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Before we were going natural I wanted my husband and the necessary personnel. Now that we're going to be in such a relaxed environment I'm opening my mind to parents, but I'm sure that won't last for long, especially with my MIL and my mother's mouth :)
If I were to have a baby I would want FI and FMIL in the delivery room. FMIL is a nurse and also a stern woman who can speak for me when I am in pain. And make sure people aren't doing stupid things medically.
Husband, mom, sister, MIL, and doctors/nurses. No other men unless my dad feels it's really important but I doubt that.
I definitely just want me, husband, Dr., and nurse. I'm set on having as few people in there as possible! The more people, the more stressed I will be. My mother keeps telling me how she really wants to be there, and I keep findind nice ways to say "absolutely not."
I just want my fiance (will be husband by then) and the people involved in helping with the birth; such as doctor/nurses and doula.
I want to do this by myself with just the Dr's and nurses. I know that sounds weird but I think that would make me the most comfortable.
my husband and the doctor/nurse team. no one else needs to witness the birthing process.
Depends. Definitely my husband, and my sister in law (who's like a sister to me), and the medical staff (dr, nurse, etc). My mother lives across the country, and I don't know if she'd come, and my MIL lives close, and if either of them wanted to be there, I don't think I'd say no. My stepmother wants me to tell her the second I get pregnant, so she start looking at plane tickets, but she really really stresses me out, and I don't want her in there.
But I'm not pregnant yet, so I don't really know what I'll want when it's time (besides DH, SIL and medical staff).
When it happens my hubby will be feeling the same amount of pain as I will be when I squeeze his hand! I'm way too uncomfortable to have anyone else in there. Will be weird enough having people staring down there!
I worked as a L&D nurse and saw firsthand how much pressure it was on a mom, who had an entire family in the waiting room for hours and hours.
I just wanted my S/O and the medical staff. We didn't even let people know we were there until absolutely necessary and called them when we were ready for visitors. (It wasn't until the next day.)
I'm glad it was a private moment. I am no longer with my son's father, but am so relieved my crazy ex-MIL was nowhere near me. (She kept threatening to come anyway, because I just *may* change my mind.)
@ms_nickie: Lately I've been thinking this is what I'd like to do too. But in the end I wonder if we'll regret not having my husband there. It's a tough decision!
My FMIL told me she wants to come to all my sonograms and be in the room when I deliver. We aren't super close so I found this a little odd.
I just want my husband and medical personal. I think too many people up in my "business" is weird and takes away from the mother and fathers special moment together.
@ms_nickie:My husband tends to find the wrong things to say at the wrong times. I know for a fact I will kick him out of the room and it's going to take a lot of convincing to let him back in haha!
I'll want my husband and my mom. My husband because he's my rock and it's his child and he needs to be there from the beginning. My mom because I want another woman there who's been through the process and who I am 100% comfortable with.
I want my husband, my mom and my mother-in-law. And ofcourse the medical folks
I definitely want my DH in the room and doctors/nurses and midwife or doula if I have one.
Other than that, I would be okay with my older sister being in the room, if she was in the area and if she wanted to be there.
No parents, no younger sister, no brother, no friends.
After giving birth and after being covered up, I would be pretty much okay with parents and family and friends.
Even though it is a ways off for me I plan to have my husband to be, my mom, and the midwife there. And maybe his mom but I haven't decided yet. Definitely the midwife, husband, and my mom though.
I know this thread says "who do you want in the room." But as someone who had a baby already I thought I would put in my 2 cents. I had my husband, sister and my mom. They are the most important people in my life so of course I wanted them in there. To the women who are on the fence about having their moms in there: I 100% recommend it! Not only because it's your mom but because there is something so comforting about knowing you have someone there who you are close with (well, if you are) who has given birth before. Bonus: she gave birth naturally and so did I, so she know firsthand what it was like! Anyway, that's just something to think about. Oh and all modesty completely goes out the window and you don't care who's looking down there!!
Really the birth is just the beginning as far as being exposed. You will have nurses massaging your breasts for help with breastfeeding, they will be showing you different positions for breastfeeding while your breasts are exposed. Oh yea, there is a lot of nudity going on! LOL! And you'll learn that it's no big deal.
