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It will happen someday ^_^ and who knows it might be this weekend.
Good luck!
Aww CHK - even if it doesn't happen this weekend for you it sounds like you & your man are going to have wonderful romantic weekend together!
I'm not expecting any sort of proposal until next year and knowing my guy, if he had it his way he'd do it in the power tool aisle of Lowe's - his favorite place...LOL!
not so much for this weekend, but last week was our 3 year anniversary, and i spent waaay too much time bracing myself! literally, i would sit in my office and cover post-its writing "he is not going to propose, let it go, don't get your hopes up..." etc all over them for a couple days before (yes, i'm a total, total nerd...)! and lo and behold, no proposal. very nice dinner and fun, romantic night, but no ring. and that's okay....
sounds like an awesome trip, have so much fun!
I understand the waiting game.
I waited a long time past the ring having been purchased and all because of the cost of a stupid rock....his doing not mine. I would have taken anything.
I had finally decided after a few disappointing visits that I would give him until X date and at that time...it was sink or swim. I wasn't going to wait forever and he kept telling me I was the one and only and I was like, well, doesn't feel like it because I am still naked fingered. Sure, enough, he proposed and a good thing because he was running out of days, literally days like 3 more days and he would have been put on separation.
We are definitely >>>here<<<<. Today is my birthday. I so know he's not going to ask so I am strangely relieved. I am tired of wondering if today is THE day. He and I have a date set of next New Years Eve so as long as he asks me this year, we're good. Now the closer to this New Years Eve we get, the antsier I probably will if we aren't engaged.
Not Monday (I'm Canadian), but I understand mentally preparing yourself for what might not be coming when you hope it will. For me, it's my birthday this September. He knows that I don't want him to propose until my internship ends. My internship ends 3 weeks before my birthday, and that's when I move back in with him. So my birthday will be the first significant event after we move back in together, and I don't want to get my hopes up.
i do that before every visit with the boy. lol and last christmas he cut to the chase and told me it wasn't happening [we went shopping for rings instead]. though part of it is talking everyone else down [because they're more anxious than we are!] because i have found that when you go away with your boyfriend and come back still not engaged, people get super disappointed!
I just have no expectations right now even though he says differently. le sigh. But I'm not worried. I'm with Mizunoheaven though..no secret here. Till Jan 1. Why? he claims it's going to be next summer and I told him I require a minimum of six months of planning including a move and consolidating two households (his and mine).
To me, that date will represent six months left. If no, then I go.
I am just not worried about it anymore. I just don't. I enjoy each day and am just plain happy. Plus I am one who appears about 10 years younger than those my age so I am ok with that too. Good job, great friends, the most wonderful child in the world, and pets we both love and adore!
What is really making me happy this weekend is my son is going to be in our county's Fourth of July Parade and riding on a political candidate's float with him (friend of mine)!!! His first parade and is he psyched!!!
CHK, don't worry about it. It will happen in due time. ALL signs were there for us in March when we went on a vacation to Jamaica. It had many good components (perfect sunsets, time alone, etc..and then we had issues with our hotel and i had a horrid allergic reaction on the last day...and I have been convinced since then our perfect alone couple time just went poof. Then I turned 40. Poof. Plus I had the stomach flu on my birthday just two and a half mos. ago. Imho, most of the romantic holidays have passed. I love the 4th, but it's not one of my biggest.
You will know when it will happen because it will happen. And if too much time passes and your heart is just too weary, you will also know what to do if and when that day does come.
Just relax, have a wonderful time, and forgeddaboutdit!
That's my mantra now. "forgeddaboutdit".
Until Jan. 1 2010 that is..because if my left finger is unadorned on that day he will have to forgeddabout ME!
I'm back! (And unengaged). It was a wonderful trip and we had a lot of fun exporing the backroads of Montana.
I thought of all of you when he came into my office this afternoon to ask my advice about which credit card to apply for. I've been putting the bug into his ear to get a credit card with miles so we can save money on the honeymoon by racking up miles on wedding expenses (that we will imeediately pay off!)
