Post # 1
I am not. I dont know really anyone that is actually and this breaks my heart to think that my nieces and nephews aren’t going to have any interest in hanging out with me when they get older 🙁
I have lots of siblings and we are all pretty close and now that we are older (25-35) a few of us ended up in the same city permanently, so I hope hope hope my kids will be close with them and vice versa!
Anyone else think about this kind of thing?
Post # 3
i have a lot of siblings too! 2 brothers, 2 sisters – 8 sister in laws and 6 brother in laws. for now we are lucky that most of us are in the carolinas with a few exceptions in DC but i think about this a lot. Im not super close with my aunts and uncles but i see them occassionally (weddings and funerals with the occasional christmas in between) – when we were little we spent a lot more time with them but we were all in the same general area
but i totally get what you are saying i have a nephew who is 1 and i adore him and i hate to think of a day that he doesnt know me or my family that well – i take for granted we are all so close together still and that at anytime someone could up and move. Family has always been really important to me so i hope i can keep the bond as we all grow within our own familys (husbands, kids).
Post # 4
Yes, that is exactly how I feel. I don’t have any kids yet but i have two nieces and a nephew which will probably double within a year. I adore them and they are always excited to see me…I’m just nervous it won’t last especially with my nephew being 3 hours away.
I just want to always be the cool aunt they call or want to visit!
Post # 5
Interesting question! I’m an only child so my nieces and nephews are adopted! Most of them are close cousins’ children. Looking at my family, I have a good relationship with my parents and most of their siblings. One of my uncles lives on the other end of the country and hasn’t made time for a relationship with anyone in the family in a long while. I am close with my one Great Aunt who was like another mom to my dad, and on my mom’s side I was close to all my Grandma’s sisters. In fact their grandchildren are more like first cousins than second or third cousins! The interesting thing about that is that several of my cousins died in separate tragic car accidents as teenagers or young adults. We really consider ourselves very blessed to have had a great family relationship, and to be able to be there for their parents… in two cases the child lost was an only child… so their family dynamic has changed significantly…
Post # 6
I have a very small immediate family with 2 uncles and no aunts (my dad’s 2 brothers never married and my mom is an only child). I’m very close to one of my uncles and he was so influential in my life.
I’m also extremely close to my 2 sisters, so I know our kids will grow up loving their aunts & uncles. I think it’s a great relationship to have.
Post # 7
I am and I know quite a few people who are. In fact, my aunt is going to be in my bridal party (and she was co-MOH in my sister’s wedding). For as long as I can remember, she and my uncle were the “cool aunt and uncle.” As kids, we would stay with them for a week every year during summer vacation and spring break and have a blast.
I think that if you have a constant presence in the lives of your niece/nephew, you stand a good chance to remain close to them when they become adults.
Post # 8
I am very close to my aunts and uncles- some more than others, naturally, but mostly I feel really close, nurtured and loved from my aunts and uncles and they are a huge part of my life.
Post # 9
My family was all over the country and I’m still very close with all of them. Any time there is a holiday we all gather together, everything revolving around meals. My cousins are like siblings, since I’m an only child. But we’re all very close!
Post # 10
It gives me hope to hear about people being so close with their aunts and uncles. I love mine, but we just never got close, I think its because everyone had so many kids of their own they were just too busy to get us all together.
Missbliss and Missmaine, its wonderful to hear how close your families are, extended and immediate.
Post # 11
I am close to my aunts and uncles. Much closer when we lived on the same continent but we still manage to keep in contact and I see them once a year. I am uber close to my siblings. They all live in the same town except me. I’ve been quietly lobbying FI that we should move to where my family lives because I want us all to live near each other. Anytime I visit home and I come back to NYC, I always feel so lonely 🙁
Post # 12
@mrsreid: I think if you have a relationship with your nieces and nephews when they are young, I can’t imagine why that would change when they grow up! I’m sure they will love you lots and continue to be their cool aunt that they remember always being good to them..:)
Post # 13
My aunt is more like my mother than my mother. lol
Post # 14
I think the relationship with your nieces and nephews will completely depend on how much effort you put forth in having a relationship with them. I grew up in a military family and we were NEVER close to my aunts and uncles. I have several with whom I am extremely close because they made the effort, called on birthdays, visited for graduations etc. Other aunts and uncles I haven’t talked to in 10+ years. I never felt, as the ‘child’, that it was my duty to establish a relationship with them.
I have a very close relationship with my nephews and niece, but I make it a point to be around. I take them to movies, sometimes one-by-one, sometimes in a group. I always volunteer for free babysitting because it gives me time alone with them. When I was living far away, I flew home for births and my nephew’s First Communion. I think if you do the same and put forth the effort, you will be very close to them, distance not withstanding!!
And btw, I fully intend to take advantage of free babysitting when FI and I have our own kids!!