Post # 1
I’ve never been much of a gift giver to my family because I’ve never been in the financial situation to do so. Now I have a much better job and would like to give more gifts, but I’m curious about who most people include in regular gifting?
I have 1 sister who is married with 6 small children. I have always gotten my niece and nephews Christmas presents, but have just started sending birthday presents as well. If I do that, is it expected that I send my sister and her husband birthday gifts as well?
FI has 2 siblings, but neither of them have partners or children yet. If we send gifts to my side if the family, should we do the same for his?
Post # 3
For FI’s side, we just do his immediate family and the little kids. My side is much smaller, so I do small birthday and Christmas for everyone, larger gifts for immediate family.
Post # 4
@sweet5k: I don’t think it’s expected that you give gifts to your siblings even if you give their kids gifts. And unless your husband wants to or your inlaws somehow know your family and that you buy for them I see no reason you “need to” if you don’t want to.
Generally I buy for those adults who buy for me.
Post # 5
When we first got together, DH bought for his siblings, their spouses and their kids for birthday and Christmas. My family only does gifts for kids for birthday/Christmas. Now his family operates like mine, no gifts for adults for Christmas/Birthday, only the kids. On both sides we go out to dinner for adults birthdays.
Also, if I see something I know one of the kids will like, I just pick it up. I just sent them all Valentine’s Day cards, since kids never get mail they love getting things in the mail.
Post # 6
Kids are different. I get my friend’s children little treats all the time, but I rarely get something for them. Mosly because I know they don’t need more “stuff” and becuase the gifts for the children are under $5 and most adult under $5 are either lotion, candles or garbage.