Who gives a speech when? Do I give a speech?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

In the weddings I have been to, the BM and MOH give speeches first, then the parents of both Bride and Groom, then Bride and Groom. I think it ultimately depends on each couple, and their relationships with certain people on who speaks. I’ve contemplated both my MOH and my Bridesmaid!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Good question… bumping!!!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Typically the MOH and BM give speeches right before the cake cutting, which are usually inappropriate and tasteless.  As a guest, I don’t care for speeches.  No one understands the jokes or connections between the speaker and the bride/groom except them, so I find them pointless.  We are having a “no speeches allowed” policy at our rehearsal dinner and wedding.  I’ve asked my dad to say a few words at the reception just to thank everyone for coming and sharing on this special day, yadda yadda yadda.  I may ask FI’s dad to do the same at the rehearsal (they are hosting).  Speeches can get out of hand especially when alcohol is involved, so I am saving everyone the embarassment. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

The weddings I’ve attended have speeches from the FOB and Groom, Best man and sometimes the bride.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@brideanjeza:  I know my opinion is strong, and this was one of my no no’s for my wedding.  I’ve never been to a wedding where I thought the speeches were short and sweet.  Then again I don’t like listening to one person talk and talk (like lectures).  If you want speeches, go for it.  Anyone can give a speech.  So you can chose who you want or open it up to anyone.  I’d rather be dancing and partying!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@Soon2BD-CBee:  “FOB and Groom, Best man and sometimes the bride.”

This. The FOB goes first, then the groom thanks everyone for coming, then the BM speaks. You may (optionally) also have the bride or MOH speak last. This is usually done at the end of the wedding breakfast, although I have been told that more people are choosing to do it at the beginning nowadays, so that the speakers can relax during the meal and not worry about their upcoming speeches!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

At my wedding, I said a short thank you, then my husband did, and then the mic was passed to the Best Man, who for whatever reason decided to pass it on to the other two groomsmen. It wasn’t planned, but then we did the same for the MOH and BMs. Each said a few short sentences, and that was that.

I’m not a fan of speeches, whereby the Best Man or whomever has note cards galore and they just keep droning on and on and on. If you want to, go for it, but I think just a short “Thank you for being with us today” would suffice.

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