Well, as he bounced a couple of options off of me and I couldn't help but wonder if it meant he was planning on making a big purchase soon? Like actually buying an engagement ring?
I'm tired of trying to read between the lines on things he's doing. And I'm annoying myself about it!
Ooh, could be something good. So tough trying to get your mind off it. Hang in there.
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you know what the funny thing is?
the thought of a proposal crossed my mind on thursday before the start of our holiday weekend, but then as we were actually enjoying the days off together, it was the furthest thing from my mind. i guess thats a good thing. since we first went ring shopping (browsing) waayyyy back in December 2008....and now christmas, new years, my birthday, valentine's day, president's day weekend, HIS birthday (yes, im selfish, but wouldnt I make a wonderful birthday gift to himself by buying me a wonderful ring and him telling he nothing would make him happier on his birthday than to spend the rest of his life with me?!?!?!? 
hehe.), memorial day weekend, and now july 4th weekend have all come and gone. like i posted in another post, im really just trying to enjoy this time of the year bc its my favorite (YAY SUMMER!) and also just enjoy this time we have togehter KNOWING its coming, and (hopefully) soon!
Oh, trust me. I completely understand this. My BF was teasing me all last week, implying that he had bought my ring ( he already took me to pick it out.) Then, this weekend I was teasing him back about it and he told me he definitely hasn't bought it yet. I'm so confused! haha. Maybe he wants me to be? Don't fret, we are all there with you!
Boyfriend comes up the stairs tonight as I'm packing for our trip to my parents lake place/ cousin's wedding on Saturday.
"I bought you something today" he says. (OMG! I'm totally getting engaged folding laundry I thought to myself!!!)
"It's something you've wanted for a long time and I know you've been looking forward to getting it," he says all sing-songy. (Gimme gimme gimme my ring! I've practically forgotten what it looks like!!!)
Then he hands me a packet of chives seeds.
To his credit, I have been looking for them all over town. I appreciate that he thought of me while at Target. But wow, think I have engagement brain?
LOL CHK... I'm right there with ya on the engagement brain. I turn everyday scenarios into "the moment" too! May not have been a big sparkly, but still a sweet gesture.. love men like that!
We had a great weekend trip, and as much as I wanted it to happen, it didn't. I told myself that it wouldn't, but it didn't make the let down that much easier. I guess it didn't help that my cousin (who was on vacation with us) saw a plane with a sign that said "Marry me, Michelle" and had to ask if that was me. So glad we weren't out on the beach when that thing flew by...
I have EN. GAGE. MENT. BRAIN! I am going crazy!
I am trying to do that for this VERY weekend!!!!!!!!! aghhhhhh
He teases me about it (in a fun but drive me crazy way)!
A few weeks ago, we went and solidfied my band choice (it's been on 'hold' for about a year and half). AND I basically picked out the diamond (or type) that I wanted but he didn't make the purchase or put it on hold then. He did ask if he could come back later and asked the lady to write down all the information about that specific diamond!
I think there was another post about the BF 'tying his shoe' and I totally feel like any little thing that happens, I make it into 'OMG! OMG! This might be it!'
And this weekend we have a trip to go back to his hometown and his parents' place in a 'vacation' area. We'll get there a day before everyone else, so I'm trying to do what akd0110 said 'he won't propose, he won't propose' Oh my geez though!
Boyfriend just informed me he will not be proposing this weekend (3 days at the lake followed by my cousin's wedding on saturday). But that "he looks forward to telling me the whole story someday.
So no letdown for this weekend, but sadness that we don't have another weekend alone together until the 8th of August. That's a MONTH!
Aww hang in there CHK!! When it does happen, it'll be perfect!
BTW chives seeds... LOL!!!
Be prepared for something silly too. FH proposed to me one morning when I literally had just opened my eyes and our puppy was wagging her tail with that stupid lolling tongue thing going on. I didn't know if he was serious or not, but I told him yes and here we are...It definitely was unexpected and though we had talked about getting married I think once before that, I was caught completely off guard.
