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Thanksgiving I try to go up to my Mom's place (it's a fair distance away). FI doesn't bother coming & that's fine with both of us.
Christmas I always spend with FI's family. FIL literally lives in the next building over, so we go over in the morning, open gifts, laze about, have dinner & then go home. It's nice and simple and very, very relaxing. I love it. :)
I voted that we try to visit all of our family on the holiday. We live very close to the FIL's and about 3 hours away from my parents. For Thanksgiving we will spend the actual holiday with his parents and then on Friday we will drive to my parents' house and spend the weekend with my family. For Christmas we drive up and spend Xmas Eve and Xmas morning with my family then drive down to his parents' for Xmas dinner.
It kinda stinks having to travel so much, especially ON Christmas Day, but we are thankful that all of our family are at least driving distance apart.
Christmas Eve my parents and aunt are driving into town. We spend it with them and DH's immediately family with a nice dinner, TBD at this point (i hope we go out, frankly), about 30 min away.
Christmas Morning: I'll make breakfast and we'll do Christmas with just my immediate family (mom/dad/aunt)
Christmas afternoon: We go to DH's aunt and uncle's house for the big extended family Christmas (about 30 min from us)
I'm clicking other--we partially host I guess.
We're hosting this year - Christmas eve and Christmas day. One side of his family will come Christmas eve, one side will come Christmas day along with my parents. I'm glad... because visiting 4 different houses on Christmas eve/day was tiring!
We usually spend each holiday with my family and then go to his house for dessert. For Christmas since there are two days we do Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas day with his.
Typically we spend Christmas with my family and Thanksgiving with his. My FI doesn't have the greatest relationship with his mother/parents, so he says he prefers to be with my family at Christmas anyway. For New Years we have sometimes gone back to his hometown, and sometimes not. As long as we've been dating we have lived in a separate city from both families, and our parents houses are about 6 hours away from each other. So we really can't just spot at one house then another for a single holiday. We've never hosted any holidays, but still have sort of temporary living situations (apartments we don't plan on staying at for long).
I checked other. Basically we just decide that holidays occur when we say they occur and involve whatever traditions we say they involve. We don't celebrate Christmas, but we do tend to be around that time of year. Both our families celebrate Thanksgiving and Hannukah, but we tend to be out of town on our own for those.
When we lived closer to home, though, and could see everyone at Thanksgiving, we told my parents to move Thanksgiving to Saturday. So we could go to my fiance's family, my brother could go to his girlfriend's family, and then we could reconvene on Saturday for Thanksgiving 2. Now we have Christmakkagiving though we don't call it that, when we go over to my parents' for Christmas, but we make Thanksgiving food instead, and exchange Hannukah gifts.
we are having Christmas and Thanksgiving with ourselves.. :P.... because our families are too far away to celebrate with them.
We planned on driving the 3 hours to his parents house to do Thanksgiving with them on the Sunday, and Monday with mine (we're in Canada), but his dad called and said they just got a small turkey so not to bother coming. FI was hurt because we thought it was just going to be the two of them , but his sister, husband and nephews were with them.
Last Christmas we spent Christmas eve and morning with my family, and drove after lunch up to his parents for Christmas dinner and a few days rest. Only to discover that their turkey was done cooking an hour early so they already ate so they wouldn't have to eat dry turkey...
This year we'll be spending the week before with his family and after opening presents and breakfast driving back home to have dinner with mine.
My family also does a big New Years Day dinner every year, and his doesn't.
Thanksgiving: My family the day of, his the day after (next year it'll probably be reversed)
Christmas Eve: His parents & also his dad's family
Christmas Morning: His parents and sister and his mom's family
Christmas Evening/Late Night: My family (since I only have Aunts & Uncles/Cousins/Grandparents on my Mom's side - they all are together).
We do it differently every single year. This year, we're splitting up: I'm flying home to be with my family (thanks for the plane ticket, mom!) and he's going on a ski trip with his parents.
We spend Eve with one family and Day with the other.
