Post # 1
Ok so this post might be TMI, but I am kinda curious and worried at the same time.
My question is who (SO or I) should be the person to take control when we finally do the “deed” on our wedding night.
Here is some background. I am not a virgin, but my SO is, and we are waiting til our wedding night and have waited for FOUR years already. Well now we have one more year to wait. But I know both of us are going to be so ready to finally do it on our wedding night. But I wonder which one of us should make the final “push” haha!
I dont know who should do the honors? lol. What I mean by this is a him on top or me on top kind of thing. Should I hand over the reins to him since he will be my husband and it is his duty? IDk i think I know the answer but I still would like some input from some of you bees that have gone through this.
Post # 3
@katy13: try not to plan it so much in your head, it will come naturally as to who initiates and who does what…if you plan too much you might get nervous when the time comes..have fun and enjoy:)
Post # 4
You are overthinking this, fact is, the two of you will more than likely be blazing at the bit to get er done, so I would think of it as a team effort, regardless of who is where or doing what.
Post # 5
Just do whatever feels right on the night. A little spontaneity makes it so much better. I would probably expect the non-virgin to show the vigin how it’s done, but there is no particular right way to do it. The whole ‘husband’s duty to take charge’ idea is all bollocks anyway 😉
Post # 6
If he is a virgin, it will probably be over before you even get a chance to worry about this…
Post # 7
No need to fret about it. Just let it unfold. If he seems a bit stiff (no pun intended) and nervous, and you’re feeling like taking charge, then go for it! If he seems to take the lead, let him.
Post # 8
Be prepared to not do anything after the wedding. You might be exhausted, so don’t be disappointed if you wait until the morning.
Are you sexual now? Meaning do you kiss and make out? I would plan on doing that the wedding night (if you do anything) and see where that takes you. Don’t over think it!
Post # 9
@MeelaMay: Yeah I would look at the husbands duty that way as well, but will he when it comes down to it? I dont want to steal his thunder.
@Cory_loves_this_girl: Hahahaha, I died laughing when I read this. But, we do everything else and he has a lot of endurance with that so I dont think it will be that short. Now four years ago I would have said it would be less than a min. but now I think he will do good.
@bowsergirl: I could never see him being nervous, but I never know. We are not a totally cut off couple. We are very intimate with each other just not all the way (Penetration). So maybe he will take charge and I wont have to make any decision.
I know I am probably making way to big of a deal of it. But I was just curious. I know once the night comes I will proabably not care about any of it one bit. In the end we will and it will be amazing. Fingers – crossed. lol
Post # 10
Why not let nature takes it course? You are putting too much importance on something that should be natural and initimate. You have so many other things to concern yourself with in planning the wedding and enjoying spending time with your FI put this to bed no pun intended.
Post # 11
@katy13: honey, it’s going to last 15 seconds I’m sure so I don’t think you should worry about positioning. Lol 😉 If anything, maybe think of fun ways to keep it going over the honeymoon. Plan sexy little surprises and don’t worry about the first time. Seriously you both will basically attack each other…
Post # 12
Oh and mouth and vagina sensations are VERY different so don’t be surprised if his endurance is different than what you’re expecting. Awww, I’m excited for you guys. 🙂
Post # 13
I think more often he initiates, but its pretty equal.