Post # 1
I’ve seen so many bees on here experiencing dress regret (me being one of them!!) I was iffy and unsure if I made the right choice with saying yes to the dress. I tried to shrug it off and get myself excited about dressing up my gown with the right accessories. It wasn’t until I joined Wedding Bee that I saw all of the drop dead gorgeous gowns and finally came to terms with the fact that I said yes to the wrong dress. After joining this site, I then had a picture perfect idea of what I wanted my gown to look like (and it was nothing like what I’d already chosen)!! With 3 months to go until the wedding, I purchased a new Pronovias gown this past weekend and I am absolutely in love!!! I get emotional just thinking about marrying the love of my life in such a perfect gown!!!! I am so thankful for wedding bee!
Has anyone else had a similar experience??
Post # 3
I bought my dress my mom cried everyone loved it. I went home and next week started bawling at work lol. My mom is out of town, she drove 3 hours again and we went and took it back (davids bridal was so understanding) and I found my dream dress!!! So thankful
Post # 4
I had no idea dress regret was such a prevalent phenomenon before joining the Bee! It a way it definitely made me feel better about my own indecisiveness. On the other hands, it was also an enabling influence when it came to falling in love and considering other dresses. I didn’t have dress regret as such, more as dress greed – I ended up caving and buying the second dress that is now my dream dress, but I still love my original gown and will be wearing both.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
@peonyinparis: Likewise! But I wasn’t completely surprised.. when I was idling around Kijiji.ca for used dresses and saw a lot of very nice dresses being sold. I was tempted by a couple Pronovias were on there, before checking out David’s Bridal, but Fiance wasn’t impressed with me trying to tag him along as my security guard to check out used dresses.
I probably have tried on a total of 20 to 25 different gowns from four bridal shops?!? The best advice a coworker gave me was to look into my closet and see what I’d normally wear for dresses. In a way, I was able to narrow down which cuts were flattering, mostly A-line. I found that having so many options was dizzying when trying to stay on budget!! (Since I’m short in height, I was one of those annoying brides that asked for estimates for alterations before falling in love with a dress)
So far, so good! lol, I *know* there will always be a prettier and more expensive dress out there, but by spending way below budget than I’ve anticipated on a dress, I am using the leftover dress budget to get a bridal corset custom-made from Sweet Carousel. 🙂
Post # 6
I started to have “dress envy” when I joined the Bee. I originally wanted an all lace dress and ended up with something completely different and when I came on here everyone was getting lace dresses so it made me feel like I should have tried harder to find the perfect lace dress. Looking back, that was silly because I can still walk into a store and see lace dresses and think “wow these are pretty but my dress is a stand-out” lol. I also started to envy all the trumpet/mermaid/fitted dresses that I was so against (I’m very insecure about my tummy and I hate feeling restricted) because everyone looked so great in them. But, again, I remembered my original hesitations about those dresses and moved on. I still felt a little unsure about my dress so I finally made the decision to bring it home and that was the best thing I’ve ever done. Just having it hanging in my guest room makes it feel more real and like it’s “my” dress as opposed to some random dress in a bridal salon. So after going back and forth about my dress for months I am now 100% sure that my dress is the dress I am supposed to marry my Fiance in 🙂
Post # 7
I never had any type of dress regret before joining the Bee. I actually think the Bee made me feel more open to the idea of dress regret though and actually may have encouraged it a tad bit! However I still have and love my original dress, thankfully!
Post # 8
I did have dress regret, and did purchase another gown shortly after coming to the boards for the first time, but I can’t say it was directly because of the site.
I purchased mine over 18 months ago (the first one) with an extremely limited budget for our original date of last september (different venue, different date etc). We called off that wedding for financial reasons and a few others, so when we re set a date this past December and I reeeeally started to think about that dress (original venue was backyard garden wedding, new venue is a church) I realized that between that and the dress feeling like a prom dress I had worn once, I needed to shop and see if I could find one I loved.
I am incredibly happy I did. The first dress as I mentioned was purchased on a tight budget, second one my budget was double, …but I will give credit to WB boards and fellow bees for inspiring me with their gowns 😉 I learned so much on this site about designers, styles…things I never considered with my first purchase so in that regard yes the bee had everything to do with it.
I have ZERO regrets, i love my new dress and was able to sell my old one after about 4 months and only lost about $100.
Post # 9
I joined the bee before I bought my dress and reading all the dress regret posts I think has helped me come to a zen place about my dress.
My dress is NOTHING like I thought I wanted. NOTHING. And I learned that that was normal. And I learned that nothing will make you feel better about it than putting it on again… AND that’s true too. So I’m reading dress threads now with a “well that’s pretty but I know mine is the best on me” attitude.
Its hard when you have an idea of what you want (lace, big flowing ballgown, maybe some tulle) and what made you gasp was a plain silk sheath/fit and flare. And then you bought it. And now that’s done.
I didn’t date all the men before picking one, I don’t have to try on all the dresses either. That’s what I keep telling myself.
Post # 10
I did! But I was a member here before I purchased the first dress. But yah, being a member here and seeing all the gorgeous dresses probably didn’t help with the regret. I do NOT regret getting a new dress though, I love my new one.
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
I had dress regret twice. 1st time was a dress from Bridal Warehouse, a gown that was originally $1199 purchased at a deep discount of $99. My mom was present during this try-on and loved it so I got it. But I started having doubts, especially after showing people pictures of it and they were shocked I chose a dress with a v-neckline. So I went to David’s Bridal alone thinking I wanted a ballgown instead. Wrong! Joined WB and started seeing all these beautiful gowns and had dress regret so bad that I would feel sick. I went to other dress vendors trying on 30+ dreses (sorry lost count after awhile). Decided to return to Bridal Warehouse and got “the one.” Luckily David’s Bridal exchanged their dress for my bridesmaids dresses.
Post # 12
I NEVER EVER EVER thought i’d have dress regret, I fell TOTALLY in love with my dress, and was constantly going on the Maggie Sottero site to drool over it, Than i joned wedding bee and it all changed…… i think that because i have read endless articles about dress regret i ended up second guessing my choice, i did have dress envy as there are some beautiful dresses out there, but i feel its human nature to think you may have missed out on something better. I now know that i made the right choice and my original dress is ‘the one’
Post # 14
Thanks to Wedding Bee I have mega dress envy for a style of gown that doesn’t suit my body shape. DARN.
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@Pinkmoon: I agree! I’m def taking a loss in $$ for my first one (I’m attempting to sell it!) but I love my second dress so much, it was worth it!!