Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
Someone once told me that in a relationship, there has to be one person who gives in more often when it comes to fights. Do you think that’s true? If so, who is the one who gives in more often in your relationship? (It’s Mr. Bee!)
Post # 3
T does. But I do too. He’s just so darn wonderful though!
Post # 4
I think we would both agree that he does. He says it’s because I’m spoiled, and I tell him it’s his own fault! There have been very few things that he won’t budge on; in most cases, I figure if it’s that important to him, he deserves to win.
Post # 5
I ususally give in. I hate conflict!
Post # 6
I’m the same as MyFavorite, almost verbatim! He’s always been the one to give, so I know that when he puts his foot down, he means it.
I had a talk with him about it recently tho. Anybody seen the episode of House where Wilson and Amber go to buy a new mattress? Long story short, she gets mad when he buys the one he thinks she wants. She claimed his past marriages failed because he *always* gave the woman what she wanted, and eventually came to resent it. So I talked to my FH about it to make sure he doesn’t do the same!
Post # 7
I give in. I fight louder, but I end up giving in sooner.
Post # 8
My husband has the upper hand! I give in sooner.
Post # 9
I want to say we give and take equally- but I think I am the more flexible one by far. But it is kind of funny- because he seems to think I am the more stubborn one. So I think it depends on what we are discussing/deliberating.
Post # 10
He does, just because he likes to end things as soon as possible…even if it means admitting I’m right even when I’m not…I’m such a brat!
Post # 11
I wouldn’t say he "gives in" … it’s more that he has the ability to calm me down from whatever it is that’s upsetting me and say that he understands where I’m coming from but that we shuldn’t be arguing about it in the first place. Which is usually true. But then again, we dont fight much. I know, cheesy.
Post # 12
I am a terrible fighter (I’m trying to work on it!) and tend to completely shut down so my husband is the one who "gives in"…or maybe it’s more accurate to say he takes the first step at making up so that we can end up coming to a compromise/resolution that works for the both of us.
Post # 13
I give in more, but he gives in quicker when he knows he’s wrong.
Post # 14
HAHA! My FI and I are sooo stubborn! If we go head to head, we just DO NOT back down. To avoid even going there, we’ll usually compromise before a fight. If we do have a fight, we generally agree to disagree.
Post # 15
That’s a tough one. We don’t argue that often. I think we both give in but in different ways. My fiance doesn’t like to be confrontational. I usually catch on to myself if I’m being irrational. He’ll remain calm, and in a way I feel like he’s giving in by not fighting back. Then I realize how stupid of an argument it is, and I give in as well.
Post # 16
I usually give in. Though I usually start the fights