Post # 1
evening bees i was just wondering who else was not doing save the dates?
please this is not a debate just wondering what bees did not or dont want to do them and why?
I’m not sure if we should even do them. i’m starting to feel bad about leaning more towards not wanting to do them. and my FH does not want to do them.
Post # 3
Nope… We didn’t send them out, we were inviting 180+ people (we both have massive families) so we figured if they didn’t get a save the date, not everyone would be able to make it, haha that sounds terrible!! We didn’t have anyone complaining about it either.
Post # 4
@HisNightOwl2014: We didn’t do one. I actually don’t really understand them. I mean, I know what they are, but I don’t get why they’re supposed to be necessary. Unless it’s a matter of sending them out waaaaay before the date? I didn’t have any idea until I joined this site that people often don’t send out invitations until 4 – 6 weeks before the wedding. We sent ours out at the end of May for our October wedding, with an RSVP date at the end of July. Lots of time for people to work out travel and lodging arrangements and get the best prices possible since it was still a few months away.
When I first read that someone was six weeks away from the wedding and was sending out their invitations, I was truly floored. For so many weddings with caterers and venues and rentals and whatnot, I would have thought the numbers needed to be in much sooner for the sake of deposits and whatnot, and making / buying the decorations, etc. If I didn’t know until three weeks before what the final count was, I’d have been out of my mind trying to get / make the right numbers of everything. At least, if we’d had a larger, more traditional wedding.
Anyway, my approach to the invitation situation and my surprise over people’s timing with them is irrelevant. Your question was if I didn’t do save the dates. We didn’t. 🙂
Post # 5
@HisNightOwl2014: I feel like they’re unnecessary if (1) you’re close to most of your guests or (2) most of your guests are local. Personally, I know that we’ll be having a bunch of out-of-town guests, which necessitates Save-The-Date Cards.
Post # 6
I’m not engaged yet, but I don’t think we’ll be doing them. Our wedding will be adults only, and I assume that my guests are old enough to know how to write an event on their calendars without needing a reminder, hehe. It’s just such a waste of money and paper, IMO.
Post # 7
@Gemma83: lol you made me smile ; )
Post # 8
@BabyCarat: that’s what I’m thinking and my FH feels its a waste of $$ and postage he thinks there an unnecessary extra expense and im starting to agree with him i did not know what they were untill the bee when i saw the titels with STD’S i was like WTH is that lol i feel its just one more thing to stress out about and im stressed enough lol
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
We didn’t do them, we sent our invites out about 2 weeks ago for our September wedding. We are having a destination (well for half our guests) and everyone was asking when we would send out the invites so we just thought “what the heck, let’s just send them out”. I’ve even already had 44 out of 84 rsvps back!! I think we just have friends who like to plan ahead . 🙂
Post # 10
@HisNightOwl2014: I know right? It sounds weird when people are like “I’m sending out STDs” or “I’m giving people STDs!” Like “Here’s some herp for you, with a side of crabs!” I dunno, the acronym is so creepy to me and I think it’s a big waste of money, time and effort:) But then again I’m skipping other traditional aspects like the bouquet toss and the garter toss, so I’m a little unconventional, hehe.
Post # 11
@BabyCarat: lol that STD had me going for a while lol
Post # 12
I didn’t do the “Save the Dates”. Didn’t see the point in the extra expense. I did RSVP’s within the invites and have the thank you notes for after.
Post # 13
i didn’t do them! didn’t want to spend the money and the most important people knew our date well ahead of time anyway
Post # 14
I think the Save the Date is often used (and probably originated) when people knew the date of the wedding but didn’t have the details nailed down. They STD card was sent out so people would know when the wedding is but giving the couple much more time to nail down the where and timing etc.
I’m probably going to send them out, most of my guests are going to be travelling. I feel like sending them a card in advance (i’ll probably send mine 9 months ahead which I know is really early) is a little nicer than a phone call or facebook message. I’m a person who mails change of address cards (that I make) christmas cards (that I make) birthday cards (you guessed it…that I make) so I love this stuff. To me it’s nice, it’s fun and it’s a pre-invitation
The only reason I might not send them is that it gives people way more time to discuss about who is and is not invited.
Post # 15
We are considering not bothering with them.
Or at least not mailing them, we have our invitations designed and almost ready to send, except that we don’t have everyone’s mailing address.
Since we both enjoy photography, we are designing save the dates to put as Facebook timeline photos and I may print some of them out and send them to, my mom or something
But that’s about it.
Post # 16
I sent my invites out March 27 for my April 27 wedding. Had the ASVPs dated to be returned by April 10. I think any earlier than that people would forget about the wedding. Everyone on the list is family and very close friends (170-180 people expected).