Who gets invited to a bridal shower?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who would you invite to a bridal shower?
    Just close family : (0 votes)
    Just family and close friends : (46 votes)
    72 %
    All female wedding guests : (16 votes)
    25 %
    All wedding guests : (0 votes)
    Male and female wedding guests, but only those that are close to us : (0 votes)
    Other (explain in comments) : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m inviting female family of FI and myself and close friends of mine and our parents. We’re inviting about 65 people and expecting around 50-60 to come. We have well over 150 females invited to the wedding so there’s no way we’d invite all of them to the shower.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I only invite close friends/family/family friends, and only women. Just make sure whoever is invited is invited to the wedding.

    Post # 5
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    906 posts
    Busy bee

    If I were you I would invite female family members of you and your fi and friends that you yourself are close too? 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    @Polygon:  Close female friends and family members of the bride who are invited to the wedding. Sometimes more than that. It’s up to the person hosting, really.

    Post # 8
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    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    When it comes to Bridal Showers there are 4 trains of thought…

    1- ONLY Women who are close Family Members & the Bridal Party

    2- Any (or all) Women that are invited to the Wedding

    These are the most Traditional Bridal Showers.

    Then there can be:

    3- Showers that are thrown for the Bride by those who know they aren’t going to be invited to the Wedding, but want to do something for the Bride anyhow… such as Work Colleagues – Neighbours – those from a social group (ie Team the Bride plays on – Youth Group she Leads… such as Sunday School / Brownies… – OR a group she Volunteers with)

    4- Couples Showers… these have been around since the 1980s.  They are held to Honour BOTH the Bride & Groom, and the theme is something that they enjoy together as a couple, and any gifts reflect that… (ie Backyard Grilling – Outdoor Entertaining – Camping – Wine etc)

    Hope this helps,

    PS… In general a shower is meant to be a “smallish” intimate occasion and not a HUGE party.  Typically it is made up of under 20 or so Guests (if a Couples Shower you could double that 20 Men & 20 Women… BUT that would be HUGE)

    Altho bigger Showers are nice and more inclusive they are also a HUGE expense and a lot of work to organize etc (never mind the fact that the Guest of Honour will spend TONS / too much time dedicated to opening gifts… which is the main focus of the event… but it shouldn’t drag on for hours on end).

    A better plan is to have more than one shower… grouped by Friends & Family and how they know the Bride (ie Family – Friends – College Sorority GFs etc) and in all cases, there should be some representation there if possible from the Bridal Party / Bridesmaids, and the Bride or Groom’s Family (MOB, MOG etc)

     

    Post # 9
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We invited all the women, but then again we only had like 90ish guests. I was torn because I didn’t want to look gift grabby, but I also didn’t want anyone to feel like they were excluded. In the end I just figured it was easier to invite everyone.

    Post # 10
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    918 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted “other” as I’m not having a bridal shower, however if I were then I would invite family and close friends.

    Post # 12
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    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Mine is somewhere between “family and close friends” and “all female guests,” at least to my understanding. I’m not planning my own shower, my mom and MOH are. I believe they’re inviting my bridal party, my female friends who are geographically close by (and also invited to the wedding), some family members, and some of my mom’s friends (who are also invited to the wedding).

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Close family and friends/bridal party.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    whoever you want. I’m inviting all female family members, and female guests that I know. Skipping on inviting girlfriends and wives of FI’s friends unless I know them fairly well.. My sister had a wedding shower that was a backyard BBQ and everyone was invited. Male, female, animal, mineral, vegetable. It’s was super fun.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Close female wedding guests.

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