What events are you inviting your officiant to i.e. reception/rehearsal dinner?

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What events are you inviting your officiant to i.e. reception/rehearsal dinner?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
poll: What are you inviting your officiant to?
rehearsal dinner : (0 votes)

wedding reception : (4 votes)

19 %

wedding reception and rehearsal dinner : (14 votes)

67 %

neither : (3 votes)

14 %

21 votes

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lisalulu September 19, 2009 Santa Barbara,CA

What is the etiquette on this one and what are you personally doing?

2 years ago

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Helper bee

linzella June 20, 2009 Austin, Texas

We invited the officiant and his wife to both events, but they did not attend either. He wasn't a family friend or anything....he "came with the church," so I would have been surprised if he did attend the rehearsal dinner or reception.

2 years ago

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bruschetta August 29, 2009 Philadelphia

I'm good friends with our priest -- he's an actor who loves great food and working out (two outta three in common with me and the mister ain't bad!) -- so I hope he'll be able to attend both!

2 years ago

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Bumble bee

budgetbeautiful 9/26/09 Fredericksburg, VA

We're inviting our officiant and his wife to our reception, but that's it. Our RD is just family, wedding party and their SO's. He's not a family friend or anything, so it would be awkward to have him there.

2 years ago

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Worker bee

hellopanda 8/22/2009 Chicago

Our officiant is my brother and sister-in-law's pastor, since we're borrowing their church and my regular pastor wasn't able to officiate the ceremony. We invited him to both events and he's declined both. I think it was a combination of time and him not knowing anyone there except for my brother and sister-in-law.

2 years ago

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thefuturemrsjewell August 7, 2010 Washington DC

our officiant is one of our best friends who is being ordained just for the day! So, he'd be invited to both even if he wasn't our officiant!

2 years ago

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sminerva21 September 26, 2009 Chicago, IL/wedding in Upstate, NY

We're not inviting our officiant to any wedding events. We don't have any sort of relationship with her beyond working in our ceremony together. We're both very happy with her, but we personally felt that a generous tip without an invitation to wedding-related events was sufficient, especially since it's a very small, intimate wedding.

2 years ago