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Who in your relationship does the cooking?

posted 3 years ago in Cooking
  • poll: Who does the cooking?
    Me. I don't trust him anywhere near a stove. : (32 votes)
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    Him. He makes the best meals. : (27 votes)
    23 %
    Both of us. We split up the task and often cook together. : (51 votes)
    43 %
    Neither. Take out and/or restaurants all the way. : (0 votes)
    Other. : (10 votes)
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    quirkyparsnip    October 1, 2011   Texas

    As I'm tearing up over cutting onions I was wondering, who does the cooking, you or your SO? I do most of the cooking, but he tries time to time. 

     
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    MightySapphire      

    We both have our specialties.  I like multi-step, complicated recipes that are gourmet eats, and he likes simple throw it all in a pot stuff like goulash.  We're pretty even for cooking (although we love take out too!!)

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    I do the cooking and he does the cleanup!

     
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    cindylouwho    October10, 2010   Jersey Shore, New Jersey

    Without a doubt, me.  Although he did reheat some left over chicken parm for my birthday. 

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I usually do but because I'm working until 8 pm 4 nights a week now (sucks I know) he has been cooking for us.

     
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    Josalyn    August 1, 2010   Coral Gables, FL

    I don't do cooking- or much of anything else really. He always cooks, and if we ever do take-out I buy.

     
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    Lindsy    October 16, 2009   California

    we don't live together yet, but i know i'll do the cooking. i'll try to get him to do the cleaning up.

     
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    thriftsiren    November 2009   Orlando, FL

    I work from home and he has a super-stressful job with long hours so I almost always cook dinner and have recently started to pack his lunch for him. He says he would be more than happy to do it himself, but I just find packing his lunch to be a sweet little way to send him a little love while he's at work. However, he is amazing at breakfast foods, so he makes breakfast for me every weekend. He makes the best omelets in the world and he also makes amazing lattes.... two things I am horrible at! He also made me an elaborate meal for my birthday which was super sweet. I think if he didn't work so much we would probably take turns, but I don't feel burdened at all by having to cook the vast majority of the meals we eat. 

     
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    bluebonnet    July 31, 2010   Houston, TX

    I do it, and I'm a little teensy tiny bit protective over "my" kitchen. But sometimes I let him in there to make pizza from scratch. And he's completely in charge of the grill. :)

     
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    Jeska June20    6/20/09   MD

    We both do a little cooking  Although neither of us are that good at it!  We try, but really only have the weekends together.  So it's not that often.  Sometimes we end up going out to eat, especially if we don't have anything at the house.

     
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    crabcake      

    I do most of the cooking, but if I want breakfast, he's my man!  He makes the best eggs and bacon eva!!  Oh, and pancakes!  But dinner is mostly made by me!

     
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    kellyalvey    10/17/2009   Indianapolis, IN

    He does the cooking while I pick out receipes, pick up groceries and do cleanup.  He is a great cook!

     
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    angelastheboss    November 26, 2009   Chicago

    I am too lazy to cook. I'd rather eat popcorn than prepare a real dinner, and he loves to cook so it works out very well. He makes dinner whenever we don't go out. When I'm on my own I live off of ramen and cheese and crackers and take-out.

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    psychoexgirlfriend    October 10, 2008   Vancouver

    He cooks most definitely. He's much better at it than I am. I do the dishes. Sometimes I'll cook but it's rarely more adventurous than pasta or burgers.

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    He cooks 90% of the time and he is so great at it, I always tell him I feel so lucky!

     
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    happilywaiting       Massachusetts

    I do most of the grocery shopping, he does all the cooking, and we both do the dishes...it makes my mum so happy that I met a man that can cook so she doesn't have to worry that I will starve.

     
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    Abbee    October 1, 2011   Dayton, OH

    I do the indoor cooking, and he is the grill master!  We share clean up and usually end up doing that part together.  One thing I wish we could share is grocery shopping, but it seems like when he does accompany me, we end up spending way more than we do when I go alone. Who in your relationship does the cooking? :  wedding cooking Icon Wink

     
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    Ms. Peachy    3/21/09  

    Up until about a month ago, either I cooked or we ate out. As we started to save up money for a downpayment for a house and to make the last healthy push before the wedding (so proud of the fiance for starting and sticking with WW and keeping me on track!), we've started to cook in atleast 5 nights a week.

    So that I don't feel overwhelmed, he suggested that we alternate days. I take MW, he has TH and we work together for the weekend. And the standing rule is, who ever doesn't cook is in charge of cleanup.

     
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    maryjane    September 9, 2009   Grand Forks, ND

    Other... I cook most of the time, but he'd cook if I asked him to. He's kind of picky, so it's a challenge for me to cook things he likes while also 'expanding his horizons' as far as food goes. We eat out once or twice a week, which is a huge improvement over 6 months ago, when we were eating out nearly every day.

     
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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    I do the cooking, he eats the food, we both do the clean-up.  He swears that when we buy a house big enough he will get a bbq and do some grilling, but I'll still have to do all of the side dishes.

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    Amanda_V    Oct. 3rd, 2009   Kentucky

    We take turns on cooking. If he comes to my parents house, I cook. If I go to his house, he cooks. ACTUALLY, we both do the cooking at his house. lol.

