(Closed) Who is inviting more?!

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Who's family/friends overtook the list?
    Mine. : (22 votes)
    44 %
    His. : (14 votes)
    28 %
    We're pretty much even. : (11 votes)
    22 %
    Either or, but there's not a huge difference between the numbers. : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My fiance is inviting more people. He has a ton of friends that are now both of our friends. But, as for family we have about even amounts coming.

    Post # 4
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    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m inviting more than my fiancé. I feel somewhat guilty about it but 1. We have a small budget 2. It’s harder for his family to come down (in a different country) 3. I could only imagine the problems that would occur if I leave certain people out on my side (they can be very sensitive and we’ll never hear the end of it). I think as long as your fiancé is okay with it then it’s okay.

    Post # 7
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    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We are pretty even on the invite list. More of mine are comming, because we live in California, and most of his family live in the mid-west.

    Post # 8
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    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Aside from my parents and grandmother, all of my family lives out of state. I’m inviting a handful (less than 20) of family that lives in NJ, where I grew up, that I keep in touch with, but I never speak to 90% of my family so no invites for them.

    FI’s family is mostly nearby so we’re inviting a few more of his relatives.

    Friends are mostly mutual.

    Post # 9
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    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We’re pretty much even. I was surprised because I had assumed that my side would be a lot more people but once everything was said and done it was almost an exact split!
     
    However, I have a lot of family back east who I’m inviting but I don’t think they’ll realistically make it to the wedding. Everyone who we are inviting from FI’s side are in this state so he may have more people at the actual wedding.

    Post # 10
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    2496 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    FI’s side was way bigger than mine.  It was probably 70/30.  But, most of the friends from his side are mutual friends, so it wasn’t really a big deal.  I think my parents were upset about that at first, but once they understood that it was really us inviting OUR friends, they were cool with it. 

    We also did not let our parents invite any of “their” friends.  Anyone we invited, we had to know personally, so that helped keep things down.

    Post # 11
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    222 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m inviting more than him, technically.  Most of my family lives in a different country so the odds of them actually going to the wedding are pretty slim.  But i’m inviting them anyway because I would love to have them there.  Not counting them, the rest of our guest list is pretty even based on who we are anticipating will come.  I think i’m still over by 3-5 people.  It’s a semi-small wedding so we tried to keep things fair, and nice and even.

    Post # 12
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    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My side has more, but that’s really because my parents are paying for 95% of the wedding.  

    Post # 13
    Member
    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I know of an historic inn that happens to have a bridal show coming up. I happen to be having my reception there. I wonder if it’s the same place?

    And my side definitely dominates the guest list. That’s just how it works for us.

    Post # 14
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If it was just our friends, I’d be inviting quite a few more. But his huge, HUGE family easily tips the scale in his direction.

    Post # 15
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    At this point it’s 85/78 in favor of him, but his friends have a lot more kids many of which I doubt will come so it will probably end up being about even.

    Post # 16
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    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    we are inviting about the same…both of my parents are divorced and remarried…and so are his…so we both have a lot of family to invite..

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