Post # 1
This is coming up as a topic in my own wedding planning. Luckily, I have the excuse of being the bride and bowing out of deciding.
In my family, only family and very close friends are invited to bridal showers. In my fiance’s family (who would be helping throw me a shower) all of the women invited to the wedding are invited to the shower, and it’s not unheard of to invite all of the men as well.
Who do you invite to bridal showers?
Post # 3
I’m inviting female family of FI and myself and close friends of mine and our parents. We’re inviting about 65 people and expecting around 50-60 to come. We have well over 150 females invited to the wedding so there’s no way we’d invite all of them to the shower.
Post # 4
I only invite close friends/family/family friends, and only women. Just make sure whoever is invited is invited to the wedding.
Post # 5
If I were you I would invite female family members of you and your fi and friends that you yourself are close too?
Post # 6
@MrsN14: That’s kind of what I’m thinking – with a 200 person guestlist inviting all the women would practically be another wedding!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Polygon: Close female friends and family members of the bride who are invited to the wedding. Sometimes more than that. It’s up to the person hosting, really.
Post # 8
Etiquette Snob here… lol
When it comes to Bridal Showers there are 4 trains of thought…
1- ONLY Women who are close Family Members & the Bridal Party
2- Any (or all) Women that are invited to the Wedding
These are the most Traditional Bridal Showers.
Then there can be:
3- Showers that are thrown for the Bride by those who know they aren’t going to be invited to the Wedding, but want to do something for the Bride anyhow… such as Work Colleagues – Neighbours – those from a social group (ie Team the Bride plays on – Youth Group she Leads… such as Sunday School / Brownies… – OR a group she Volunteers with)
4- Couples Showers… these have been around since the 1980s. They are held to Honour BOTH the Bride & Groom, and the theme is something that they enjoy together as a couple, and any gifts reflect that… (ie Backyard Grilling – Outdoor Entertaining – Camping – Wine etc)
Hope this helps,
PS… In general a shower is meant to be a “smallish” intimate occasion and not a HUGE party. Typically it is made up of under 20 or so Guests (if a Couples Shower you could double that 20 Men & 20 Women… BUT that would be HUGE)
Altho bigger Showers are nice and more inclusive they are also a HUGE expense and a lot of work to organize etc (never mind the fact that the Guest of Honour will spend TONS / too much time dedicated to opening gifts… which is the main focus of the event… but it shouldn’t drag on for hours on end).
A better plan is to have more than one shower… grouped by Friends & Family and how they know the Bride (ie Family – Friends – College Sorority GFs etc) and in all cases, there should be some representation there if possible from the Bridal Party / Bridesmaids, and the Bride or Groom’s Family (MOB, MOG etc)
Post # 9
We invited all the women, but then again we only had like 90ish guests. I was torn because I didn’t want to look gift grabby, but I also didn’t want anyone to feel like they were excluded. In the end I just figured it was easier to invite everyone.
Post # 10
I voted “other” as I’m not having a bridal shower, however if I were then I would invite family and close friends.
Post # 11
@This Time Round: 20 guests seems like a comfortable number – any more than that you would probably have to rent space rather than having it in someone’s home
Post # 12
Mine is somewhere between “family and close friends” and “all female guests,” at least to my understanding. I’m not planning my own shower, my mom and MOH are. I believe they’re inviting my bridal party, my female friends who are geographically close by (and also invited to the wedding), some family members, and some of my mom’s friends (who are also invited to the wedding).
Post # 13
Close family and friends/bridal party.
Post # 14
whoever you want. I’m inviting all female family members, and female guests that I know. Skipping on inviting girlfriends and wives of FI’s friends unless I know them fairly well.. My sister had a wedding shower that was a backyard BBQ and everyone was invited. Male, female, animal, mineral, vegetable. It’s was super fun.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Close female wedding guests.