Post # 1
In working through our guest list, I’m trying to figure out how many invites/envelopes we’ll need, and here’s my dilemma:
Fiance is friends with quite a few people through a student organization he is in. However, of all these friends, several of them are coupled up with each other. Do we need to send an invite to each individual (“1 seat has been reserved in your honor”) or one to each couple (“2 seats”)? I don’t want anyone to feel less important because they didn’t get an invite in their mailbox, and I don’t want to make things awkward with the weird plus-one situation (even though both halves of the couple get an invite). Then, if we only do one per couple (not living together), who is it addressed and sent to?
Example: Fiance is friends with A, B, C, D, E and F.
A&B are together, C&D are together, E&F are engaged.
Who does the invite go to? One per couple or all six individuals? None of these couples live together.
Post # 3
Decide whom you cannot imagine spending the day without. Do not invite anyone out of obligation because they do add up moneywise.
If your friends are couples, only send one invite per couple. Otherwise you will spend a ton on invites and postage that go to the same household in many cases.
Post # 4
We are in that situation too. I think that what we are going to do is address the invitation to the person that we are friends with, and then on the inside write both the friend and their other so that they both know that they are invited.
Post # 5
They would all be invited because he’s friends with both people in the couple. It wouldn’t be obligation, we want both of them to be there!
Also, none of the couples are co-habitating. So it wouldn’t be a huge problem to send them out to both, I just wasn’t sure what the etiquette was!
Post # 6
There, I clarified my initial question so it makes more sense!
Post # 7
If he is equally friends with both members of each couples, I’d send them all to the girls or all to the guys. Then I’d address the envelope to Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Smith so it was clear it was intended for the couple and no one was being left out.