My FI did the same "teasing" thing. I really didn't like it after awhile I was getting excited every day and then let down when it was time to go to bed. When it finally did happen I had pretty much convinced myself that he wasn't doing it that day because he wasn't nervous & I had changed his plans and he didn't mind at all. Afterwards I was in shock... when I told my mom she didn't believe me because I was calm cool and collected. It took a day for it to feel real and for me to start bouncing.
I know it's impossible not to think about it, but if it helps - have a date in mind that you won't wait past and push it out of your mind otherwise. It sounds like it's going to be absolutely wonderful when it happens, so I am excited for you!!
Weekends are always hard for me! Since we both work FT, our weekends are our sacred together time to relax and have fun.. so I always have my hopes up come Thursday, Friday.. Bummer!
You girls hang in there - it sounds like your guys are all super sweet, and they definitely have it on their minds!!
I did the whole "it's GOT to be this time!" thing, thinking Christmas, new years, my brithday, hurry the hell up already!!
My guy proposed while we were hanging out loser-style at home, me just out of the shower, in sweats, hair not combed, raccoon-eyes, etc. I seriously had to finish my after-shower routine before taking our "omg we're engaged" picture!
A lot of guys like to do it when you least expect it! FSIL's proposal was written on the inside of a pizza box on a Tuesday night! :)
I hate to say this but I think teasing is cruel. I have laid down the law (yes I have) with T b/c I don't want to hear about engagements or anything until he and I are FORMALLY not the "we're getting married next summer" engaged. I refuse to allow myself to be let down anymore!
Hang in there bees! We can wait it out! And also it helps if you shift focus imho completely away from the engaement. Enjoy where you are now, for after the E happens, it's full force ahead planning! This is a fun time ya know? Hugs and much love!
I agree with the other posters! M doesn't tease at all. I am pretty sure he's afraid i'll go chop suey lorena bobbit still on him 
.
Just breathe and be calm!!! I am sure it's coming soon and August isn't that far away!
@ sweetheart: I flipped out at one point earlier this summer because I realized we had so many plans and obligations clogging up our weekends through mid-September. In my mind I was like "when the hell will he have a weekend to propose?"
I was really looking forward to the weekend of August 6, our first free weekend since early May... And then his Mom announced she is visiting that weekend. I'm glad she's coming...but our next "free" weekend is in mid-September. :::sigh::: nothing to do but wait it out I guess.
I am SO THANKFUL there are other bees out there with Engagement Brain! I was truthfully afraid everyone here was already engaged. I have been told the closer it gets to the date you set in your head for getting the ring or walking away, the crazier you get. Let me tell you, I'm not cured of it, but I'm trying to let go of trying to control it. Sounds like most of these guys know that we're so excited for it, they have to catch us offguard, like first thing in the morning, or seemingly out of the blue. I'm so, so glad to have found you all!
Excited and Anticipating with the rest of you!
I've definitely been there. It got to the point where I was just so tired of being disappointed that I told my guy to stop giving me presents that came in little jewelry boxes. Ugh. For about a year, it seemed like every present he gave me came in a small, heart-shaped box. Torture! (I do love the presents he gives, but those little boxes were such a tease)
@CHK - That sucks!! I have almost the opposite - we have NO Plans from now until September. Almost makes me suspicious! I found myself getting bummed about it tonight, because I went to a party last night and my friend who recently got engaged was all excited (and i'm truly happy for her!) but I kept thinking - I wanna be engaged! I want a ring! I wanna get married! (We've been together seven years - so it's been a long time coming!). But anyways, I keep thinking - why can't he just DO IT?!? Oh well.. Good things come to those who wait.. right?!
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Upcoming holiday weekend. Roadtrip, just the two of us. Camping. Staying in an awesome historic hotel. Fireworks. Lovely weather. Adventure we are both excited about. Beautiful scenery, mountains, lakes, rivers, plains. Proposal?
Probably not.
Who else is mentally preparing themseves for Monday when Boyfriend has still not proposed?