(Closed) Who Else is Tired of This Question: “Are You Losing Weight For the Wedding?”

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree, that is really rude!

Post # 4
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

I think since I’m soo fat that people are uncomfortable asking me those questions…like “hm…it might hurt her feelings.”  So I never get it.  But I do think it’s rude when people ask others.  I also think it’s rude when people are like “you’re eating too little, eat more!”  I think people should mind their own business.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, I always gave people a confused look in response to that question, because I only weigh about 100 lbs. I also hated it when other women would say things like “Oh, you can’t have any cake because you’re about to get married!”

Post # 6
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow. I actually AM losing weight for my wedding but if someone actually asked me that I would be highly offended. I’m not large by any means I just know I can be smaller. I can’t believe people actually ask that!

Post # 8
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@PrncssDva: I hate that question. I am over weight and do need to lose a bit. BUT, the question is still rude. It implies that we are not happy with ourselves as we are. And with our weddings only a few months away losing a lot of weight could mean huge alteration costs and buying new undergarments too. My granny asked me that question and I said, are you paying for the dress to be resized and buying a new bustier? She said no. Then I said well you just got your answer. LOL.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@PrncssDva:  Yeah, I agree it would hurt anyone!  Sorry if I implied otherwise.

Post # 13
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@beekiss2: You are right. I hate when people try to pile food on your plate. When I visit my granny (who always mentions how fat I am) she wants me to eat seconds and thirds! IT drives me nuts. Not all fat people eat all dang day long and we don’t all eat seconds or even clean our plates the first time.

Post # 16
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

ask ’em if they’re losing weight before they turn X years old. After all, that’s a milestone!=]

My coworkers would say things like, “oh, salad again, eh?” or try to take cake away from me, saying i should give it to them b/c i had a dress to fit into. I think they just wanted my cake =]. But they were being good natured about it. There is a difference. Most women try to get in the best shape ever for their wedding….valid question, rude to actually ask.

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