Post # 1
FH and I have very different views on privacy, which sparked a debate. Do you ever invite people into your bedroom or is it a “strictly just the two of you” space? Who is allowed and what would the circumstances be?
ETA: FH had a friend over while I wasn’t there. (He told me before, this wasn’t behind my back.) He needed a carpeted area to work on her shoulder (long story, he’s in healthcare, just trust me on this), and the only two areas in our house that fit the bill were our bedroom and the basement. He picked our bedroom since our basement is a little cold. I am a very private person and don’t like anyone in our bedroom unless they have to be or a quick tour. This was worse since I often have clean clothes out on the dresser and several bras and panties were out in plain view.
Post # 3
I guess anyone who wanted to go in there… I’ve never really thought about it but neither one of us is particularly concerned about it.
Post # 4
Due to our crazy ass apartment layout, to get to the bathroom you have to go through the bedroom – – so pretty much anyone who has to pee.
Post # 5
@guitargirl: We just moved into our first place together so we are always showing people around and so we show them but the only person other than us who has ever been in there longer than just to be shown, is my MOH when she spent the night on halloween. But other than that, it’s just us.
Post # 6
We recently moved into a new home, and we show everyone the entire house. We’ve never talked about it before, but like if our nephews are over and they run into our room and jump on the bed, it doesn’t bother us, or if our friends need privacy to breastfeed during a party, etc…
Post # 7
If someone wanted to see the bedroom who had never been over before, I would let them see it, but that’s really it. Otherwise its just a private space for the two of us.
Post # 8
@guitargirl:Ok I’m going to assume you mean friends or family. In terms of people who can be in our bedroom it’s pretty much anyone. People don’t typically go in there but that is because it is small and there would be no reason to hang out in there. If I had something to show someone or bought a new piece of clothing I would ask them to come in.
If you mean who do you invite into your bedroom sexually (because my mind is a gutter) then that would be a very different answer.
Post # 9
It’s pretty much open to everyone especially since the computer is in there.
Post # 10
We live in an open concept loft. Pretty much the whole place is open to our bedroom, so anyone who comes over is welcome in there. Obviously, this doesn’t bother us.
Post # 11
Good question…FI and I don’t currently live together but once we do, it will be mainly us allowed in our bedroom. Even though it’s just me and my daughter in my home, she knocks and waits for permission before coming in my room. That’s my safe haven and I really don’t want anybody wallowing, snooping, getting comfortable in my private space. Even when my mom comes to stay with my daughter when I am out of town she sleeps in the guest room. My siblings and I weren’t allowed in my parents room unless we were taking something in there, or one of them asked us to go get something. I’ve adopted the same attitude.
Post # 12
I guess we don’t really have anybody in there. We have the main spaces and also a spare guest bedroom, so there wouldn’t ever be a need for a guest to go in our bedroom. We have our second bathroom ensuite off the master, but you have to go through our closet to get to it, so I don’t like people using it, unless they REALLY REALLY have to pee.
Post # 13
Nope. Bedroom is for me and FI only. I’m really weird about privacy. We have a whole apartment for people to hang in, they don’t need to be in our bedroom. I have never owned a studio due to my weird privacy issues. I also refuse to rent an apartment with the bathroom attached the bedroom as @Lindsay12.31.2010 described.
That being said, this is something that FI knows I feel strongly about, so he would never let guests into the bedroom without asking me about it first.
Post # 14
We don’t have anything sitting out in the bedroom that I need to worry about people seeing but if they started going through my drawers I would be upset!
Post # 15
@TinyTina: At first I didn’t think it would bother me, but it is totally awkward. Sometimes DH has poker night, and I will go to sleep before him. Kind of uncomfortable to have someone walk through to go the bathroom while I am sleeping, LOL. Luckily we move in September.
Post # 16
i don’t like people in my bedroom, or my bathroom for that matter, without knowing ahead of time. i’d like to think that someday we will be neater people, and that then i won’t mind, but i doubt it!