Post # 1
Hello hive So we’re getting corsages for my mother, FI’s mother and FI’s grandmother for sure. Should we get one for FFIL’s common in law wife of over 20 years? She wasn’t a stepmother to mty FI as he was in his 20s and away from home when they got together. She’s a lovely woman and I would like to get her a corsage as well. FI has 2 brothers who are married but both got married down south and FFIL and her did not attend. My mother thinks we should. We haven’t asked what FMIL thinks yet. What have others done in this situation?
This topic was modified 3 years, 3 months ago by LarLa.
Post # 2
Yep. All mothers/fathers, spouses, and long-term partners of such should all get one. We’re getting one for the sister of the groom, too, and bouts. for the 2 brother in laws, who aren’t in the wedding party. They don’t cost that much, but they go a longgg way for family goodwill.
Post # 3
We got FIL’s wife a corsage. She didn’t raise him at all because he was out of the house when they got married but I think all of the parent’s spouses should have one.
Post # 4
LarLa: I would say yes. We have the same situation with FI’s grandpa’s girl friend (that’s what grandpa calls her, but they have been living together for 15 years) and we are! I guess it could help to ask FI if she’s considered family?
Post # 5
LarLa: I agree with your mom. You can’t hurt anyone by including her, but you could cause a lot of hurt feelings if you skip her’s, and you and your FI will have an even better day if you’re surrounded by happy, positive people, including your FFIL’s wife.
Post # 6
I would say the decision should be made by the spouse to be (bride or groom) with the step parent or live in companion. Yes, you can hurt people’s feelings by giving a corsage to some who was an affair partner of a parent. If this is going to hurt FMIL, hubby to be should make the call, and should be the one to explain to FMIL. Dont let FMIL find out when she shows up.
Post # 7
The affair partner comment was just meant as an example. Obviously, I dont know OPs sitch, but her FDH should make decision.
Post # 8
I would get her a corsage. For the few dollars it will cost, you will please her and FFIL greatly. They have been together for 20 years.
Personally, I wouldn’t care what FMIL thinks. She’s had 20 years to move on.