     He's a real good cook. He's awesome when it comes to cooking steaks. lol

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I cook most of the time since "my cooking tastes better." Hes good at breakfast so on the weekends either he makes breakfast or we do together. And hes pretty good about helping me if I need it

     
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    FutureTacco    7/10/2009   Connecticut

    We both are pretty terrible at cooking... can you say Hamburger Helper?!

     

    We bake a mean cookie, though!!

     
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    chemchopity    10/04/2008   Dayton

    he has one meal he can make perfectly, homemade mac & cheese, other than that, it's all me.

     
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    Grnmel    6/27/09   Ann Arbor

    We usually cook together and nine times out of ten it includes him twirling me around in the kitchen.  (insert rolling of the eyes here, but it's true) 

    It's some of my favorite moments together.

     
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    December    December 12, 2008   Minneapolis,MN/Jackson,MS

    He's a trained chef, but I ironically end up doing most of the cooking. I guess it's working this way because I'm still unemployed and I've got the time. Our cooking styles are very different though -- he is very much the kind of guy who says, "Oh, we've got bratwurst in the fridge? Then it's bratwurst every day until we run out!" and then occasionally he gets creative and comes in and tells me to not touch ANYTHING because he's making a masterpiece. :) I'm not confident enough to just make stuff up yet, so I follow recipes and try to make sure that we have a protein, starch, and vegetable, and that we're not eating chicken every night.

    I just wish that we had stuck to the rule of the one who makes dinner is exempt from dishes, because now he goes to work right after dinner and I'm stuck with them! 

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    dorsay    August 2009  

    Mr. D makes much better food than I do Who in your relationship does the cooking? :  wedding cooking Icon Sad but I can bake!

     
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    mssushi    March 2009   Hershey, PA / Kaneohe, HI

    We take turns doing the cooking, but I pretty much always clean up. How fair is that? :P

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    driftslikesmoke    January 2, 2010   Atlanta, GA

    We are such total foodies! I love love love spending time in the kitchen together. I'm more of an instinct cook, and I make wonderful comfort food. He, on the other hand, loves to follow a recipe and try more gourmet meals. It's a fun balance!

    I do almost all of the baking, though... :)

     
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    rnc620    June 20, 2009   STL

    We take turns cooking.  He loves cooking.. it's his new hobbey.  We actually just had a pampered chef party just so he could get a new set of knives. Next he wants a new set of pots and pans and then some cast iron.  And he is absolutely in love with Alton Brown.

    I've been cooking and baking since I was a kid.  I'm old school.  Nothing amazing but I can almost always find a bunch of stuff in the fridge to throw together and make a good meal.  I make him nervous in the kitchen because I don't follow a recipe.  I just add stuff until it tastes good.  He's still super structured and a recipe follower till the end.

    I think once he gets more comfortable we'll be able to cook together more.. and I can't wait :)

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    rnc620    June 20, 2009   STL

    @mssushi... I'm totally with you on the cleaning thing.  Boys are slugs.. haha

     
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    ipodgirl    August 8, 2008   Living in Bay Area/Wedding in Cancun

    My husband is a better cook than I am. I'm good at doing dishes though!

     
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    honeylove26    February 1, 2014   Illinois

    I love to cook and he knows it, so he pretty much leaves it up to me! But on the occasional night when we do frozen pizza or order-in, he's the chef Who in your relationship does the cooking? :  wedding cooking Icon Wink

     
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    quirkyparsnip    October 1, 2011   Texas

    Awesome, I love that so many cook together. I hope to work up to that in the future.

     
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    jkoala    May 29, 2010  

    I do 99% of the cooking, not that I don't trust my FI.  He just doesn't like cooking and I do.  Some days, I am tired or busy and ask him to cook or help and he does, which is nice.  Even nicer on the days that I do cook, he takes care of all the dishes

     
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    MissStellar    May 2, 2009   MI

    I voted 'other.' I tend to cook because he doesn't really know how to cook. He can make about three things, so he'll make those every few weeks. But, usually he can't do more than just boil water or make hamburgers.

    I like to cook, so I prefer it. I get home around 6 pm M-F, so we tend to each at 7 or 8 pm everynight. Kinda late, but it works :)

     
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    penguin    June 7, 2008   Berkeley, Ca

    Mr Peng actually does the dessert making, because I don't like dessert so never think to make any (wow, selfish... but in my defense, it is bad for you!).  I do all the meal making other than that.  Mr Peng is getting great at desserts!  He makes creme brule!

     
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    Yin    June 2, 2010   Delaware

    We share the cooking duties for the most part.  I'll usually get inspired to make a dish, and he'll be there to help me prep and get the table ready.  I will admit that he is the better cook, and I enjoy his home cooked meals.

     
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    Liz.smith    May 23, 2009   TN

    We share it. He's a great cook most of the time, but really doesn't do any baking. I love to make casseroles and stuff.

    Our main thing is I'm a vegetarian and he's a huge meat fan, so typically he cooks the meat, and I make sides, and every one is happy!

     
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    renaissancetrophywife    September 25, 2011   San Francisco/Wine Country

    When we first started dating I was way too busy to even think about cooking!  Now, he cooks for me on special occasions but I'm the one doing most of the cooking... it's actually pretty fun playing around in the kitchen.

     

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