Post # 1
(This is on the Christian board because we are doing readings from the Bible, but obviously anyone’s advice regarding any type of reading is welcome!)
We want to have 2 of our favorite bible passages read at our ceremony, and I’m unsure as to who to ask to read them. At most weddings I’ve been to, readings are done by someone who is not in the bridal party. Is there a reason for that? The people who we would be most comfortable asking to read are our close friends in the wedding party.
I would really like to have a bridesmaid read one passage and a groomsman read the other one. I have just never seen anyone in the bridal party do readings so I’m starting to wonder if there is some kind of logic against it.
Post # 3
I think you may have anyone read. We chose non-party members as a way to involve more of our family and because the Bridal Party is already so busy that day. We had one grandma and three aunts do our readings, but it wasn’t strategic, just that we really wanted to involve them in this way and they were comfortable speaking to a large crowd.
Post # 4
We’re keeping our bridal party small – my sisters are my bridesmaids, FI’s brother is the Best Man, and his friend a groomsman. We have 1 Flower Girl. We each have selected a close friend to do a reading – we really wanted to give them a special role in the ceremony. This way they read, we’ll put their names in writing on the program for doing so, and I’m hoping that means that they can walk in with the priest as part of the opening processional.
I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t select someone from your wedding party though. Personally, I would just make sure that the person reading is someone that is familiar with church readings. If they don’t go to church at all and aren’t really familiar with how that sort of thing goes, it might not be a suitable role for them. Just a thought!
Post # 5
I know I’m irrational but I kind of hate it when only bridal party members do readings. It makes me think, “Do they not like any of their other friends and family?”
What is the reason you feel most comfortable with the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen doing the readings? We have three readings and we’ve chosen a close mutual friend, a sibling who is not in the bridal party, and a godmother. We based it partly on the relationship and partly on who would be good at the job.
Post # 6
I recently attended a wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor gave a reading but only because the person originally intended to do it couldn’t make it last minute.
I think ultimately, you can pick whoever you want, bridal party or not. The readings are just a good oppurtunity to involve people that are close to you that are not in the bridal party, but if you’re not dying to squeeze in your best friend from 6th grade or your very close aunt-so-and-so into your ceremony don’t sweat it.
Go with who you are comfortable with!
Post # 7
We are having one of our close freinds who is not in the wedding party read a poem! I have 3 bridesmaids and Fi has one groomsmen, I would have wanted her to be a bridesmaid but really didnt want to have 4, so I asked her if she would do the reading!
Post # 8
We are asking my godmother and an aunt Fiance is very close to to do the readings for us. I wouldn’t ask my bridal party, because they already have a position of honor in the ceremony, and I see the readings as a way to honor other family members or friends who have played a big role in our lives.
Post # 9
We have to figure out who will do our readings also. I think that I will ask my cousins to do the readings because I’d love to involve them in the wedding. I know, as of right now, we have one reading picked out. I don’t know if we’ll be adding anything else yet. I haven’t asked my cousin but I hope she agrees to do it. I think it’d be a special way to include her in our big day.
Post # 10
We had three readings. One read by a bridesmaid, one by a groomsman, one by my sister (she is in high school and is sort of a loose cannon, which is why she wasn’t a proper bridesmaid).
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We’re having 2 readings- John 15:9-14, 17 and the Canticle of Love- it’s a response from the United Methodist Hymnal, but we’re doing it as a reading- it’s a compilation of 7 different passages, and includes Corinthians 13- I LOVE it.
My “godmother” (not technically, but basically) will be doing one reading, and I’m torn on the second person. My brother and I had a falling out earlier this year (family wedding DRAMA over no kids invited), and I’m still healing. I’d like him to be part of the wedding somehow, but I’m not sure I’m okay with him talking about love and peace during the ceremony- I may ask him to do the blessing at dinner instead. In that case, I’ll ask my Mom’s best friend to read the Canticle-I showed her the reading a month ago, and she also loved it.
Post # 12
We had two friends who were not in the bridal party perform our readings. We didn’t choose anyone from the bridal party because we wanted to be able to include additional close friends in the ceremony. We also wanted our readers to be people who were pretty equally “our” friend.
But there’s nothing wrong with the bridal party doing it. I’ve seen it done before!
Post # 13
We are having my moms best friend. I’ve always called her “mom #2” and her daughters are some of my best friends. I wanted to pick her because her and her husband have an amazing relationship and have been married for 30 years.
Post # 14
My Future Sister-In-Law (who is not in the bridal party) is doing a reading. We’re undecided about having a second reading, but if we do, I’d like to ask my twin brother who is also ushering.
Post # 15
Oh hey everyone, I kind of forgot that I had made this thread. Thanks for all your seggestions!
@QE2: This is what I’m afraid of–I really don’t intend for it to be the Bridesmaids and Groomsmen show! My reason for wanting it to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen is because the people we would choose are friends who have been very close to us and supported us both in our walk with the Lord.
I totally understand what people are saying about honoring other people in your family/friends, but those who are close to us are already being honored by playing some kind of role in the wedding. I would rather have two best friends who have seen our relationship day in and day out, and would also be comfortable reading scripture in a large audience, than someone who is not as close to us and not as comfortable with public speaking/readings.
I don’t mean for it to be a statement about who we like or don’t like, because if you’re invited to our wedding, we love you and want to spend our day with you, regardless. It’s just a matter of who’s more comfortable with this particular role.
But thanks for everyone’s comments, it really helps me think things out more thoroughly when I hear outside opinoins.
Post # 16
Our officiant is doing a reading and then we are having a non-religious poem read by my fiace’s cousin. My fiance’s brother-in-law who is an unordained pastor (or he would be marrying us) will hopefully do a reading or homily (sp?) and possibly a prayer at the reception.