This year, we spent Thanksgiving Eve with his family and Thanksgiving Day with mine, and we'll be spending Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with his. Next year, we'll switch.
I. HATE. THIS.
My family celebrates the actual day of in their individual nuclear units... and there's usually a big shindig sometime around the holiday (which I never attended b'cuz my entire family's in Korea *sad panda*). But my FMIL wants us to spend both Eve AND Day with her family... oh wait, just her. It's always all about her. Even when we won't budge on the compromise, she throws a tantrum and ruins the time we actually do spend with her. I hate her.
I can't wait until we host Thanksgiving for both families, and then spend Christmas BY OURSELVES!
His family lives across the country, and my family lives about three hours away, so we spend time with my family. He also isn't that close with his family, and I'm very tight with mine; it's nothing personal towards his family, but it only makes sense for us.
Well, I'm not spending time with his family due to his mother. =/
So, he went over to his parents for Thanksgiving without me, I spent it alone cleaning the apartment. I fully intend to plan a little better next year. My family doesn't celebrate any holidays due to religious views.
For Christmas we are getting together with our college friends who don't have family in the area. One is from Africa, and his gf's parents hate him for being an atheist. So, we are going to include him. :)
I really think it will be a lot of fun. We really don't have a determined plan, but we will figure it out.
Almost all of my family lives across the country and we're not in a position to visit them, so we spend both Thanksgiving and Christmas with his family (the former at his aunt's house, the latter at his brother's). Although this year, my favorite sister in law and her daughters will be staying at home (which is on our way to his brother's house), so we're going to leave a couple days early and spend a few days with them before driving on to BIL's house on Christmas Eve. I'm so excited!
We have both of our families over for all holidays. Our house is a good size, so we can accommodate everyone. Not that our families are huge. With everyone, we have 15 people (inc. us and if SIL has a boyfriend). We established that the first year we bought our house! It's been going on for 8 years and everyone seems to enjoy it! We're so lucky in the sense that we don't have to travel hither and yon during the holidays. I love hosting the holidays!
We spend Thanksgiving with my dad's side of the family- doing yardwork on my 92 year old Grandmother's farm.
BF is Polish, so his family always has Christmas Eve. (His mother is always VERY insistant on it. I don't know why, but even though we've spend every Christmas Eve with his family for the last 5 years, she always feels the need to remind me that I am expected there.) We spend Christmas Day with my mom's side of the family.
I feel really lucky that it works out so well for us!!
His family is Jewish so we spend Thanksgiving with them and we spend Christmas morning with my mom and Christmas evening with my dad and stepmom
Thanksgiving: His
Easter: Mine
Christmas Eve/Christmas Morning: His
Christmas Afternoon/Evening: Mine
Plus whatever extended family parties we can get to and they are on a "first to tell us gets us" basis. It's too complicated with 4 family gatherings, plus work banquets, friend things, etc.
My personal opinion is that family Christmas gatherings should be spread out throughout the whole month so that everyone can go to everyones parties! It makes sense, but my family all think it's silly to do that, and instead crowd 4 parties into 1 weekend. FI and I already decided that when our kids grow up, we'll just have Christmas early so they can all come!
This year will be different since we've moved out of state, so we're going to my grandparents and my parents will also come out.
For the last several years we've tried to see everyone. We'd do Christmas Eve with his Dad & Stepmom, then most of Christmas Day with his Mom, then Christmas dinner/night with my parents. We did it similar for Thanksgiving, spending the day before with his Dad, day of with his Mom and then dinner with my family. It's about 1 1/2 hours between his family and mine, so it wasn't bad.
We visit with both sides of the family on Christmas. Unfortunately, this year there is a time overlap and I think my parents are going to lose the battle, so we'll be spending more time with FI's fam than mine. We'll just compensate by doing the opposite next year :)
Mr.TKE's parents are still married, mine have been divorced since I was 1.
We celebrate Mr.TKE's Christmas either before or after (this year on the 19th).
We celebrate with my mom and her family on the 24 (evening, I work a.m.).