Like a PP I am not pregnant yet either but I want to have my husband and my mom in the delivery room...I am debating on my sister but my husband and mom for sure... (and staff, lol)
@ms_nickie: Me too! Just me and doctors/nurses. NO BODY ELSE!
(not pregnant or even married yet!)
Just DH and medical staff. I love my mom and sisters dearly, but I know how I am and having more people than necessary in the room would stress me out.
My husband and my mom. Maybe my FMIL but it probably depends on how the labor is going!
With my daughter who is now 7 I had my husband (now my ex). With this new baby I would prefer to just be in there by myself. I know that is not really fair or realistic- its my husband's baby too. But really, I felt like I only needed the doctor and nurses and I was doing all the work and other people would just get in the way!
Husband and necessary medical staff...that's all I'll want! I'm excited for my husband to be able to go out into the waiting room and let our families know whether it's a boy or girl and what we decided to name him or her. :)
I only wanted my husband, doctor and staff there. I love my family and friends but not while I'm pushing a watermelon through a keyhole.
If my husband and I have kids, he will not be in the delivery room. He always says the worst thing possible at the worst time possible--AND he paces like crazy when he's nervous. It'll just drive me batty, him being there.
I don't want anyone in there with me except the necessary hospital staff. DH, in-laws, best friend, stepmom--they can all hang out in the waiting room.
i think i'm the only one...who has no idea! this will be my first child and we are leaning towards having a natural childbirth (although i have to admit i'm still pretty terrified by the thought of the pain...ouch). my husband is the kind of person who doesn't do super well with stress and i know he will shut down a bit when he sees me in pain. but at the same time, i obviously want him there! i want my mom there, but she is coming from out of town so i don't know that we will get the timing perfect for her to be there on delivery day. i'm thinking about having a doula as well, so if i do she would be there too, along with our midwife.
When we had our son my mom and BF were in the room, but then I had to have a c-section so it was just my BF in the room for that. It is up to you who and what you feel comfortable with, personally I was a little uncomfortable with my mom "seeing all my goods" at first but that quickly passed, but those are the only 2 I was comfortable with.
Well we're not even TTC yet, but I can tell you that it will (ideally) be FI and the Doc/Nurses. Any more than that and I'd be freaked out. Everyone else can see my baby after it's all cleaned off and whatnot. And no one else needs to see my vajayjay. FI and Doctor's are the only one's who have seen it recently anyways. (I realize my parents did, like 20+ years ago, lol).
DH and my mom and that is it!!!!!!!!! I do not want my in laws or other family there. I am a little shy...
Well the doctors/nurses/medical staff is a given...who else is going to deliver the baby? :) But I only want my DH in there. Don't have a relationship with my Mother so that was never an issue and my FMIL is up my a$$ way too far that I definetly don't want her and her control issues around. Also, it may upset some but I also do not want everyone at the hosptial before and after. I've seen so many family members just randomly show up with out even asking and it is just too much stress.
We JUST had this conversation.
At our hospital tour they said "You can have up to 3 ppl in the delivery room" and DH turns to me and said "Oh we can have our moms!"
I said "HELL No!" I want him there and my mom (mostly because I think he might pass out, he looked sick in the CLASSES about delievery) but I don't need my MIL in the room with my lady-bits all exposed.
I told him "It's not that I don't want your mom there, but if there's a chance I might poop, I don't want anyone that doesn't have to be in the room."
Doctor, nurses, spouse. No one else.
That could change though, I could see having a supportive friend. But I think just DH.
This being my first baby, my SO and my mom. When #2 come along, just my SO. I'll know the ropes and will be able to do it without my mom for support.
I only had my husband in the room with me for a large part of labor. My midwife would check in on use periodically (more so the closer I got to the actual pushing), as would nurses. When I started pushing, only my husband, midwife, and one nurse was with me. It was very calm and relaxed and I really enjoyed the whole process.... until after 4 hours of pushing, they decided that I needed a c-section because my daughter's head just wasn't coming down. But even so, the transition from natural birth to surgery wasn't bad, and I had a great c-section experience.
I'm neither pregnant nor TTC yet but if and when the time comes, only my husband and the medical personnel. And my husband stays by my side. No need going poking around in the nether regions of my anatomy seeing me all stretched out. No mothers, no sisters, no MIL's, no friends!
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