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I stopped weighing at 80! although i had some issues with my pregnancy...i started at 132 and the day before i gave birth they weighed me at the hospital and i was 207! i think that without the issues i would have gained 40 though
I can beat all of you and make you feel better I gained over 100 pounds with my son. I started at 103 and ended at 207!! Part of this was because I was a college athlete with very little body fat and a great meatabolism from working out 5+ hours a day. I still stayed activy but would be lucky to say if it was for even an hour a day. My doctors watched me and kept records and said it was fine because I didn't have any health related issues and my son was developing normally.
Try not to worry about it! The baby is the most important thing and you can always workout to get it off after the baby is born.
I wouldn't worry about it. While I didn't gain much (20 & 21 lbs), my sister gained 60 with each of hers (3), and my neice (her daughter) did too. They are both even thinner now than before their pregnancies too.
With my first child I gained 54 lbs. Afterwards, I lost all but 10 and the only reason I did't get to lose those 10 is because I got pregnant with the second child and gained 44 lbs. with her. (not counting the 10 I didn't lose in the first place.) And here I am 17 years later only 5 lbs. more than what I started at before I became pregnant with the first child. (after losing 30 lbs. 5 years ago) Not too shabby! : )
Kate Hudson and Jenny McCarthy have both publicly stated that they gained 60+ pounds with their first pregnancies. Now, both women were probably considered underweight to start, so they had a bit more wiggle room, but I am sure 60 was over their recommended weight gain and neither one looks worse for it now.
It's hard, because your body is going to gain what it's going to gain, not much you can do about it. As long as you are eating healthy (and not having a pan of brownies every night, which is what J McCarthy said she was doing) you're going to lose it and be just fine.
I went to the dr. 2 weeks ago and i was at 29 pounds at 30 weeks and the dr. kind of got on my case about it, which didn't help the fact that I already feel huge! at that point I was doing pretty good with eating ok.. I would snack on fruits and yogurt most of the time, but don't get me wrong, if I wanted something sweet I would usually eat it and I probably had one soda a day. so in the last two weeks Ive cut most of the red meat, soda, sweats out, switched to oatmeal instead of a bowl of cereal and I've increased my walking. I also have to give credit to my ridiculously slow metabolism to weight gain. ( It was bad before pregnancy!) Hopefully when I go to the dr. today, it won't be so bad... because I don't know what else I can do!
My mom gained 60 with me. I think it's a little ridiculous that doctors put women of all heights and sizes into a little tiny weight gain box. I'm 6'1" - if I gain 20 pounds, that's barely a dress size! My healthy BMI weight is something that would make women of a "normal" height cry themselves to sleep at night.
What's more important is that you are healthy, because it's not a good idea to have a "one size fits all" ideal of what should happen to you in pregnancy.
I gained 50 lbs with each of my kids, and with the first I was in my old jeans in 3 months, and with my second it took 6 months. For me 50 lbs was totally healthy, and I just made sure I was eating lots of veggies and protein. As long as you stay active and eat healthy whole foods, you don't need to look at the scale to know you are right on track for a healthy baby. :)
I gained right about 35 pounds. At my first appointment they told me that for my height/weight I should only gain 15 pounds during my pregnancy! I had a few pounds to lose before I got pregnant, probably 15ish, but I am not that overweight. I just have a large frame and a lot of muscle underneath my layer of flab.
I lost 25 pounds in the first month, then gained about 8 back. I was on a low carb diet at the end of my pregnancy because I was gaining too much, so once Baby T was born, I went a little overboard eating carbs and dessert and rich meals my family cooked for us. Now i'm exercising and cutting out the junk, and I'm losing weight again.
It is really hard if you are gaining weight faster than they say you should, or if you gain more. But every woman is different and responds to pregnancy differently. If you are eating healthy, you should be fine.
@crayfish: THIS. Thank you.
Sprague, I know we just had this conversation last night but I just wanted to reassure you once again that your body is going to gain as much as it needs to. As long as you aren't binge eating and getting in some kind of activity (which your job seems like it does enough of that for both of us!) your body is putting on as much weight as it needs to support another life. I don't think it's fair women are so tightly monitored about their weight during pregnancy because supporting another person is a ridiculous toll on our bodies anyways. You look amazing and you're going to have a beautiful baby girl to show at the end of it. And don't forget the BFing help you'll receive to shed all the weight anyways. :)
@spraguebride: Honestly, I'm glad you created this thread. I've struggled with my weight and slow metabolism all my life, and I've been so nervous about gaining more than the "recommended" amount of weight, especially when I see everyone's weekly updates and they've only gained in the teens. All of these responses have really helped me to feel SO more confident going into this.
