Post # 1
I’m just curious as to who you took all took with you when your found your beautiful dress?
I’m heading out next week friday (eek!) and I know I’m having my family (big. mom, stepmom, 3 sisters), but I’m also debating whether or not I should invite my best friend and ‘co-maid-of-honour’.
Do you regret who you took? Or was it just right?
Post # 3
I just went with my mom. My one local BM came to 2 shops with us (we went to 4 total). To me it was just right. I don’t need an audience. It was nice to just have the day with my mom… especially since we live a few hours apart and she isn’t as involved in planning as she’d like.
Post # 4
I took absolutely no one and I am so glad that I did. I’m not the type that needs validation from other people as to how I look in something (hello Say Yes to the Dress girls who love the dress, then look longingly at their best friend/ mother/ etc to agree). Note: This isn’t a knock on the OP or anyone in the thread who takes people with them. I was thinking about taking a girlfriend or look who wanted to go with me, but decided against it because I didn’t want them making it about them, which it seems like so many people do. I didn’t want anyone else’s opinion.
I went to 2 different stores. The second store, I found my perfect dress. I emailed my mom a picture from the designer’s website and then she bought it for me. The dress was perfect for me and I absolutely loved it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
oh my gosh I took everyone – my mom, my step mom and little sister, Mr. HC’s mom and sister, my cousin, my great aunt, my aunt (but she couldn’t come last minute) and two close friends. It was an army! It worked for me but I’ll admit I was nervous about it beforehand!
Post # 6
I went by myself. My parents and sister/BM live 8 hours away, while my MOH is a 5-hour flight. It was still enjoyable for me, and because I didn’t have a crowd to contend with, the fittings went a lot faster. If I didn’t like a dress, it came off as soon as I saw myself in the mirror. There was no second guessing, no asking for validation.
Post # 7
I took a friend to take pictures at my first stop and then went by myself for the second stop. I found the dress at the second stop and needed a little verification, so I took my boss (I work in a costume shop) and when she started gasping I knew I had the right dress!
Post # 8
The first time, I took my mom only (MOH/ sister didn’t want to go).
Second time (when I first tried on ‘the one’), I was with my mom and BM.
The third time (I went back to try on and order ‘the one’), I was with my mom, my sister and FMIL (she cried! so sweet).
I am very close with my mom and feel lucky that she has made sure that she is available for me when I want/ need her.
Post # 9
I took my mom and MOH, and my officiant (another best girlfriend) and one of our groomsmen (with fabulous taste) came with me to pick it up.
Post # 10
I took my mom and my sister (my MOH). I knew they would be honest and let me know what they thought looked good or not. But of course, my mom isn’t one to pull any punches with comments about weight, lol, so I was definitely nervous, but it was a lot of fun and we all enjoyed it. We actually found my dress that first time!
Post # 11
My mom, her best friend and my maid of honor. When we had fittings I brought my grandmother too because i wanted her to be included and see the dress also!
Post # 12
The first two times I only took my Mom. My Dad came to Kleinfeld’s in the city too & then the 3 of us went to dinner.
I meant to bring a few others to more appointments (FMIL, FSIL, 2MOH’s) but I ended up buying one of the first gowns I tried on so there were no other appointments.
Post # 13
I only went with my mom and I am so happy that I did. Having too many people there may make the whole experience too stressful.
Post # 14
I went by myself because I can be easily influenced by others. Plus, it was last minute, so no one could get off from work anyway. Honestly, I don’t regret it because no one saw my dress until it was fitted to me.
Post # 15
The very first time (when I didn’t expect to find my dress) I took my MOH and my BM. It was a very special moment 🙂 Then later I took FMIL and my mother back with me to look at it.
Post # 16
I have had a few shopping experiences, so maybe the variety can help you!
First time shopping, I took my bridesmaid FSIL who is only 16. She was bored in between while I was changing, but she loved seeing the dresses, and she is very honest and open with her opinion. We had a blast, but I didn’t find the one that day. Tried on some dresses that helped me shape my vision, though. Great for having fun and getting ideas but probably not the kind of companion to take for a serious “buy the dress right now and decide” trip.
I went another time with my mom. She and I have an awkward relationship that has since then deteriorated quite a bit, so replace “mom” here with any person you feel obligated towards but may not truly value his or her opinion. I ended up being influenced by emotions, and I bought a dress that I almost immediately regreted and would not have bought had I been alone. Oh, well! I have since sold it and am still trying to find the right one.
So I went another time with my self-proclaimed “straight, gay friend.” He is straight but has hoards of female friends, and we are pretty close. That was one of the best times because he brought a book and did his own thing while I was changing and talking with the sales consultant. He then offered some good though surprising opinions, which were kind of nice to hear because I considering him an unbiased source. So, take away from this that you if you take someone for opinions, make sure it is someone who you trust to tell the truth and not what you want to hear. I was cooing over an A-line lace dress, and while he liked it, I was really surprised that his favorite was a slim sweetheart with ruching. I consider myself plank-line and hadn’t taken it too seriously before that.
And finally, I have gone alone. Right after I bought the first dress, I needed to go alone and clear my head. It was my way of reaffirming that I could find something that would make me feel good. I prefer to do my serious clothes shopping alone anyway, so this made sense for me. I am presently looking onlined for used dresses, so it will be alone if I find it that way, too.