Post # 1
In your opinion, does the money a bride receives at her shower belong to her or her and her groom?
Can I go out and buy, say, a new dress with this money OR do I have to put it in the joint checking account?
Post # 3
I think it is for both since gifts are usually for the enjoyment of both people in the relationship.
Post # 4
I think it should be used for both. If I got money from a shower, I would probably put it toward our honeymoon.
Post # 5
I’d say it’s a present for the couple, not the bride… even though I recognize it’s strange to say that about a BRIDAL shower gift… However, you could discuss it with FI and he might be fine with you using that for something for you 😉
Post # 6
I would expect any gift I give at a bridal shower to be for the couple. I realize that traditionally the groom doesn’t attend, but the gift is for the union.
Post # 7
It belongs to the couple but what you do with it depends on the dynamic of your financial relationship.
Post # 8
Aren’t you getting married? All money given as part of any wedding events is for both of you.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Hey, hon (noticed the Smyth ad on your profile :)- it’s for both of you.
Post # 10
the basis of the gift is because you are getting married – i would use the money to buy something for your home so its a shared gift
Post # 11
Agree with PPs. It is for both of you.
Post # 12
Oh I am so going to Hades for this one, but…
…does FI have to be made aware you got money at your shower?? :)~
Post # 13
@BothCoasts: Why would you lie (by obmission) to your soon to be hubby?
@kelly105: You would really buy a dress with shower money? Seriously? I can’t even get passed that point.
Post # 14
@BothCoasts: Seriously? WTH? Yes, he does.
@kelly105: Seriously? WTH? It’s for the couple.
And another Seriously? WTH? for emphasis.
Post # 15
Um.(taking deep breathe)
Sorry. It is not only your money, but his as well. Yes you have to tell him. The reason I gift cash at showers, are so that the couple usually can pool the money together and purchase larger gifts, downpayment on home, furniture, appliances, pr anything really that will help start their lives together….But not for a new wardrobe. I guess that is the price I pay for not just buying them a toaster.
Post # 16
Gifts at the shower are intended to be used by the couple, whether it’s something off the registry or a ‘lingerie’ themed shower.
Dude. You’re about to get married and you’re thinking of hiding money from your future husband so you can buy a dress? Selfish much?
^I don’t mean to be harsh, but c’mon. If you have to ask, you know it’s wrong.