43 lbs :). I was no where near underweight to being with either. Please don't worry about the weight gain. If I could change one thing baout my entire pregnancy it would be to not stress out about things I can't control.
I am not pregnant, but I went to a "Meet the Midwives" session at my doctor's office last night so that my husband would get on board with the whole midwifery thing... Anyway, the practice has a pretty strict diet requirement that its patients have to follow, but someone asked whether they put weight restrictions on their patients. The midwife who runs the practice said, no, absolutely not. She said as long as you are eating a balanced diet and keeping active, they don't care what the scale says - your body will put on as much weight as it needs to to support you, the baby, and your increased blood volume.
I gained 51 pounds. My doctor's weren't happy about it, which made it very hard on me. But at least it helped me eat healthier. As long as the baby's healthy that's what counts.
I have two pregnant friends right now that haven't gained enough weight, and to me that's way scarier. I was glad to know that my baby was growing right and is healthy, even if I had to push a 8 lb. 13 oz baby out of my who-ha.
Well I was doing good up until the 7 month mark when I gained 10 lbs in ONE WEEK!! I gained about 43 lbs. The entire beginning of my pregnancy my Dr said I wasnt gaining enough and then all of a sudden towards the end I blew up! haha. They werent too concerned, my daughter and myself were very healthy!
I totally gree with everyone else that your body will gain what it needs. Some people gain more than the 25-35 pound recommendation, some people gain less. I think of it as more of an "average" than an absolute. If you are eating well, staying active, and keeping hydrated, and as long as your doctors aren't worried, the numbers on the scale don't matter.
If it helps, my sister asked the doctor to stop telling her what the scale said at every appointment. She said she felt a lot more relaxed once she didn't know her weight.
I'm at 17lbs at 34wks,but I'm plus size, so I'm not supposed to gain more than 15 the whole time. Makes me nervous about the 6wks I have left. I can tell you, from what I observe, smaller women seem to gain more weight, but they do lose it. ((hugs)) I know my thinner friends are back to where they were. Once baby comes, it'll be gone with exercise and diet. :)
I gained about 70lbs with my pregnancy--started at 135, and ended up just shy of 205. My doctor wasn't concerned, as DD was measuring fine, and was healthy, but I have no idea how I ended up gaining that much, TBH. I walked everywhere, and worked up until 2 weeks before she was due.. watched what I ate like a hawk, too. My Mum gained over 100lbs with my youngest sister, however, so maybe it's genetics, LOL. Hey, a girl can dream, right?
There was just a segment on Today Show about the trend of "mommyrexia" and people gaining too little weight and how its not healthy for the baby and can often lead to a not well developed baby.
@spraguebride: Do NOT beat yourself up about this, you can't compare yourself to what anyone else has experienced.
No one else has been pregnant with your body and your baby, so long as you're not using the pregnancy as an excuse to eat unhealthy your body will gain what it needs.
Metabolism, height and previous amount of body fat can all make a difference. Towards the end you might notice things leveling out more, I gained the most in my second trimester.
@spraguebride: Pregnancy does such ridiculous damage to body image. Try not to compare yourself too much to other pregnant women. It's hard when at EVERY appt the doctor or midwife lectures you on your weight gain... but I do think that if you're getting in the right amount of the right kind of calories, haven't seemed to develop GD, and you're staying active, then you're fine.
Honestly, I think this is what the doctors & midwives (at my practice at least): 1. come up with a goal weight gain for that patient. 2. Subtract 5-10 lbs. 3. Tell the patient in stern words not to gain more than X (goal weight gain minus 5-10). 4. Repeat step 3 at every appt. 5. Expect the patient to blow right past X, and maybe land somewhere around the true goal weight gain at the end.
I'm not a big person, and I gained 45 pounds. It's not like I was eating bad or eating for two. It's just what my body wanted to do and I just put my trust in my body. My doctor wasn't happy about it, but since my son was 8lbs 12.7oz, 22.75" long and two weeks earlier, my doctor ended up being more understanding about the weight gain. ;)
I gained about 50 pounds when I was pregnant and I still have about 20 pounds to lose to get back to my pre baby weight 15 months later. OH god thanks for making me think about that lol. Anyways I wasnt unhealthy for my baby or myself. It just happens everyone is different,and our bodies change. No biggie :)
I'm terrified about this... I'm already a plus size girl, so I'm only supposed to gain like 10-15lbs through the 9 months and I have no idea what's going to happen to me. I'm just trying to be a healthy as possible and keep on walking every day for at least an hour.
