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Who escorts whom?

posted 3 years ago in Beehive

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Angiepie February 28, 2009 Makawao, Hawaii

I have two ushers for my wedding, and I always assumed they were the ones who ushered the single ladies to their seats (and to help with answering questions of course). Then, I thought that the groom was supposed to usher the mother of the bride to her seat, seeing as though the father of the bride will be escorts the bride.

My fiance seems to think that an usher is the one to seat the mother of the bride. From every wedding I've been to, I always thought the groom ushered the mother.

The two ushers I had in mind escorting my and my fiance's widowed grandmothers to their seats.

So, really, how's it supposed to be? Any help here?

3 years ago

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missbean August 23rd, 2008 Canada

I'm not sure how it is "supposed" to be, but it's allowed to be anyway that you want. If your groom escorts your mum down the aisle, I know I would think it's super cute. But maybe see what his comfort zone is ie. would he rather excort your mum down the aisle or enter with his groomsmen?

What I'm doing: I'm probably getting my brother to escort my mum down the aisle and he is (obviously) not the groom nor is he an usher.

3 years ago

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suzanno 7/12/08 Richland, WA

I second that you can do what works best for you. We didn't have anyone in the wedding party do any escorting duties, as we had them all outside the chapel area while the guests were being seated. If your groom wants to escort you mom that is fine, but mine actually wanted to sit back in the wings and watch everybody get seated, rather than being worried about making conversation right up until he was supposed to be up at the altar. Since I got to hide out of sight until it was my cue to enter, I thought that was entirely fair.

3 years ago