Post # 1
My fiancee and I made the decision to hyphenate our last names, us both using MyLast-HerLast. But I keep on hearing a million horror stories with people having issues with a hyphenated name. We both like our last names. I have a brother and male cousins who will continue on my last name, but my fiancee only has sisters, so we definitely want to carry on her unusual last name. Any thoughts/advice?
Post # 3
I think it’s so sweet that you want to carry on her last name, JillianBean! We had a smiliar situation… We wanted to hyphenate but were worried about the hyphen causing problems, so in the end we are both taking my last name as a our middle name and changing our last names to his last name. I’ve never liked my middle name, but have always loved my last name, so it works! Socially, we can go by the MyLast-Hislasts but when it comes to legal stuff or things where a hyphen might cause drama, I can just use the new last by itself.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heritage Square Museum
we’re planning to hyphenate as well! I mean any real problem arise for our poor kids who could end up with a her last name/my last name/future spouse last name debacle. And what if two kids with hyphenate last names married? LOL. I guess that’ll be a problem for future generations, because for us it feels right to take both last names! 🙂
I’ve never really considered taking one last name as a middle name, but it keeps popping up and it seems like a good compromise!
Post # 5
We have chosen to keep our last names, but hyphenate our kids names. We thought about creating a new name, but we decided against it. We are happy with keeping our names, but are a bit concerned about the stress it wiill impose on our children.
Post # 6
I am taking my fiance’s last name and I cannot wait. My present last name will become my middle name and I will drop my middle name. The only thing I am dreading is paying $150 for the change
Post # 7
@thefuturemrscox, are you having a legal marriage? If so, you may not need to pay to change your name. Both the Social Security office and the Passport office will now accept a same-sex marriage certificate as proof of a name change. If your local motor vehicles office will accept a passport and/or social security card as aproof of the change, you may not need to pay for a name change.
Post # 8
I am keeping my last name for immigration purposes 🙁
I wanted to carry my partner’s last name but immigration prevent us for doing that.
Post # 9
FH has a hyphenated name, and he’s changing it so his new name will be FirstName FirstLast and LastLast, instead of FirstName FirstLast-LastLast (he has no middle name now). I am taking his last name (LastLast).
Post # 10
We are taking an all new name. My fiance is changing her name, to her grandmother’s maiden name, and after we marry I will take that name as well.
We have kids, but their names will remain the same… honestly I’ve been living with that for a while now anyway, my firstborn child has my surname. I married and didn’t change my name (1st marriage) so my son and I still shared a surname, but then I had a baby with him and so my second son has his father’s last name. Then we split and I met my fiance and she has a daughter who has her last name; so three kids in the household, all go to school together and so forth but each has a different last name. It’s never been an issue and the kids don’t care. My eldest is 18 and can change it to whatever he wants now… my 12 year old, well, I would need his father to agree to the name change and he would NEVER agree to that, so I don’t see the point in making an issue out of it since my son doesn’t care either way.
They know who their family is, names or not.
I am excited about our upcoming NEW last name though. I just wish it wasn’t going to be so expensive to make it happen.