I gained 65 lbs. My daughter was 7lbs 11 oz. I was lucky though that I gained almost all of it in my stomach and did not have a super hard time losing it. Nursing works wonders ;)
I gained 40, my son was 8lbs 2 oz and I'm still working it off almost a year and a half later. UGH!
Next time I will be way more careful about what I eat, etc.
This is why I don't read the weekly updates.
I'd tell you what I gained if I knew. I'm 31 weeks and I stopped counting when I hit 20 lbs. in the first trimester alone. At each OB visit, they ask if I want to know, and I say no. I keep waiting for my doctors to say something, but nobody has said a peep. One doctor even said she gained 60 pounds with all four of her pregnancies, and she's a little bit of a thing.
My blood pressure and my sugar and everything are all very much in check, so my guess is that they're not terribly concerned about the weight. But I've asked, and they're not concerned.
I was at first, but I'm not anymore. I don't love it, but I can't let it get to me. Remember, your body is your baby's home, and you don't want to spend your pregnancy having negative feelings about your body.
Just eat the best you can, exercise when you feel well enough to, and know that the weight will come off. But most importantly, you're going to have a beautiful baby someday soon...
I love you guys so much!!!!!! :-)
Thank you so much for all your comments. It makes me feel better to see so many other women who were not "tiny" pregnant ladies.
Body image is hard for most women already.....and I always was a little insecure. I'm having a hard time watching my face fill out along with my butt and thighs....and oh, the dreaded back fat! haha!
I can't say that I don't eat a bowl of ice cream here or there....but for the most part I am eating very well and I guess my body just wants to gain weight :-)
It really makes me feel good to read this thread where all of you are talking about these much more realistic numbers. It's always hard as women to gain weight...but it's even harder if you think you are gaining more than you should and then you fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others.
THANK YOU to everyone to added to this thread. You guys really gave me some great perspective.
I gained 67lbs with DS.. and I didn't eat fast food, fried foods, or sweets at all b/c they ALL made me sick... and I still just kept racking them up. lol
I didn't loose them all, but then again I'm more comfortable with the weight I ended up then my pre-pregnancy weight.
We'll see how it goes this time round... I'm with you are kinda freaking out about it but only b/c all the ladies around me that have been preggers in the last 5 years and right now are all still small... I was the big one in my group. lol
Reading this is really, really helpful. I'm only halfway in my pregnancy and find it difficult to see my body change while having no control over it since I'm usually very athletic. My doctor told me I was supposed to only gain 5 pounds in the first 20 weeks; and I gained 10 already, so it's kind of scary.. then again, I eat well and exercice 3-5 times per week so I know that I'm being as healthy as possible. I think the expectations that we put on ourselves are not realistic and we should be told by our doctors to enjoy this special time - not obsess about the pounds..
Hang in there Spraguebride; and thanks to all the other bees sharing...
@spraguebride: I'll be 39 weeks on Sat. and I've gained exactly 50 pounds and the scale hasn't budged in about two weeks. (knock on wood. lol)
I always heard that towards the end you stop gaining weight and it turned out to be true for me and I'm sure it will be the same for you.
I know it's hard but try not to stress out too bad about the weight you are gaining. Every woman's body handles pregnancy differently and I truly believe that your body puts on the amount that it needs to. Those posts about gaining only 10 to 15 pounds the whole time just blow my mind. I don't have a clue how they do it. lol
You WILL loose the weight afterward! I promise!:)
@spraguebride: late to the post but just have to reiterate what previous bees have said--don't let other people's standards on pregnancy weight gain get the best of you!! every momma and every baby has their own story. i realize that is so much easier said than done, but I can tell you from being on the other side, that it is best to just let go weight gain stuff, as much as you can. it's hard not to be in control of what your baby and what your body will do, but it is what it is.
you see, a looong time ago, i was one of those tiny pregnant ladies. i had always been petite and small. and people would tell me how cute my bump was and how, from behind, they could never tell that i was pregnant! until about 7 months in. by my 3rd trimester, all of that was an old story. and all told, i ended up gaining 45ish lbs by the end of pregnancy. it wasn't easy to deal with, but i can honestly say that when the baby comes, there are bigger issues to deal with. my baby is now almost 8 months and I promise you much of the weight does come off (a lot of it is more swelling than it is actual fat and pudge), slowly but surely. but you are not alone and i hope you just take comfort in knowing your body is nurturing your baby the best it can, and that is an AMAZING thing--enjoy it!
