Post # 1
Our families live all over the place and won’t meet until the actual wedding ceremony (the moms might meet shortly before if they come to get ready with me.) They have never spoken on the phone or anything. My FI has never even met my stepdad (who is my father for all intents and purposes.)
I’m not really nervous about it, however other people have mentioned that they find this odd and it would stress them out. Am I alone here?
Post # 3
Our families didn’t meet until the wedding day. We got married before a year of dating, so there wasn’t that much time where they could have met beforehand. It went perfectly fine 🙂
Post # 4
Our families will not meet until the wedding weekend – his are in another country!
I can’t bother being stressed about it, there’s no way around it and I’m sure it’ll go off ok, they’re all nice people.
Post # 5
Our families won’t meet until the wedding day either.
Post # 6
Ours didn’t meet until the wedding day, either. We had a big rehearsal dinner and invited both sides to come so that there could be some mingling before the actual wedding and reception. It went very well!
Post # 7
@bkrocks13: I find it a bit odd that your fiance hasn’t met your (step)father. But as far as the parents not having met each other yet, that seems normal.
My fiance’s mom will not meet my mother until MAYBE a bridal shower. I’m still uncertain if his dad and step-mom will even show up for the wedding…
Post # 8
@Shamus11: My stepfather travels locally a lot for business and is the primary breadwinner for he and my mom. He has actually never visited me in NYC- I only see him when I go visit them in texas, which I haven’t done in 4 years (since before FI and I were dating.) My mom’s mother also lives with them in tx, which means only one of them can travel at a time because she needs daily care… so my mom has come to see me and met my FI many times (including before we began dating) but my stepdad has never been able to come.
Truthfully I think FI i’s a little scared, but my stepdad trusts the judgement of my mom and sister and they both LOVE LOVE LOVE him. My mom has been calling her his future son-in-law to my family since well before we started dating (and while I was in a 3 year relationship with someone else.) I guess he just trusts that my mom wouldn’t feel so strongly about someone who isnt good for me?
I do feel for FI though- my stepdad is a big giant Texan and can be a bit intimidating ha. We’ll see how it goes…
Post # 9
Almost our whole families have met each other besides our dads. That I’m nervous about only because they’re SO different.
Post # 10
@bkrocks13: Ah, that makes more sense to me. Didn’t realize you guys had half a country between you.
I’m sure your fiance and stepdad will get along great. My fiance was TERRIFIED to meet my father. My dad is an intimidating, laconic Texan who hunts every type of animal and rides Harleys. My fiance is an extremely intelligent, well-spoken, literature and philosophy loving Italian-American. They are pretty much exact opposites but get along so well! My dad loves him! It is definitely an interesting moment to watch those two figures in your life meet.
Post # 11
It turned out that my dad knew some of my husband’s family from farming things, otherwise everyone else met the day of or before at the rehearsal. My parents wanted to get together with husband’s parents ahead of time to meet them, but in-laws just weren’t interested.
Post # 12
Over the 11 1/2 years before the wedding, we became a blended family. My Dad spends holidays with us/DH’s family, and it’s actually really nice. My Mum hadn’t met his parents until the wedding day, however… which is not surprising, given the fact that I don’t even talk to her.
Post # 13
Our parents still haven’t met and we’ll be married a year this September. Our families live about 10 hrs from each other, and now we live 15 hrs from his family and 12 hrs from my family. We only had our siblings present for our wedding so they still haven’t met and I honestly have no idea when they will meet. I assume it might happen when our baby is born, but who knows, definitely not in a hurry to make it happen 🙂
Post # 14
Our families didn’t meet until the rehearsal dinner!
Post # 15
I’m contemplating having a rehearsal dinner to be able to allow everyone to meet. We werent planning on it since we dont really have a bridal party or groomsmen or anything like that, but maybe we can do something catered at our apt or something so people can mingle…
Post # 16
Our families will be meeting the night before. Lets hope they all get along!