Post # 1
I am so annoyed right now but I am trying not to vent and complain. So I’m just going to make a poll and hope that the answers keep me entertained and occupied before I lose my [email protected]&!
*EDIT* Those of you who say that it is your FI, PLEASE tell me how you deal with this. I am going crazy over always having to wait on him all the time!!! I thought girls were supposed to keep the guy waiting?!? Not the other way around!!! Grrrr!!!
Post # 3
hahahahaaa, sorry :). I know what you feel, I get so annoyed when my fiance makes us late!
Post # 4
I’m ALWAYS late for everything and my DH is ALWAYS early. We actually used to really clash in that way but we are used to it now. My being late always bothers him and his being early is the thing that bothers me most about him… lol
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Ah, my FI is Army Reserves… so he really knows the importance of being on time lol. He’s literally had it drilled into him haha. I have a friend who is ALWAYS running late though… she just always seems to either be over-booked or she just doesn’t think that she reallly has to be there at a certain time. I just tell her we should meet 15 minutes earlier than we technically need to…
Post # 6
it’s me but I like to be on time or “fashionably late”..He likes to be early!
Post # 7
I’m usually on time, but my FI thinks being on time means you’re already 15 minutes late!
Post # 8
Being late makes me feel physically ill, honestly! Even if it is to something not that important. FI isn’t chronically late or anything, but he doesn’t have the same sense of urgency that I do. I work around it by building in some extra time when we’re going somewhere and starting to give (kind, non-bossy) reminders 30 minutes, 10 minutes, 5 minutes before we need to leave. He just doesn’t have that natural sense of time that I do. And God help you if he gets in front of a screen, especially a TV… he is totally sucked in with no concept of what is going on around him.
I once had a roommate where we had to drive separately to the same event, just because her being late was STRESSING ME OUT. I wouldn’t hesitate to do that with FI if he were chronically late and it were causing stress in our relationship. It isn’t worth me getting stressed and snippy and him feeling resentful and bossed-around. If it really became a problem I’d just calmly ask if we could go separately to keep me from becoming a basket case.
Post # 9
We’re not late when it comes to important things… but sometimes we both run late with less important things… and we switch off. Sometimes it’s me, sometimes it’s him. lol we suck ^_^
Sorry if this is obvious/has been done, but have you told him how much it bothers you?
Post # 10
I give him interval warnings at 30/15/5 minutes. My dad always did that growing up and I do it to my friends and other family, too 🙂 I think “be there at 4” means get there at 3:55, DH thinks it means leave the house at 4.
Post # 12
I make him wait, but only because he gets ready in like 5 seconds! I am not late though. I am actually very punctual. But I just take longer than him, so he gets impatient regardless. 🙂
Post # 11
@alotlikelove: FI is the late one. Not horrifyingly so, but late enough to piss me off. I’m almost always early. He says it’s a cultural thing, and I know that’s a factor… but it makes me insane! One thing I do to cope is tell him “we have to be there at 9” when we really have to be there at 9:30. Or tell him that it’s alread 2, when it’s really 1:45, and we’re trying to catch the 2:15 bus haha. He’s improving, but I still feel the need to tell time-fibs.
Post # 13
@HappilyEverAfter54: We are the exact same way!
Post # 14
@yanamari: I definitely have! So for important events, I do just tell him a time earlier than the actual schedule. However, what really irritates me is when we have nothing to do but I’m just waiting on him to pick me up. For instance, tonight, we went to a Christmas play in our hometown. We are just here for the weekend and actually live 2 hours away now. We left the play early and didn’t finish it because he said he still had to get his stuff together and clean up his dad’s house (where we stayed). Well, here we are now, almost 11 pm and we are just now leaving!!! Unbelievable! Now we won’t be home until about 1 am and I am a teacher who has to work early in the morning tomorrow 🙁
Post # 15
I usually just get really annoyed at him and start a fight .
It hasn’t worked so far, so I’m interested in reading the other comments.
Post # 16
@Ellegee: aaah totally get you on the “he thinks 4 means leave the hosue at 4” thing! FI also has a habit of telling me “on the way,” which actually means he’s putting on his shoes or about to get in the car. GRR! i tell him that i understand english is his second language, but he has preposition problems. that shit ain’t ON the way, it’s BEFORE the way. ARG!