taking them to show everyone my dress instead of taking them to find the dress!
Only my mom! I trust her opinion more than anyone- she's always honest with me. If it looks terrible, she'll let me know lol. I don't want dress regret, so I don't need someone blowing hot air telling me I look good when I don't.
10+ people... oh my! If you want my expert opinion (as an avid Say Yes to the Dress viewer!) I think that it may quickly become a 3 ring circus. You may end up with a dress that everyone else likes & not what you want. Or you may also find all their opinions to be disheartening. What if you LOVE a dress, but 12 of them hate it? Could you stand up to all of them?
i went completely alone the first time just to get an idea of what kind of dress i felt amazing in...and i was totally suprised by what i found, too! after that i went with my mom, then my mom and my bff to try on THE dress. also, the dress shop where i found "the one" at was not the shop i ended up ordering my dress from. i ended up going back to the shop that was the absolute nicest to me on the day i went shopping alone (they also offered me the best price). a few places didn't seem to take me very seriously when i was alone and well, i guess that was their loss ;-)
I went with my mom, sister and sister and law the first time. Then just with my mom the next two times. I agree that it's best not to go with too many people. A small group of trusted friends/family is perfect for honest opinions without too much undesired input.
That sounds like a LOT of people at the bridal salon with you! And keep in mind, that the more people you have there (especially relatives) the more opinions that you'll have to deal with. I'm sure that they all want to go along, but I think that a smaller, more intimate group might be best until you know what type/style of dresses that YOU like...otherwise you'll run the risk of getting something that everyone else likes. Or there will be too many opinions to deal with and you'll be frustrated trying to deal with them all...
I went alone...then later took mom. Then later took my Maids.
I went with my sister/MOH and my mom. When I decided to change my mind and buy a new dress.... I brought my sister and bridesmaid the first time and my mom and FMIL right before I bought the dress. I think dress shopping can be a bit overwhelming. There are so many styles and (for me) they started looking the same after a while. When I went dress shopping the first time, my mom and sister wrote down all the styles and were pretty attentive so that they remembered what looked good and what didn't. I think with a larger group it may be hard for everyone to focus on the task at hand. Good luck! and Enjoy it!
you'll likely go more than 1x. break the group to smaller ones for the different outings. it'll be much more manageable! else everyone will have a different opinion and it'll drive you nuts.
I took my mom and my MOH. I will take my sisters and FMIL to a fitting. way too many opinions for the initial trip. Take your mom and then someone who can be brutally honest and you have similar taste with.
Good luck!!
I took my MOH, Mom and FMIL. It was nice to have a handful of opinions (and my MOH to help me change dresses) but not be overwhelmed by a TON of people with very different opinions.
Good luck on finding your dress!
I agree that it's easier to shop with fewer people (and fewer opnions). The first few times I went out, I went with just my sister. After I had already found a contender (which ended up being the dress I bought), I went back out with my mom. We looked at lots of other dresses before I showed her the one I eventually bought. For me, it was easier to focus on if *I* liked the dress with only one other person there. I tend to be influenced a lot by other people's opinions, so I didn't think I would be able to choose with 4 or 5 friends around.
Agree, that's a lot of people! There might not even be enough room for everyone in whatever room/area they put you in.
I took my mom and my sister at first. Then once I bought my dress, I brought my mom, sister, godmother, cousin (one of my BMs), and FMIL to see the dress. And even that was a lot of people!
Hmmm...I went with my MOH, 2 BMs, my cousin, a friend, and my mom. I had "the more the merrier" idea. I think that it was easy for me because they came to a group opinion quickly or I quickly vetoed dresses. I'm not easily swayed by other's opinions so it was a lot of fun to have everyone around.
However, the second (and ultimately final) time, I went with my mom only. I put on the dress, and I was done. Easy.
Good luck with finding your dress!
The bridal salons agree that fewer people is easier on the bride. Take one or two trusted, supportive people. I took my MOH, who happens to be a 6'2" german fellow (hey, that's how we roll) who was absolutely great about telling me his opinion on dresses, being supportive, and doing obligatory ooing and aahing.
I'm going this weekend with just my sister. I will go back later with my mom and my sister. For me, I want my first time dress shopping to be with just my sister because she'll be the most helpful and the least likely one to try to influence me to like something I don't!
I brought my mom and my maid of honor who actually works in a bridal salon. I think bringing along all of your bridesmaids as well as family can get too chaotic. That's alot of differing opinions! I would just consider bringing along your mom and a close friend for the initial trip. If you decide on a dress then maybe you can bring some others in to see it.
I went with a huge group also (but maybe still not that big)
There were 2 brides and we are eachother's MOHs, one dual BM, her other BM, her Mom, my Mom and my FMIL.
It was great - I loved having a big group but I am very particular of what I want - if you think you will be persuaded by others than go with a smaller group and take the BMs back once you have found the one!
I'm the jerk who went by myself. I figured it'd be less of a hassle to deal with people's snarky opinions of what I liked, so I narrowed it down on my own. Strangely though, the dress I just ordered happened on a whim when I went with ONE friend to help her pick out HER wedding dress. She made me try some on and I bought the second one I tried on.. which I LOVED!
I brought everyone at first then just went back by myelf every other time and evenutally bought the dress alone. It took me a while to realize exactly what type of dress I was looking for and it's very hard to think when you've got all those people there for a show. It's fun though and a right of passage to bring everyone dress shopping - don't cancel on anyone! I say the more the merrier at least once, but don't expect to buy your dress that day.
Have fun!!
You can take whoever you want too. Take the people you want by your side when you find that perfect dress. As for me, I only took my mom and my bridesmaids.
Some places can be packed so you would want to limit the number of people. I am sure the bridal salon would prefer it to be a small number too. I actually took my Mom, my sister (MOH) and my flower girl. That was more than enough opinions that I needed to make my decision. Ultimately, you can take whomever you want.
I went with my Mom, FMIL, Maid and Matron of Honor, and one other BM. Yes it was a lot of people (and my Kleinfeld gal had a look of absolute horror on her face when she saw my group) however for me it was fine because, to be honest, when it comes to the dress and certain other things that I feel should reflect my personal aesthetic, I don't give a s**t about other people's opinions if they run counter to my own. When I told Renee at Kleinfeld that she was like "I'm in love with you."
If you tend to be a pushover or don't hold your own opinions very strongly, don't take a lot of people. If you could care less and would stand up to a small army of negativity if you knew you found "the one," then take whomever you want. Keep in mind there may not be space in the shop for a ton of people, though. Depends where you're going. All my girls and FMIL stood out in the hall and only Mom was in the room with me.
I would recommend doing whatever makes you happy; this your special time! But you def. have to take mom and grandmom (if she wants to go) because this is also a very special time for them too!
I went once with my friends, then I went with just my mom!
Sometimes taking everyone can make things really confusing. Everyone always has an opinion and if you are easily persuaded like me, it can create problems. So have fun with it and go more then once.
This is a question that's been on my mind too as looking for the dress is coming up on my list.
I definitely want to bring my Mom...and I have 5 bridesmaids. Plus I have about 4 other good girlfriends that have mentioned they'd love to come too. How to choose? Even out of the 5 BM's how do you choose without hurting feelings? Ahhhh. Maybe nybride09 is right and bring small different groups each time you go...
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