Who has been the most stressful person in your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Who has been the most stressful family/friend person to deal with in your wedding?
    SO, FI, that person you're marrying (maybe!) : (4 votes)
    4 %
    Your parents : (30 votes)
    32 %
    Your So's parents, future-n-laws : (26 votes)
    28 %
    MoH, BM, your bridal party : (16 votes)
    17 %
    Your SO's wedding party : (5 votes)
    5 %
    Your siblings (brothers and sisters) : (6 votes)
    6 %
    Your SO's siblings : (6 votes)
    6 %
    Your children : (0 votes)
    Your SO's children : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    In laws for sure!

    Post # 4
    Member
    417 posts
    Helper bee

    My FMIL has been such a pain, and in part is the reason we decided not to do the wedding here and instead inviting only a few people and heading to Vegas!

    Technically, FIL’s and FSIL have invited themselves to the wedding AND the house we are going to be renting for the 14 of us we want there.  NOT the 20 once you add in FSIL and her 3 kids, and the FIL’s!!

    Post # 5
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @renwoman:  Definitely MIL. However, things calmed down as the wedding date grew closer! It ended being a great day with zero drama!

    Post # 7
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    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    MY mother – hands down!!! She is such a type A, easily stressed and very emotional person.

    Post # 8
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    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @renwoman:  My parents and FI parents have been awesome in the sense they stay out of everything but come along to things if we ask and listen to our ideas. I guess the no money being mixed thing helps that? My sisters have been miserabel awful and the only bit of stress during this whole time. They are selfish self centered and only call me to ask me things about the wedding that directly pertain to them and never ask about my life or anything else beside “oh can I walk down the aisle with my boyfriend?!” and whine if I say they can’t be the center of attention. My FI has one sister in law and she has also been…interesting…very passive agressive about the weirdest least important things even though she has never been like that before so idk what is up there but she is my MOH and we clearly were close so I am chalking it up to her hormones during her TTC because she hasn’t been bad about anything of importance. 

    Post # 9
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    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

    Didn’t want to vote parents, because my dad has been AMAZING, but my mother makes me want to pull my hair out.

    Post # 10
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    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The best man drove me up the wall, he was so needy, and then a month before after tuxes had been paid for and ordered, programs printed, he told us he didn’t know if he’d even be able to get the day off! He did, in the end, but I was not happy until then.

    Then my MIL, not because she was involved or anything, but because she decided she was going to move hours away, and wasn’t sure she’d be able to make it back or not, and my husband’s two younger siblings were both in the wedding as well, so if she wasn’t coming back, they weren’t either.

    Post # 11
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    2164 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    FILs don’t care about the wedding, even complain about it since they have to drive for six hours to get there. My family has to fly 6 hours. WE are looking at a four day drive to get there!!!

    FI’s brother just announced that him and his wife are pregnant…and due any day around our wedding date. They got pregnant almost exactly 9 months before the wedding, almost to the day, like they were planning it! They say they weren’t but…they hate us already so maybe they weren’t planning it and maybe it’s a happy coincidence (oh please oh please go into labor so you can’t come to our wedding!!!)…

    Everyone else has been cool.

    Post # 12
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    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    All of the assholes who couldn’t figure out how to RSVP.

    Post # 13
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    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I actually didn’t want to vote because I had very little stress, mostly, but there were quite a few people who stressed me out a liiiiittle bit in many different areas! So if I voted it would look like EVERYONE haha.

    Post # 14
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    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Definitely FMIL.  Every time we make a decision, she replies with “Well, why not xyz?”  For example, FI ran our date past them to make sure there wasn’t any type of conflict or problem, and her response was, “Why not have it in June?” While we were visiting FI’s parents, she made an appointment for us to look at a venue there without asking us and told the person there we would contact them only if we weren’t coming to see it, esentially forcing us to go or be really rude to the venue.  We invited them to look at venues with us, but they only wanted to come if we “needed their help” not if we just wanted their opinion. She also suggested that we not get married because of my student loans.

    I’ve had a disagreement or two with my mom, but I have no problem standing my ground with her.  With FMIL, the relationship is so stressed that it’s a hard situation to handle.

    Post # 15
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    DH’s brother and SIL, BY FAR.
    – Asking 27 times if their son was going to be our ring bearer (NO).

    – Telling us more than once that we should use the pastor who married them–despite us being Agnostic/Athiests and wanting a secular ceremony.

    – Waffling on whether or not they could even come (he was supposed to be the best man!), literally two months before the wedding (he told DH that they didn’t know if they could afford it–wtf).

    – Almost zero contact through our entire engagement (which stressed DH out and really hurt him/upset him).

    – SIL saying, verbatim four times, “HEY GIRLY!!! It sounds like the wedding is coming together!!!!1!!111” except poorly spelled/text speak (she’s 36!), even though she knew nothing about the wedding except the time and place.

    – Posting on my Facebook wall (not a private message), saying that her parents and sister’s family would “probably love” to come to our wedding, and can we invite them 6 weeks to the wedding. Her parents, incredibly digusting/racist people I HATE, and her sister’s family, people I don’t know at all. 

    Post # 16
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    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Can I vote for myself?  We have nothing to stress about, long engagnement and almost everything is done, but I keep stressing myself out!!

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