Post # 1
Mother?? SO? MIL?
I was thinking about this other day and had mentioned to my Darling Husband then when I have a child, I would like it to be just him, my mother, and my grandmother. He said that he would want his parents in there as well but I do not think I would be comfortable with that. What about you?
Post # 3
It will be Darling Husband, DS, and my mom here at the house… along with my midwife of course and POSSIBLY our friend/photographer for some birthing photographs.The only other person I could think of may be my best friend b/c she’d be a great help with DS… I’m sure my sis won’t be here b/c 1. she lives oot and 2. she’s not very helpful or nice sometimes. lol
Otherwise I want a relaxed atmosphere and so there is NO WAY his mom or any other family will be here.
Post # 4
Just my husband was in the delivery room with me with baby #1, and that’s what we’ll do for baby #2, as well. Although I’d love for our daughter to be there when her sister/brother is born, hospital policy requires that all guests be over the age of 16. 🙁
Post # 5
@runsyellowlites: It’s so great that your son will be there to witness his sibling’s birth. 🙂 Such a great family moment!
Post # 6
I would definitely NOT be comfortable with anyone from my dh’s family there during delivery, but that’s probably more a reflection of the dynamics of my relationships with them than a general rule about whether in-laws should be there.
Besides my husband, I plan to have my mother there and maybe a friend…
Post # 7
I’m not sure yet. Both of our mothers have already asked and it doesn’t help on his side that BIL and his wife pretty much didn’t care who was in there. I’m torn between having my husband, my husband and mother, and my husband and both of our mothers.
I’m still not sure what I’m going to do. I’m worried that the more people that are in there, the more I’ll stress out. The flip side is that my mother and his have been through this and may be helpful, but there’s no guaranteeing they’ll be helpful instead of stressful. So I’m leaning towards just my husband.
Edit: I do have a pretty good relationship with his mother and she pretty much never oversteps boundaries so I know she wouldn’t be too overbearing. I just tend to not like too many different personalities in one room.
Post # 8
I’m not pregnant or even close to TTC, but as I see it now, prob only my husband. Everyone else can wait for the phone call or in the waiting room! Too intimate of a moment 🙂
Post # 9
@Mrs. Spring: I’m SO excited for it! But also kinda freaked b/c with DS only 7 he’s been pretty “sheltered”…. I was just thinking about it yesterday how to explain childbirth to a kid! eek! lol He’s really excited about being a big brother though so I’m happy he’ll be part of it and be able to see a how awesome & natural birth can be! *eek*
Post # 10
@runsyellowlites: Maybe start preparing him now for what the experience will be like? I remember seeing a book on Amazon a while back that was more matter-of-fact about the actual process of childbirth. It’s a little too old for my daughter, but might be a good place start with your son. Let me see if I can find it…
ETA: This is the one I was thinking about. They have a whole series, but this is the book that talks about how babies are made, how birth works, etc…
Post # 11
I don’t mind if our parents want to come visit while we’re getting set up in the room, but as far as when I’m actually pushing a human out, only my husband will be in the room. I would MAYBE consider my mom, but that’s a big maybe. I prefer just my husband be there.
Post # 12
It will be only me and my husband. My Mother-In-Law hinted about wanting to be there, but I shut that down immediately. My Mom actually believes that only the husband should be in the room, she finds it odd that anyone would even want their mom there to witness something so personal (LOL), so that makes it easy!
Post # 13
That was actually a point of contention between the two of us because husband wanted to be the only one in the room, and I wanted my mom there. He relented and said he didn’t care if she was there, but it was a moot point because I ended up having an emergency c section. It was just me, my husband, and like 3 nurses, the anesthetist, 2 doctors, a couple nurse’s assistants, and maybe a few cafeteria employees as well (okay, not really, but it was a full house). Not the most pleasant birthing experience, but it was over quick. My parents drove up the next day. Husband’s family waited until we were home to visit.
Post # 14
i would never in a million years allow anyone other than my husband in the room.
in fact, i want a couple hours with just my husband and the baby before anyone even visits. we both have huge families and it is hard to get privacy… i am going to be very firm about it this time though.
Post # 15
When the time comes it will just be me and Darling Husband. I wouldn’t mind my mother but he refuses to have anyone but the two of us which is fine. I would never consider having any of my inlaws in the room.
Post # 16
Just me and Darling Husband and the midwife.
I’m already annoyed with people telling me about my pregnancy, labor, and raising of the child as it is. I couldn’t imagine if someone said something slightly off to me during the process. I would probably cut them out of my life forever.