We celebrate with my father and his family on the 25 (basically all day :/).
...As for the rest of the holiday's, we try to split them as much as possible... this year we were at his parents for New Years/Chritmas on the first, mother's day at his, and we'll be there on the 19 (they live 5 hours away).
...We were at Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve with my mom.
...We were at Father's day and Christmas Day with my father.
FI's bday is Christmas Eve, so the whole family is usually together anyway. Christmas day we might do sometime separate in the morning, but again my mom and sister, and his family will gather in the same house for dinner. Our extended families live in other parts of Canada, so it's usually the 8 of us together!
UGH we have to go to both his parents and mine and it is a pain in the ass! My parents are moving 2000 miles away the week after Christmas and I'm hoping that next holiday season we only have to go to one parent's house. We can't really do both his parents who live close to us and my parents who will live 2000 miles away.
actually, my DH and I are hoping to move away from here by next Christmas too, so I really am hoping this is the last holiday we have to squeeze in both families. It is a pain because we always had to do both families on Thanksgiving and both again on Christmas. IT'S. JUST. TOO. MUCH.
I would love to host the holidays at our house and have them all come to us but DH says his family just won't do that. They have their tradition of going to his parent's house, even though it's a tiny 1500 sq foot house (that his mom smokes in too) and they expect all 14 of us to spend the night there and share 1 bathroom. I absolutely hate being that close to all those people for that long. I prefer smaller crowds.
Holidays are spent with my family because his live in a different state and it isn't pheasable for us to travel to see them.
The holidays are always a scheduling nightmare for us. Typically we do Christmas Eve with my family and then Christmas Day with his mother and grandparents. After that we hop in the car and drive to MN for a visit with only 1/2 of my extended family. Ack, we don't even see his extended family.
This year is been the worst. We had "Thanksmas" with my extended family on Thanksgiving Day. It was great except we got engaged 2 weeks later and I probably won't see them again until this summer. Then his grandparents tell us they are refusing to come down for Christmas and they want us to visit in Jan. We're both really unhappy with this and are trying to strategize better for next year.
Sorry I ranted a bit 
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We try to alternate Christmas with my family every other year (his family lives 10 min away and mine is a 9 hour drive). It kinda sucks because we spend so much more of the holidays with his family than mine but I guess that's how it goes.
we rotate between Thanksgiving and Christmas. If we do thanksgiving at my parents than we to Christmas at his. And the following year we switch.
We used to rotate, but dont anymore. My partners parents have been separated since he was 2 & his mom lives like 2000 miles away--plus we moved even further north and now have to travel to see anyone.
SO we just do xmas with ourselves & extend the invitation to our family and friends--we dont really expect anyone to make the trip to come see us, but in the same breath we sneakily hope that if they think US too far away that they will see the same is true for us to venture out to see them.
Thanksgiving; His family comes to my family's home for dinner
Christmas Eve: We go to my family's house
Christmas Day: We go to his family's house
My BF is looking over my shoulder, and he says, "I would guess that we're probably going to rotate. That's what my family does." We're still trying to figure it out, though. My family is a thousand miles away, and we've almost never done the holidays with the extended family. His whole massive family is somewhat local, though. Thus, we really have three families we'll need to rotate: my family (and, if we do extended, my dad's side, since my mom's parents are dead), his father's family, and his mother's family. It's made more difficult by the distance between us and my family. I'm sure we'll figure it out, though!
this christmas we are running away to a south pacific tropical island - just the 2 of us :)
When i move we'll be around the corner from all his family. So we will have to fly home too see mine. I guess we'll work it out next year, this year we did thanksgiving at his family's and he will do christmas eve with his family and fly up for christmas ( CANT WAIT)
I voted other. We usually spend the holidays with my family, because his mother doesn't celebrate holidays for religious reasons. So it works out pretty well ;)
With my family, basically because i can't stand his family. And try as i may I can't stand being around them, and i refuse to stress myself out.
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we're kind of down to the wire planning the holidays. how do all of you divide your time so you get to spend time together & see your families for holidays?