Post # 1
I am up in the air as to who to invite to the grooms dinner-
I have seen them done where ONLY the immediate people involved in the ceremony that day (parents, bridal party, officiant, etc….) attended.
I have seen it where basically everyone involved in ceremony, plus close family, plus SO’s of bridal party, plus out-of towners, etc…..were all invited.
Here’s my dilema: We do not have enough $$ to take EVERYONE out to dinner- the least we could get away with if we invited bridal party and SO’s is about 35 people.
Our house- while pleny big enough for us- is NOT big enough to properly host 35 people for a meal- especially beause this will be in November, so we can’t take advantage of the yard. With our yard, this would be no problem- we actually have a double lot!
My mom has offered to host, but she has a tendency to act too formal when she hosts- and it literally makes me feel uncomfortable. She doesn’t mingle, and if you didn’t actually know her/who she was- you’d never guess she was my mom come the day of the party. Gross.
My dad and stepmom is an option- and I don’t want to get into that right now- but I guess what I’d really like to TRY and do- is do this independently.
My mom has expressed that she feels there needs to be some sort of rehearsal, and with that comes a dinner. So anyt thoughts- ideas-
Most importantly, who are you inviting to YOUR dinner?
Post # 3
@MrsEME: We did everyone becuase we had a lot of OOT guests, but my in laws also hosted it. Had they not hosted it, and we would have ahd to do it ourselves I probably would have just opted to invite our parents, wedding party and SO’s and leave it at that. I think the parents need to be included.
Post # 4
We did BBQ at a public park near our ceremony site, and we invited everyone who was going to the wedding!
Post # 5
What’s the groom’s dinner? Like the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 6
@vorpalette: Good question.!!!
@MrsEME: What is a groom dinner?
Post # 8
I’ve never heard of a grooms dinner.
Post # 9
@oxstardust421xo: people call its groom’s dinner or rehearsal dinner here….so yeah, rehearsal LOL
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Sounds like a rehearsal dinner to me.
For ours FI’s mother is paying for it and we rented a private room at a local restaurant. We are inviting mostly the people who will be at the rehearsal plus their +1’s for bridal party, our siblings who are not in the wedding, my grandparents who are traveling from England to be here for our wedding, and maybe a few more close relatives who have been very involved in someway with helping us coordinate our day. We can have up to 50 people in the room we rented.
Post # 11
@MrsEME: We are having way too many out of towners to host all of them so we are doing bridal party plus SO’s parents and my grandparents
Post # 12
oh rehearsal dinner! We are inviting the entire wedding party plus their SOs and anyone (family mostly) that is coming into town that night. We have around 40 people total. We are doing a pig pickin at my parents neighborhoods club house and a pool party! super fun and casual evening. The catering is only $8 pp!!
Post # 13
Ah, okay. Our rehearsal dinner (hosted by my FIL and his wife) was only for the bridal party and their +1s (and, obviously, FIL/wife). There was no way they would have wanted to pay for our OOT guests–that was 75% of our guestlist.