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Who gets invited to rehearsal dinner?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
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    gurlwithapen    October 2, 2010   Allen, Tx - wedding in Athens, TX

    I've got these on the list so far, but who am I forgetting?

    -wedding party and spouses

    -officiant & spouse

    -MOB, FOB & spouses

    -MOG, FOG & spouses

    -siblings

    -flower girl /FG's mother

    -wedding planner

     

    Questionable invitees: (not sure what the etiquette is here)

    -musicians??

    -caterer?? (of wedding day food only)

    -photographer (wedding day photographer only)

    -anyone else i'm missing?

     

     
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    gc762    July 9, 2011   Baltimore, MD

    I've been to several rehearsal dinners, and none of the vendors (officiant, musicians, photgrapher, etc) were included.  Some people do extend the invitation to wedding guests that have traveled from out of town.

     
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    aubrav    October 16, 2010   Louisville, KY

    I don't think you are required to invite any vendors at all.  The rehearsal dinner is for the wedding party, their spouses and immediate family only.  You don't even have to invite your immediate family but most people want to.  It is basically a "thank you" dinner to thank those that have helped you with the wedding, not those who you have paid to help you with the wedding.

    I am just inviting my wedding party, their spouses, my mom and grandparents, my FI's mom and the minister.

     
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    LGenz    May 21, 2011   New Jersey, Wedding in Clearwater, FL

    I have never heard of anyone inviting their photographer/band/etc to the rehearsal dinner. You can also invite immediate family or the out-of-towners but both are optional.

     
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    uwf_cole23    October 15, 2010   Pensacola, FL

    I would think maybe to invite the photographer, if anything. I am getting close with mine and I feel like the more she knows our personality the better she will know what kind of photos we want taken. But I would clear this with your FIL's if they are throwing the dinner for you to make sure there arent too many people.

     

    And my question is should you invite bridal parties' family if they are travelling from out of town?

     
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    suttonista    November 13, 2010   New York City

    No vendors, but if you are able to extend the invitation further, it's always nice to be included as an out of town guest.

     
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    gurlwithapen    October 2, 2010   Allen, Tx - wedding in Athens, TX

    @uwf_cole23 - i think you only have to invite the bridal partie's spouses...

     

     

     
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    gurlwithapen    October 2, 2010   Allen, Tx - wedding in Athens, TX

    Every website says something different. Some say invite anyone who comes to the rehearsal, others say family only...so confusing!

    It's good to hear what real brides are doing....not just what about.com says to do, ya know?  :)

     
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    Ree723    July 9, 2011   Australia

    From the rehearsal dinner's I've attended, it's always been the immediate families of the bride and groom (including siblings' spouses and children) and the wedding party, including their spouses and children.  As they're all coming from out of town, we didn't think we could say 'no children' at the rehearsal dinner.

    For mine, we're having the above people for the first hour and a half or so, then we're opening it up to our guests as nearly all of them are coming from out of town.  We are doing a very casual RD, in a 'beer and pizza' sort of way so it should work well.  If you're having a more formal RD, I am not sure having people drop in will work...

     
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    Prettyinpink89    January 1991   N/A

    I think the list you have covers them all. I don't think I would invite vendors unless (as someone said before) they came from out of town.

     

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