Post # 1
Me and my fiance are in a long distance relationship. I currently live ontario and he lives in Quebec. and while we both live in Canada its about 6h away 🙁 My fiance has put in a request to transfer to a job location closer to my home (where we both met in high school years ago), but it may be awhile before it goes through.
Do you find that venders take you less seriously if your fiance is not with you while you book wedding related things?
My fiance told me i get my choice of most things in the wedding, and that all he cares about is that he gets to marry me :)…oh and that we are having chocolate mousse cake 😛
I plan on bringing my mother along, because although we tend to disagree shes a lawyer and goes over all contracts with a fine tooth comb so to speak, which may be helpfull in preventing overlooking something. The only person in my fiances family that is nearby is his father, who i doubt is interested in looking at venues, transportation etc.
For all of those who are in a ldr and are wedding planning or have planned their wedding already, what have been your experiences? For most things my fiance will try and get time off work so that he can accompany me, but im trying to prepare just in case.
Post # 3
I was in a ldr with my FI before I graduated college and moved to live with him (we weren’t engaged until right after I graduated) however, I do most of the wedding planning without him anyway. Granted, he’s come to any tours or meetings that we’ve had thus far, but any of the initial contact or queries are done by me. He’s basically there to approve the final product, haha. I don’t think anyone will take you less seriously, girls do this by themselves all the time! I even think a vendor might be surprised hearing from a groom rather than a bride when it comes to planning. Everyone knows it’s all about the bride! 😉
Hang in there, I know ldrs can be stressful, but it’s all worth it in the end! =)
Post # 4
There is a whole Long Distance Relationships (LDR) board here with lots of other ladies in a similar situation!
Post # 5
Wow thanks both of you, you have been great help 🙂
Post # 6
My husband and I were in a long distance relationship when we first got together for about 2 years. I understand what you are going through! I agree with checking out the LDR board, there are a lot of ladies who are or who have been in long distance relationships!
Post # 7
Me! Me! Me!
I live in British Columbia & my FI lives in Kentucky. Yeah… over 3000 miles away from each other 🙁
Post # 8
My planning experience has been going great (or, as well as it CAN with him 6,000 miles away from me). To be honest, I find that vendors treat me more seriously. I get the sympathic head-tilt when they find out he’s so far. And last time he was in town, we crammed what felt like a trillion wedding appointments, and my vendors seemed so happy FOR US that he was in town, it was really sweet. It’s tough to plan from afar, but it can be done!
Post # 9
i think the only time it was a bit awkward was when we were deciding on a photographer. i didnt get the “i’m not taking you serious vibe” but sometimes i did get the “where is the fi” vibe. i can understand that somewhat for photographers since you want them to jive with the both of you. most of the time once i mention he can’t make it since he lives out of state i get the sympathy thing also.
one thing that i’ve sorta started to enjoy? i feel A LOT LESS pressure to commit right after meeting with the vendor. i always have a reason why i need to leave and think it over – the fiance!
Post # 10
I am also in a LDR and not very happy about it. We’ve been in a LDR for almost 4 years and we are ending it next summer. Its been a rocky road but I cant wait to end the distance and start planning the wedding together.
So far we’ve been looking around for venues and getting ideas and prices everytime I visit him since the wedding will be where he lives. We have the Church booked already (its his family’s church) and I have ordered my dress two weeks ago so I can be able to take it with me when I move.