who didn't change their last name?

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I kept my name. Everyone always asks for a “reason” which seems like it’s supposed to be a “justification”, but I just didn’t want to change it. I like my name and I never thought I should have to change it just because I’m getting married. My name is a big part of who I am, and I’m so relieved that I kept it. It doesn’t make our marriage any less real. No regrets here!

 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I didn’t, 36 years and 4 months ago. A lot of the women I went to college with (in the 70s) didn’t either. It simply didn’t make any sense to me. My best friend from high school didn’t either – birds of a feather flock together?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I didn’t change my name. My reason is I never felt that a woman should change her name simply because she got married. I don’t think a woman should be expected to do something because of marriage that a man won’t do even though he is capable. Just doesn’t seem fair to me. But yes, I have had to put up with a lot of people asking why.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Where I live married women keep their original names no matter what since like 20 yrs ago… but I might marry in the States so I could change it, but I won’t cause I like my name and not so my FI’s family name, which sounds like a bad word in my mother tongue lool…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I’m on the fence about this. I like FIs name a lot, but I’ve established myself using my name ( from my previous marriage). Plus changing everything over could be a real pain. Why should I have to change? 

Post # 7
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801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t and have no plans to. I’ve gotten some raised eyebrows and one co-worker who tried to “set me straight”. It was a decision I made a long time ago which my husband supports and that’s what matters to me. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard

I can’t decide if I am going to hyphenate or not, but I am not changing my name. I like my name. It is a rare family name.

I just don’t know if hyphenating will be a huge pain in the butt, namely with databases trying to figure out to look up under my name or his. 

Also, I guess then for any monogrammed stuff I’d stick to his last name? No idea. 

Any thoughts on the matter would be appreciated.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m torn on this issue. My FI wants me to change my name and I would like to have the same last name as potential children. But I’m 36 and am known in my field with my maiden name. My mom surprised me and wants me to keep my maiden name. Big part of that is that its my dad’s last name and he died 20 years ago. I’m thinking of hyphenating.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I’m not changing my name. Everyone is entitled to what they want, but I feel like it personally shows I still have an identity outside the couple. I was Ms. Rachel _______ for 28 years, I don’t feel like I have to become Mrs. Matt ====== just to prove my commitment.

Post # 11
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1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I did not chnage my last name.  I like my last name alot.

Post # 12
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173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

As a professional with papers published in my pre-marital surname, I didn’t chage mine. I don’t know a single professional woman in my field that did either. The kids will have his name though and I’ll probably take him name in social settings, informally.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

JazzyGirl85:  I didn’t. Honestly speaking, I was so excited to change my name, and I didn’t give it a second thought. About a year after I was married, I still hadn’t changed my name, and when I was going about getting everything in order to do so, it just didn’t feel right. My last name is long and un pronouncable, but it’s mine, and I can’t imagine not having it now.

 

 

Post # 14
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

There’s so much pressure on women to have an excuse…published papers, professional identity, rare name, whatever. F that noise. We don’t need excuses. I didn’t change my name because I didn’t want to, and I’m going to need a better reason than “tradition” before doing something I don’t want to do. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t change my name! My husband was very supportive. In fact, a future kid will probably have my last name! I like my name. I didn’t feel the need to have the same name as my husband. and I have degrees and am published under my name. Works for us!

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