Post # 1
I was so surprised that some of the people closest to me were completely jealous of my engagement! My mom is jealous that I’m getting so much attention, so much so that two months after I got engaged, she bought a $10,000 dollar engagement ring to match mine! (She had her other ring since 1978.. Interesting timing) she’s jealous of our lavish venue, engagement photos, honeymoon, everything! I love her dearly, but it’s a bit much!
One of my now ex “friends” is so jealous of both my career and relationship success, that she couldn’t process it and can’t be friends with me anymore— her words!
Thank God I have soo many other wonderful people and wonderful events in my life (not to mention the love of my life!) I have so many other blessings, I try not to dwell on the negative, but has anyone else experienced this??
Post # 3
Not the thing with my mom, but from “friends”…yes. People are such miserable trolls they love to spread the hate! It’s sad that joyous events like weddings and such bring out the flipping worst in people.
Post # 4
@Chelwilly: My mom is jealous that I’m getting so much attention, so much so that two months after I got engaged, she bought a $10,000 dollar engagement ring to match mine!
That’s insane. Does it actually match your ring? How did she even tell you? “Oh honey, by the way, we’re twinsies!”
Post # 5
@MlleFabuleux: it’s not the exact same ring but it looks almost the same! Mine’s a princess cut and hers is round, that’s about the only difference. My mom didn’t even tell me, my dad told me! She hasn’t helped out financially for our wedding but she came up with 10K for herself.. Ha!
Post # 7
For the most part, i had a very positive response. I’m friends with a group of girls in my neighborhood who are all married. Ive been the only single one for the whole time i’ve known them. They saw my sadness with past break ups and were so thrilled for me that i finally found the one!
My close friend who is single though, wasn’t excited at all. Several months ago when my fiance and i were talking about marriage she had a few smart a$$ comments to make about the whole thing. Once we got engaged she was just like “oh thats nice. congrats” and then didnt talk about it again. I was pretty hurt. Later she told me that we were always single together and she feels alone now that her good single friend is now getting married. She has come around a lot since then though. She is back to normal. I go out of my way not to be one of those brides who only talks about her wedding.
Post # 8
@Chelwilly: totally! ive had a friend also say shes embarrassed that ive got such a sucessful career and engagement to a wonderful guy (who btw she told me she liked after my fi and i were officially bf and gf?!) lost a few friends over it… but im way happier with the true friends i do have!! (=
Post # 9
I know there’s more of out there!!
Post # 10
Yep. I had one person being a negative Nancy when she heard we got engaged. It totally ruined the friendship.
Otherwise, I’ve had really great responses! Everyone else is happy for us.
Post # 11
The people who care about me the most, for the most part were excited for me. I had a co-worker say “oh that’s nice” when I showed the ring and told everyone the news. Of course she has a man but he has not proposed… There is a former co worker who barley glanced at my ring, I know she was jealous, she has always seen me as competition, I am unsure of why… Another female coworker said my wedding band should be plain because it would be “too many diamonds”otherwise. She yanked the ring off my finger to look at it better! She had no manners. I have a close friend who has dated the same guy for years, and she said it seems like everyone in our age bracket is married and/or has kids, so she is feeling some pressure…. I have only been with my Fiance for less than 3 years, sooo… She was genuinely happy for me though. I was expecting my FB female friends to congratulate me, but most did not, married or single. The haters are going to do what they do best: hate! I am expecting more hatred once I am finished school, and I have a great job. Whatever, it keeps me motivated! I must be doing something right if folks are so mad… Enjoy what sounds like a wonderful life, op!
Post # 12
Oh Girl, I’m with you on this one!!! My sister sounds like your mom. She constantly brings up the cost of my engagement ring and how it was too expensive. Instead of competing with me by trying to one up me, she talks down on everything I do. How honeymoons are stupid. Showers are stupid. Bridesmaids are stupid. She has somerhing defensive to say about everything I do!! Oh and to make matters worse, she’s gettingn married in 2 months so she’s competiting” against me big time. Though I don’t know how you compete against someone who isn’t competing back haha. She is so jealous of the relationship my Fiance and I have together, it’s really quite funny. She also has this idea that we’re made of money haha. Oh well! the best thing is, she’s having 75 people at her wedding and it costs almost $30,000!! And she gets on me about the cost of ours which is less than half of that because we decided to get married in the winter. HA! I love hearing everyone else’s stories!!! I don’t know how you deal with your mom, that would drive me crazy!!
Post # 13
Haven’t seen any jealousy.. but more just lack of anyone really caring.
I told my mom after fi proposed, and her response was, “Oh. Let’s see the ring”. She looked at it, said it looked like something i’d wear, and that was it. No congratulations or anything.
Post # 14
@Chelwilly: …were we seperated at birth?
I’m not even ENGAGED yet and my mom is being a little bit high-strung about the whole thing (we have been actively planning since February and I made the mistake of telling her). She is ticked Boyfriend or Best Friend will be walking me down and not her and ticked he wont be asking her (or anyones) “permission” to marry me.
I would not be the slightest bit surprised if she shows up in a bridal gown.
Post # 15
@EmilyJoy: oh lord! I have an older, unmarried sister who’s in a long term relationship; she hasn’t acted jealous towards me– a little distant, but that’s expected
Post # 16
@bebelicious1: oh yes! I had a coworker who’s been with her boyfriend for 10 years, had a baby and a house and he never proposed. She shad her noise in the air when I got engaged, told me my proposal was “whack” the dresses I was looking at we’re ugly, etc. All jealousy! ShhaDd the nerve to ask me if she was invited to my wedding! I had to pull the whole “I’m sorry but we’re at capacity” lol