Post # 1
FH and I are catching flack about staying together the night ofbefore the wedding. This means that we will technically see each other the morning before our nuptials. Im not traditional or religious at all, so I’m fine with nixing that idea. I have had to gently remind folks that this is OUR wedding and our relationship and we are going to do things the way that we see fit.
Post # 2
My husband and I did the same thing. My Mom and Grandma made some noises about it being “bad luck”. We were already living together and neither of us believe in that suppersition. We figured we would sleep better if we slept in the same bed. So we just politely declined my parent’s offer to stay in their hotel room.
Post # 3
Well, since we’re getting married on vacation (I guess kind of eloping because it will be just us but everyone knows about it) we will see each other that morning as well.
Post # 4
We already live together and are getting married at a place that’s a few blocks from our home… so we will see each other because it would be silly to pay for a hotel room to stay even further away from the wedding than we are now! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I’m also sleeping at home with my FI the night before the wedding.
Post # 6
We didn’t just see each other the morning of our wedding – we made love the morning of our wedding. So far, no bad luck has resulted.
Post # 7
busybeebee: We are probably going to do this as well! But my family hates it and thinks FI should get a hotel room the night to make it more “special”. I dont think it really matters since we plan on doing a first look anyway.. We are getting ready separately though so he will see me all ready during the first look! 🙂
Post # 8
busybeebee: We live together so will be sleeping together the night before and seeing each other the morning of the wedding. He won’t see the dress until our first look photos, however.
Post # 9
We are having our ceremony at a bed and breafast, so we’ll be staying together and seeing each other the night of and the morning of lol We are having seperate bachelor/bachelorette parties the night before the wedding then getting together at the end of the night, but we’ll definatly get ready seperatly and I don’t know if I want to do the photos befor or after the ceremony. I like the idea of him seeing me with my wedding dress for the first time at the ceremony.
Post # 10
The tradition first arose so that the groom does not run away at the sight of the bride, especially when marriage was arranged for financial reasons (hence, also the veil which is only lifted after the vows are said). If you are annoyed at the comments, you can remind people of that and ask whether they think you should worry about that. We had the wedding in my in-laws house, where we stayed – so it would have been difficult to avoid each other in the hallways all morning 🙂
Post # 11
We are sharing a suite the night before, and waking up with each other, so we will be seeing each other 🙂 It’s just another tradition that isn’t for me. I’d comment like someone said above “what, you think he might run away after seeing me?” or “You know, I had heard that not a single marriage in which the bride and groom didn’t see each other ended in divorce, so you might have a point!”
Post # 12
We live together so we are of course going to be seeing eachother the morning of, no point in sleeping apart as one of us will more than likely not have a good sleep! And also we plan on doing some pictures a few hours before the wedding – just to get the jitters out before the ceremony.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We did – we were like “Why the fuck should we spend half our wedding day apart?!” I think it helped both of us be way less nervous and have more fun. Nobody even said anything, but yeah, in your shoes I’d just politely say that it’s your wedding day so you’re planning it as you see fit.
Post # 14
busybeebee, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. I could understand if you didn’t want to see him to make it special, but this is one of those traditions which just doesn’t make so much sense anymore. More couples cohabitate, relationships last longer before marriage, kids are in the picture before nuptuals. Just tell them it’s an out dated tradition and staying together will help you fight the jitters.
We are staying in the same suite together. We’ll eat breakfast together and then I’ll make myself scarse while he gets dressed and vice versa. We will also have a first look.
Post # 15
I think that’s silly. We LIVE together so why on earth would it matter if we see each other on our wedding day? We stayed together the night before and I had to leave at 8am to start getting ready. It was no big deal.