Post # 1
Ok, so, I like positive. And though there are a LOT of things in my life right now that are FAR From positive, I wanted to dwell on something I’m grateful for. Something that lightens the load and makes me smile!
My mother-in-law!!! She is awesome so far! Granted, I don’t know her very well yet. But I can tell you, though I’ve met her in person only once, almost 10 months ago when I was still just dating my fiance, she is amazing. And I think possibly I am even more grateful for her because I’m acutely aware that I have no mother-figure in my life due to all the ordeal that has taken place in the past 1 1/2 years with my parents.
I don’t know that my mom will even be at my wedding. To make a long story short (I’ve posted more in-depth with this on here before), we aren’t on speaking terms really. Definitely haven’t been on friendly terms for a while. Which breaks my heart, because we used to be quite close, considered each other “best friends,” etc. But, I cannot keep dwelling on all I have lost and all I will miss out on possibly on this most special day coming up in just ELEVEN DAYS!
Instead, I try to focus on the good I have . . . and my mom-in-law is definitely a blessing! She has been so excited for our wedding and for us in general. She has offered to help in every way and if I ask her to do something, I think she’d jump through hoops to carry it out. And honestly, I didn’t expect this, but she actually CARED about my opinion when it came to picking out her MOG dress. . . . . she asked me for options/advice/input all the way till she chose one. It was sweet!! I couldn’t have cared about what she wore, I figured it would be in good taste and wouldn’t clash so I trusted her. But she asked and got my “approval” just the same.
I look forward to sharing my special day with her as my new “mom.” She is sweet and I feel she really cares about us. She has stayed out of things in a good way, not being controlling or trying to direct everything. Just helpful, encouraging, loving, and enthusiastic.
So . . . now that I’ve “vented” my optimism . . . does anyone else out there have a mom-in-law or future mom-in-law they’d like to say something good about? Something to “brag” on? I’d love to hear it!!!
Post # 3
My FMIL is Ah-Mazing! She is so encouraging, sweet and calm and we have oodles in common. My only complaint…she lives in England, and that’s just too darn far away!
Post # 4
my FMIL is super awesome!! she’s warm-hearted, and caring and just all around great!! we see eye to eye and i feel like i can be myself around her without having to worry being nervous….ya kno, that feeling you get when its still new and you want to make a good impression?? well, sometimes in doing that, you miss out on letting ur in-laws know the real you…. i’m so grateful for my FMIL being the amazing person she is cuz she makes me feel comfortable enough to be real all the time around her….i sooo look forward to building my relationship with her 🙂
my FMIL is super awesome!! she’s warm-hearted, and caring and just all around great!! we see eye to eye and i feel like i can be myself around her without having to worry being nervous….ya kno, that feeling you get when its still new and you want to make a good impression?? well, sometimes in doing that, you miss out on letting ur in-laws know the real you….and it was totally the opposite with my FMIL… i’m so grateful for the amazing person she is cuz she makes me feel comfortable enough to be me!….i sooo look forward to building my relationship with her 🙂
Post # 5
My FMIL is wonderful too!
FI and I live in NYC and all my family is in CA so I only get to see them a few times a year. Up until this year FMIL lived just outside the city and we’d see her at least once a month.
When I couldn’t go home for holidays I was always welcome at her place, she even had me stay all of christmas weekend with her and her monther after FI (then BF) left to go spend time with his dad.
She moved to Maine at the beginning of this year so we see her less now, but she has been amazing in helping plan the wedding.
She’s been contacting all the vendors/visiting all the vendors since she’s up in Maine and we’re donw in NYC. She even offered to make the wedding cake (she used to be a caterer and makes amazing cakes) as well as help sew napkins for the rehersal dinner/reception so we can cut down on linen rental costs.
She’s being so great, I worry that my mom will feel like some of her Mother of the Bride role is taken away. But since she’s in CA it’s not exactly easy to plan from their either.
I have a great relationship with my mom, but I love having a great relationship with my FMIL too! She had 2 sons and is really happy to have some “mother of the bride” stuff to do.
Post # 6
Good for you! I have an AMAZING FMIL. She is the most caring and loving person. My FI is in the military and we did long distance for a loooong time so I’d always be at his parents without him visiting. This brought us pretty close. My mother can be very controlling, opinionated, and more of a “my way or the highway” kind of mom. She’s the complete opposite. ANYTIME i need her she is there. And I love her for that.
Post # 7
My FMIL is actually pretty awesome too! She’s a stay at home mom that takes care of her 25 year old special needs son, bakes incredible goodies at least once a month, is uber-crafty and always sends us homemade cards. She used to be in the wedding industry and did flowers, so she’s been an awesome resource. She has said over and over about how she wants our wedding to reflect us and she doesn’t want to step on our toes in anyway so she’s doing everything she can to help us with what we need. She’s just an amazing person! Her daughter, my FSIL, is really awesome too. They are ALL really excited to be adding me to their family and that’s just an AMAZING feeling! It’s so nice to feel accepted into your new family, you know?
I’m sorry you haven’t had the best relationship with your own mother lately (I can definitely relate to that!), but it soooo fantastic to have someone supportive in your life. Especially, knowing that they’ll always be around!
Congrats on your AWESOME FMIL!
Post # 8
I LOVE my mother in law (yup..enough to say so on FB!) but she is just too amazing not to! She takes such good care of me when I visit. She loves to drag me around her garden to tell me the new plants or flowers she bought at the nursery and makes me my favorite food to entice me to stay over for dinner. She loves having me around and get on my fiance when he’s not helping me in the kitchen. =) She even apologized for not teaching him to cook to make me food. <3
Post # 9
I love my FMIL too. She has been so helpful in the planning – FI got a job working 6 months a year out of state, and she has been so supportive in helping me adjust – taking me to dinner, etc.
Post # 10
I’m just a waiting bee, but my BF’s mom adores me. She jokes that she likes me more than her son! I mean, what’s not to love about me really? 😀
What’s awesome is that I told her I wanted to make a brooch bouquet for my wedding and she went out and bought me 39 brooches. My mother has gotten me 7. I have gotten myself 6. So, it is safe to say that she is excited about the prospect of having me in the family.
She doesn’t have any daughters so I’m hoping to include her in as much wedding stuff as I can…the boy just needs to hurry up! 😀
Post # 11
My MIL is AMAZING!! She completely took me into the family within months of DH and starting to date and she is always really helpful, very thoughtful and super generous!
I hear all the stories of people’s awful MIL’s and look at mine and smile! 🙂
Post # 12
MY FMIL went through a rough patch when we first started dating… but she is amazing, so easy to talk to… i read some of these stories and am so thankful shes not crazy! and though my her ex-husband is the bane of my existance… she is amazing!
Post # 14
I love my MIL too! She’s really awesome and although lives far away was great during the wedding planning and is just soo sweet! I think she loves having a “daughter” now with 2 sons!
way to be positive!
Post # 15
I see my future stepmother-in-law a lot more than my future mother-in-law, but I really adore her. I was kind of terrified when I first met her, because I’d been warned that she doesn’t like everyone and she would rather state her mind than be polite. We get along really well, though… she reminds me of myself in the “no brain to mouth filter” department.
Post # 16
This has been encouraging for me to read since I started this thread!
I realize not everyone has a mom-in-law who is “easy” to get along with. My mom had one that was pretty bad . . . . well, HAS her I should say.
But it’s nice to see/hear that some folks do have great MIL’s and I think it’s great we can look on the positive side for something honest and yet uplifting! Thanks guys!!!