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Bees - here is my situation. Let me just say my mother is disabled and completely homebond. She can't help me plan ANYTHING!

A few weeks ago one of my bridesmaids (not maid of honor) asked me what dates are best for me for them to throw me a bridal shower.

In the past we all have thrown each other a bridal shower. My MOH has offered to host showers for people even when she isn't in the wedding.

We have been best friends since one year olds..

Fast forward to today - I realize that I am traveling on business every month from May- end of August (My wedding is in September). I kind of freaked out because I am not sure when I could have a shower. Therefore, I texed my MOH to tell her how busy my work schedule is and that I know it is sooo far out but I need to know what has been planned and what month we were thinking for everything.

She acted like she didn't understand what I was talking about and I had to feel like an idiot saying about bridal shower. She proceeded to tell me that normally it is the brides family or mom and FMIL that plan showers. She said the bridesmaids only plan the bacherlorette party. (Which she hasn't at all. I have organized the whole the whole trip.) She then told me she thought it was too far out to be planning ANYTHING. I had to keep repeating myself saying..but I have some pretty major traveling for work and need to plan around all this so I don't think its too far out considering my situation.

She knows my mother can't help me plan anything. I had to skype my mom in when I went wedding dress shopping. So, I tend to look towards my friends as my family to help me with things and she knows this. I was just in shock that she basically didn't think they should throw the party for me. What hurts me the most is in the past she has hosted bridal showers at her house even though she wasn't even in the wedding! So confusing..

What does everything think? Is it just family and friends not in the wedding that should throw the bridal shower?

How should I handle this with her?

I mean maybe she thinks i am wanting a couples shower, but I don't think we can do that because all our friends drink and his family doesnt. We didn't think it would be best to try and have a party like that before the wedding. So, I just want a bridal shower with girls only. I guess I should call her to clarify but now I feel like she is going to think I am being rude assuming she is helping with the party. ahhhh i have had so much drama with this wedding stuff.

I had 3 friends that thought they were going to be the MOH and 1 friend that thought she would be in the wedding.

I chose my MOH because she has been like family to me..I need her help since my mom can't do anything.

Now I just feel awkward.

My MOH and bridesmaids are doing mine with a little help from my mom. but my moh and bm's are my sisters. lol.

That is what my FI said..talk to the BM that was asking me what dates worked best for me..let her handle the whole thing.

This will probably open her eyes to that the other girls want to throw something for me and who cares about the rules..