(Closed) Who do you invite to the bridal shower?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I only invited my girlfriends, including some friends that I wasnt as close with then as I am now. I also invited all of DHs aunts and a few of his cousins. I invited all of my aunts and my older cousins (old enough to attend bridal shower). That was it though. I didnt invite girlfriends or wives of DHs groomsmen. I wanted it to be personal and comfortable!

Post # 4
1696 posts
Bumble bee

For whom are you holding the shower? Not for yourself, presumably, since people don’t arrange to have themselves showered with gifts.

Showers should be small, fun events where the guestlist is strictly limited to people whom you know so very well, that you can guess ahead of time that they actually WANT to give presents to the bride-to-be. If someone makes it clear to you as hostess, that they want to be included in the shower even if they are not invited to the wedding, then you may invite that person. If you have any reason to think that a lady might be resentful or feel put-upon or obligated or burdened by having to give yet another gift or by incurring yet another cost, then you should avoid even mentioning the shower to that person.

It is quite alright for different unconnected groups of friends to hold separate showers for the bride. If anyone feels left out, they are perfectly welcome to host a shower themselves. But no-one should ever be put in a position where they feel obligated to give a shower gift.

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