(Closed) Who Gets Invited to the Bridal Shower?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Usually showers are a smaller group however any one invited to the wedding can be invited to the shower.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

You’re going to get some varying answers depending on what is customary where you live.  In my family, every female that is invited to the wedding is invited to the shower.  But we also have bigger showers (75+ people) in a banquet hall, so they’re not just at someone’s home.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m having like 4 showers. (Not my idea mind you) and pretty much everyone invited to the wedding will be invited to one of the showers.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

The only people that “aren’t supposed” to be invited are those not invited to the wedding.  There’s no rule that 100% of the women must be invited.  

IMO, showers are designed to spend time with the women you are closest too – be it young or old.  I’m having a family shower (for the older family friends, thrown by my family – so, other than FI’s immediate family – none of his family friends will be there).  The other is a friend shower – and, it’s all my friends (none of FI’s friends).

Hope that helps!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m having about 20 people–female relatives, FI’s close female relatives, my mom’s close friends, and about 5 or 6 of my close girl friends.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I had a couple of showers!  One was a friends only shower that included my friends as well as some of my mom’s friends.  The other shower was a family only shower which included my family and husband’s family.  I only invited my family and then those that were closest to me and my mom, but not all the women who were invited to my wedding were invited to the shower!!  If your FMIL wants to invite some of her friends to a shower I don’t see why that would be a problem!  It would probably mean a lot to her to have some of her friends show up.  I don’t get where you shouldn’t invite them because you don’t know them, there were several family and friends of my husband’s that I didn’t know, but they were invited to our wedding.  I say invite who you want to and not what others tell you, you shouldn’t do!!!

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