Post # 1
So far, it’s been my parents.
My parents explicitly said not to include them in any details involved in planning the wedding. I just told them the date that my FI and I decided for the wedding (10/9/11) and they FLIPPED! Basically stated that they wouldn’t show up if we have it on that day because they think it’s stupid to have a wedding on a Sunday.
I haven’t talked to them about it further, but since the venue has been booked and deposit has been paid, I’m not changing the day.
Who’s been giving you the most drama?
Post # 3
Definitely my parents. Specifically, my mom. She did not care for a lot of the things I wanted:
Friday wedding (she won)
wedding in columbus (i won)
fake flowers (she won)
non-floral decorations (i won)
pie bar instead of cake (she won)
uneven bridal party (i won)
no shuttle to the hotel (tie)
etc etc etc. I do take her opinion into consideration (maybe more than i should?) but she has definitely been the one with the most opinions and unhappiness about my choices.
Post # 4
by far #1 is FFIL. Talk about the mentality of a 4 year old. My FI said no to some of the people on his list and because of that he’s said he’ll come to the ceremony but won’t come to the reception. Oh – and instead of talking to us about it, he whines to his wife (they are separated…she lives with us….) who also in turn instead of talking to her son yells at me about it.
Followed closely by our friend who told us to f off and have a nice life because we didn’t invite her (or the other 100 people we could have added to the list but didn’t because of budget)
Post # 5
I had a very smooth wedding planning year. But I’d say friends and family were the the most drama. We had a lot of trouble picking a date that would accomodate everyone! And brother in law ended up not even going to grad school! I was upset I wanted and April or May wedding but we ended up with June since we didn’t want to interfeer with his finals – which never happened! arg.
Post # 6
Everyone. Parents, friends, FILs, and coworkers (I have a coworker who decided my 30 person restaurant wedding isn’t a “real” wedding and feels the need to comment on this and laugh at things like my father being upset with me and not coming to my reception/barely coming to the ceremony). Everyone has been difficult though.
Post # 7
Actually I think we’ve been pretty drama free for the most part. But if I had to choose, it would be my younger cousin who is also a BM. She drove me nuts during the finding dress and shoes process and I know she’ll drive me nuts on wedding day. Other than her…I’d say ME. I’ve been quite the drama queen! LOL
Post # 8
You should add BMs and siblings to the poll :). That’s where my drama comes from :).
Post # 9
My future SIL’s.
Both got engaged 3 months after we did, both jumped ahead of us with wedding dates. One even trying to get married the MONTH BEFORE!
I made a custom monogram off of a free template, which is now on one of their menus…. No longer sharing ANY ideas I have for wedding.
Post # 10
My grandmother. She lives with my parents and has been pretty judgemental! I love her, but I get so frustrated. She hates everything I pick and doesn’t understand why we can’t just have a reception in the church…i.e. “doesn’t your church have a fellowship hall??” “your flower girl is too young” “why aren’t you wearing a veil” “why don’t you just wear a really sheer veil”
drama and wedding planning seem to go hand in hand!
Post # 11
My drama came from my FIL.
To sum it up he called my parents to blatently ask them why they weren’t paying for the wedding & to “inform” them, that the brides family is supposed to pay for the wedding. He also “informed” my parents that my BIL was giving us $500 for the wedding (of which BIL gave us as a gift, we DID NOT ask for it, the money was our wedding present!) and FIL felt the need to say that using this money towards the wedding was wrong.
Ohhh I get so fired up just thinking about it!!!! My husband was SOOOO pissed at his dad!
Post # 12
My FMIL…by far. Any chance for drama, she indulges in it.
Post # 13
Very much to my surprise, my DAD has been the person stressing me out the most while we’re planning. It started off really well, with his offering a generous amount towards the budget with teary eyes and choked-up voice (my dad NEVER gets emotional in front of anyone). But since then it’s been a constant barrage of e-mails, suggestions, and asking “what planning have you done since we last talked?” It has taken me aback because although I love my father dearly, he has never exactly been interested in the details of my life. He usually offers advice and drops the subject. But the wedding has him all aflutter, I guess. 🙂 He has even started weighing in on really odd subjects, like whether I will get highlights/color in my hair to cover up my gray hair. Bizzare!
Post # 14
It would be the IL’s for me! Mostly FMIL and FSIL. Drama, Drama, Drama!!
Post # 16
@JennyW1: I hear you! I think I’m the most anxious about everything. I’m doing my best to keep the drama internalized, but really everybody has been really relaxed and cool about everything. Future SIL has been annoying, but she’s annoying about everything, not just the wedding, so I shouldn’t let her get to me so.