(Closed) Who handles the day to day?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll:
    I do (or will do) it all : (17 votes)
    41 %
    he does (or will do) it all : (2 votes)
    5 %
    We each do (or will do) everything separately : (2 votes)
    5 %
    We split it up pretty evenly : (9 votes)
    22 %
    I do (or will do) our mutual bills, but we each handle some money separately : (3 votes)
    7 %
    he does (or will do) our mutual bills, but we each handle some money separately : (7 votes)
    17 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I am the money mind too.  We have all joint accounts and I know all of the account passwords for everything.  He knows some but he can’t always remember so he has to ask me sometimes.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We having everything jointly, and my husband handles all the finances for our household.  He pays all the bills, watches the budget, and even regularly checks progress on our long-term investments and debts.  I prefer it this way.  ๐Ÿ™‚  Honestly, he keeps me well-informed about what’s going on, but he’s really just more responsible with money than I am.  I am in charge of the dogs (vet/grooming appointments, new toys/ food, etc…), the social calendar, and I take on a lot of the responsibility of household chores (except for grocery shopping and meal planning), which are all things I’m a lot better at.

    Post # 5
    Member
    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I am pretty sure it will be me just because M has forgotten things a few times (eh-heh) and it drives me crazy and stresses me out.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7082 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We pay everything jointly, but I take care of the mortgage and he takes care of all the other bills.

    He does so much around the house, it makes me teary to think about it… but I think I’m more in charge of the social stuff day to day.  (I have to be pretty organized to keep track of my many job responsibilities etc).  And I love to cook for us!

    Post # 7
    Member
    1357 posts
    Bumble bee

    @LatteLove: My dad is an accountant too so I grew up with the man of the house doing the finances!

    I always thought I would put my husband in charge, but I’m having a hard time relinquishing control!

    Post # 8
    Member
    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I will be incharge of it all. Anyway, he says once we’re married he hopes to never deal with another bill again. That’s fine by me, just hand over the paycheque! lol

    His only request is that he gets a weekly “allowance” essentially to play around with. That was his idea, not mine… it’s his money too! As long as he respects the budget, I don’t care if he spends money! He works hard for it. ๐Ÿ™‚  

    Post # 10
    Member
    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    We split everything pretty evenly.  We lived together before we got married, so for the most part, everything is still set up the same way.  We’re each responsible for making sure our portions of joint bills are in the joint account for payments.  We each take care of our own individual credit cards and accounts on our own.  He deals with the insurance, but that’s because it’s through his job.

    Post # 11
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I had a hard time picking which one to vote on because our situation doesn’t really fit.  We’ve been living together for a year and I really don’t see the money changing after we say “I do”. 

    He pays all the household bills, mortgage, utilities, ect.  He also pays his own car payment and insurance. 

    I pay my own car payment and insurance and for my daughter’s needs.  I also pay him $500 a month in “rent.”

    The combined things: I buy all the groceries and he pays all the checks when we go out to eat. 

    At some point between now and I Do I may stop calling it rent, but I doubt much else wil change with the arrangement.

    Post # 12
    Member
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I do all the bookkeeping ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 13
    Member
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I do….mortgage, bills, etc, because I’m the one with the paycheck. He’s been grabbing groceries lately though. But, the bills all come to me because they were all in my name when he was deployed. As soon as he gets a job and a paycheck, we’re setting up a joint account.

    Post # 14
    Member
    683 posts
    Busy bee

    I keep an eye on it, but we make most transactions and budgeting together. We have a joint account and seperate accounts as well, but we both have access to view each other’s accounts- it’s just easier that way.

    Being broke means there is nothing to hide. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 15
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Social calendar! It is so funny how much busier your life gets when you get engaged/married. There are at least twice the functions to keep track of. I think back to when I was single and I had no calendar. My plans were constantly up in the air and being made last minute. Now we have to coordinate everything, but I love it!

    Right now we split things evenly, but once we get married our finances will be combined and I’m assuming I will be the one to manage the day-to-day. FI has a finance degree, so he’s going to invest our money, but I will still have some oversight to that.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    He deals with pretty much everything, the only things I am responsible for is paying my credit card.  Which is good, because I am terrible about remembering to pay things on time!  He usually says something to me about it at the end of the month, and I just pay it when he reminds me!  He’s very open about everything, lets me know when he’s paying each bill etc, and I do check the accounts online, so we’re open about our finances, he just does the bill pay.  He was a finance major, so I let him handle the retirement stuff too.

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