Post # 1
Every morning when I drop DD off at daycare, the woman who works there in the mornings takes her out of her car seat while I stock her cubby with her bottles, diapers, etc for the day. By the time I actually leave, DD is out of her seat and in the woman’s arms. Oftentimes, I see her kiss DD on the top of the head or on the cheek, and I think it’s so sweet that she cares so much about my baby that she can’t help wanting to kiss her!
But then I thought that in some ways, that’s a little weird … I mean, she isn’t family or anything; she’s just someone who works at my daughter’s daycare. I have no problem with her kissing the baby, but I wonder where I would draw the line. Who is ‘allowed’ to kiss my baby? When we were in Canada meeting the extended family a couple weeks ago, pretty much everyone who held DD ended up kissing her. (she has HUGE cheeks that I dare you not to kiss if you’re holding her). I always just thought it was sweet, even though these were some pretty distant relations who had never even met DD before. Even my cousin’s new girlfriend who I’d never met before had to plant her lips on DD’s apple cheek.
Where is the line for you? Is it more about how close they are to you/the baby, or about cheeks-vs-lips, or age of the child? I don’t want to assume that because I’M okay with people kissing my baby, that everyone is okay with it and I can just walk around lipping all over everyone’s offspring.
For reference, here is that kissable face:
Post # 2
There’s a gravitational pull to your DD’s cheeks that made me kiss my computer screen just now!
JK (but seriously, she is totally kissable)
I don’t have a kid yet, but I totally kiss my friend’s kids… and I’ve even caught myself kissing the babies I take care of in the church nursery. So… I blame the cuteness of babies. They are just kissable.
Post # 3
However, I should add that I don’t just walk around kissing stranger’s babies. I’m usually friends with the parents or have been caring for the child.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
My MIL works in the infant room at a daycare, and she ADORES those babies – she talks about them all the time. I think it’s really sweet – since she cares about them so much, I’m sure she takes great care of them, and she looks forward to seeing them every day. Honestly, I don’t think it’s a big deal – you should be glad that your baby’s caretaker loves her that much! Better than her just grabbing the kid out of your arms, right? But yeah, I would draw the line at people other than friends, family, and caretakers kissing my baby.
Post # 5
howtobeawife: glad I’m not the only one whose lips are drawn as if by magnets to the cheeks of babes! I kiss my niece like it’s my job, and if I’m holding DD? Forget it. I probably kiss her every two to three seconds. I can’t stop. I have a problem.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
I worked in a daycare so I can relate. Even though the people in the daycare are not your family, you have to remember they watch your baby ALL day, catering to her various needs and playing with her. It might seem strange at first, but the women who work in daycare do it because they love children and taking care of them. They love your daughter, so be happy they’re actually caring for her! I don’t have children of my own so I can’t relate in where the line is for me, but having worked in a daycare I hugged my kiddos (I had 3/4 year olds) all the time, and they hugged me, because I was their teacher and friend. I would take it as a positive thing. 🙂
Post # 7
iarebridezilla: Weeeeell…. I don’t have a kid, but man yours is soooo cute and those CHEEKS! Mwah!
Post # 8
I have to say, I almost always kiss the top of the head if Ii’m holding a baby. So, for me, if they’re close enough to hold the baby – they’re close enough to kiss the baby! This is also a convenient way of thinking about it because as kids get older, you hold them less, and also less appropriate to kiss them all the time!
Post # 9
Mrs. Wallaby: cwedding14: don’t get me wrong, I love that she kisses my baby!! I just mean it’s weird like if you boiled the situation down to its most basic parts, it kind of sounds strange … a person I barely know, who is paid to watch my child, kisses her right in front of me. I can just imagine parents who would be SO VERY NOT OKAY with that! But like you pointed out, I am just thrilled that she loves my baby so much that she can’t even wait until I leave to start kissing her. I know she is in good hands 🙂
Post # 10
I dont know. I guess if I trust the person enough to be holding the baby they can kiss the baby. One person kissed my child on the mouth and that was jsut too weird to me. I had to say something to the person because I wouldnt even let someone related to my kid do that. And the person was not related to us!!!!!!!
Post # 11
I would at a daycare and kiss the babes all the time. They’re too cute and sweet! However, once they get to about 3 I don’t. It doesn’t seem as appropriate when they get older.
Post # 12
bluefrog33: yeahhh, kissing on the mouth is different … mostly because of germs. I’m no germaphobe, but other than blood transfusions, there’s not really any more effective way of passing along germs than putting your mouth onto someone else’s mouth. And babies don’t have the best immune systems! Then again, my baby’s mouth is usually covered with a sheen of drool, snot, and baby barf, so I don’t think anyone is exactly chomping at the bit to kiss her on the lips 😛
Post # 13
iarebridezilla: I would draw the line at random strangers. Like If I had a baby and was taking a walk outside and some random person told me my kid was cute, it would be fine, but then if they leaned down and kissed my child, I would kind of freak out. I also work at a daycare/preschool and work in the infant classroom in the summers when I am not in school and I kiss those babies ALL the time! You just grow to love them and they ARE SOOOO kissable 🙂 By the way, your baby is SOOO cute!!!
Post # 14
I don’t really have any thoughts on the kissing thing since I don’t have a kid of my own, but I just wanted to chime and and say…Those Cheeks. They have their own tractor beam! Your baby is vicious cute.
Post # 15
That daycare worker spends probably 40+ hours with your kid while you work. You might not know this woman that you’ve entrusted your baby to but, to your child, this woman is a very vital part of her life. I’d be glad that my child was receiving affection from a caregiver rather than no affection at all. Kids need affection and know they are loved. If you’re not there to do it yourself, be glad someone else is.