I'm 34+ weeks and have gained roughly 34 lbs. When I went to my family dr. at first she said "Whoa, you've gained 30+lbs already?", to which I responded "Yup, but I'm still going to the gym and am eating healthy." I was afraid she was going to get on my case, instead she said "Well, you're with the right dr. then. I gained 60lbs with mine!". Phew :) i wouldn't worry about it. As long as the baby is doing fine, that's all that matters!!!!
@spraguebride: I gained 65 big one's. Yeah...so bad. I weighed 134 when I got pregnant and the day I delivered = 199.
I was back down to 140 about 4 weeks after I had my kiddo but I never got past 138 since then.
I gained 37 lbs. (I am 5'10" but was just a few lbs overweight when I got prego...) Your weight will slow down at the end. I was back to my PP size about 2-3 months. Some things still fit differently, but don't worry about it too much, especially if you are going to breast feed. I think the main thing is making sure that you keep the cardio up to prepare for labor, etc.
Edit: I was doing Pilates until about 5 days before CoWBoy arrived, so I still had a lot of muscle which weighs more than fat...yah, that's it... ;)
I was about 40 lbs and cringed in those final weeks after I creeped up past 35. The number just hung over my head...because the overachiever in me was mentally (but never aloud) shooting for the lower 25lb weight gain goal....but I definitely didn't want to starve myself. Doctor never mentioned a thing....
Anyway, 30 lbs melted off almost immediately....5 more dropped a few weeks (maybe it was a month or two) later with a few workouts. Then I started side lying with the breastfeeding (not as much calories as holding them!) and now 6 months later. I'm stuck with about 5 lbs+ that hovers between 4-7lbs to be exact , but who's counting? That's ok...I was able to go shopping and buy some cool new clothes to cheer me up. I'm going to need to start working out eventually or come to accept my new body setpoint.
Don't worry....just keep healthy eating habits when you have baby and everything should go back to normal, more or less. :)
P.S. My weight gain did not slow down much at the end of the pregnancy but I was a week overdue.
I went from 95 lbs (I was 17 and a dancer with eating issues so i was alot smaller than i should have been) to 165 I was ok the doctor was ok with it and after that pregnacy i got down to 115 I was very happy at that weight...
Oh, don't you worry. I'm at just under 38 weeks, and am hovering at around 40 pounds. Hoping it stalls out around there. I definitely wanted to be one of those who only gained 25 pounds, but my body had other plans! I'm sure we'll lose whatever's left afterwards with a little healthy eating and exercise. I'm not too worried about it, though it sucks to feel the strain 40 pounds can put on my body.
i gained 34 lbs, but also delivered at 35 weeks. in the third trimester, i was consistently gaining about 2 lbs per week so if i had gone to full term i'm sure i would've gained a total of 45 or more.
one thing i would say is DO NOT weigh yourself in the days after delivery! common sense would say that since my baby was about 7 lbs, plus the placenta and fluids, i should've dropped like 15 lbs right away right? well, i was exactly the same weight 3 days after delivery and even gained 2 lbs 5 days after delivery! i ended up with A LOT of swelling from water retention from the epidural and IVs (wish someone had warned me about that!) which was expected to flush out in 2-3 weeks. since delivery i've slowly lost 15 lbs from that.
did anyone else experience this? it shocked me, even though i'm not at all concerned about my weight two weeks postpartum, i thought there was something horribly wrong with me until finding similar stories online.
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We are all given this "suggested range" for weight gain of 25-35lbs.
It's hard as a woman to gain weight and feel fat. It's every harder when you gain more than 35lbs. But I know this is actually VERY common and I am not alone.
I am almost 30 weeks and today the scale said 33lbs. I wanted to die! But I try to remind myself that we are all different, I am not eating badly, and MANY women gain more than 35lbs. (AND also lose it all after the baby is born)
I look on the "updates" thread and see so many people with low numbers this far along....like still in the TEENS.
With 10 weeks to go, I am not only going to exceed 35lbs....I am looking at gaining more like 45lbs+ (UGH!!!!!!!)
Would love a little support by hearing from those of you who didn't stay under 35lbs :-)