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I live in Vegas with 3 of my BM's and the other 3 including my MOH lives in San Diego. The girls in SD suggested that I and the other 3 BM's go to SD for the parties since it will be less costly for us to go there. I also dreamt of going to Mexico or Miami for my bachelorette party but due to the hard economical times right now, my wishes can't be granted. No worries... I'm not mad about that. Only because I live in Vegas already and I want to party somewhere else. Although I'd rather party in Vegas then San Diego. I mean the clubs there close at 2AM as oppose to Vegas 24 Hours. Well, I've agreed to going there just as long as my parties will be lots of fun! I'm pretty sure it will cause my family is crazily fun. My family loves to drink and party and yes, we are still young. In which I don't have any hesitation inviting my friends to join and they are also up for anything. I am hesitating on inviting my future in-laws. They're a bit older, they have kids, their partying days are over and I highly doubt they will travel for me to SD. The in-laws live in Vegas too so it shouldn't be a big deal.

Do I invite the in-laws and hope that they will come even though I feel there is a 99% chance they will not make it. It would suck that they missed out on my shower and bachelorette party. I'm hoping they will throw me a shower here in Vegas if they miss out and that way it will include all of his family members. I mean some people have more than one showers sometimes, right. 

I anticipate about 150 guests. Which consist of all family members and about 30 friends for both FI and I. 

Do I invite all the females attending the wedding to my parties since it's mostly family? That will be like a mini-wedding in itself. Lol 

How do you determine your guest list for your parties.

My FI says to just invite his mom, sisters and in-laws and if they don't go, they don't go. He also says he's sure they will throw us a couples shower if they can't make it to your "naughty parties" in San Diego.  

Sorry for the long post. I'm just a confused bride! 

Yes, bridal shower in the day time and bachelorette party at night. I'm positive they won't attend the bachelorette party but perhaps the bridal shower. Is that customary to not to invite the in-laws? His sisters aren't bridesmaid but they will be sponsors (god parents - Filipino Tradition). Well I definitely don't want to start any drama for not inviting them. Maybe I'll just include them in the invite anyway but do I include my FI aunts & FI cousins (Groomsman) girlfriend?