Post # 1
My FI and I are paying for our wedding so does that mean that our best man, maid of honor, and my FI and I give the speeches? Or just the BM and MOH? We think it’d be weird if the dads did, right? Just not sure how it goes. Every other wedding I’ve been to, the bride’s family hosts the wedding so the father gets up and gives a big ole speech. Thanks!
Post # 3
I think it all comes down to a matter of preference. I have seen weddings where parents hosted but only the BM made the speech. Actually come to think of it, all the weddings I been to only the BM spoke. My FI and I are hosting our wedding and so far I only think our BM will speak. If my sister (MOH) or our parents want to speak then we will let them.
Go with what you and your FI want. There really is not wrong way to do it. Just make sure you ask the person if they would do the honour of doing speech then to surprise them.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
Hi – I really think it’s a matter of preference. Generally, I’ve seen the father of the bride, the father of the groom, the best man and the MOH speak. But whatever you feel most comfortable with will work.
Post # 5
It’s definitely up to you. For us, we’re keeping it to best man only (and MOH if she wants). This is because FI’s mom is crazy and totally embarassed his brother at his wedding by reading a really humiliating poem that she wrote for brother’s new wife. (Long story but I will tell you that the title was "Obey Thy Mother-In-Law.") So we’re not leaving ourselves open to something similar happening at our wedding … we’re telling everyone that if they want to say something, they can do so at the rehearsal dinner, but that we’d prefer to keep the celebration moving at the wedding without getting bogged down by too many speeches.
I’ve been to other weddings where they’ve kind of had an "open mic" and let anyone who wanted to come up to speak. That’s not really the kind of thing that we want but I also know that it’s meaningful to other people. It all depends on what you want!
Post # 6
At every wedding I’ve been to the Father of the Bride, the Groom and the Best Man have given speeches. We’ll be asking all those people if they want to speak but it also never occurred to me that I wouldn’t give one. Mr Newt and I are hosting our wedding so I want to thank people personally for being there and helping us. I think tradition is relaxing much more on this these days!