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Just curious who here is marrying their first loves? I wonder if anyone has done any studies on the marriages of those who marry their first or not? LIke... on one hand you have never been hurt so badly maybe you take things for granted? But it also seems kind of sweet to be each others' one and only love. :)
I will start: I am not. I have said "I love you" to three guys (including FI)... although I later realized that I did not love the first one. Just silly high school puppy dog love :) The second guy I do believe was my first true love... but despite how badly it hurt to lose him I feel it makes me appreciate what I have with FI so much more! It is so wonderfully uncomplicated and easy and happy. I don't love so naively anymore, but I think I love with more appreciation... if that makes any sense?
I said yes, but there was one guy before FI who I said "I love you" to, but never meant it. I just wanted to boyfriend lol.
He's my first true love... but I guess I thought I was in love with my first, high school boyfriend. Thank goodness that didn't last, though. :)
I am! He was my first real everything--boyfriend, kiss, love, and now soon-to-be husband! Obviously, I was very picky about who I gave my heart to. I know it's a little unconventional and it wasn't my intention, but I couldn't be happier with the results :)
He is definitely my first love :) I didn't want to say "I love you" until I knew that I was going to marry the person and I'm so happy that I waited for him!
I was engaged before, but uneasy about it- turns out he was a cheater cheater pumpkin eater (he's married with 4 kids now) LOL
There was another man, a lot older than me who I fell in love with- but he wasn't interested in getting married, or having a family, or even just being monogamous so I had to make that split... he's a great guy, just not husband material.
My boy is awesome, and perfect, he's all the great things that all of my previous flings have been, and more- without any of the bad stuff!
My first love was the highschool bf. He has since now married and got a troop of three kids. Im happy for him we were so wrong for each other, I have changed alot since I was 16 to who I am now. I dont think we would have complimented each well now. His wife is absolutely lovely and there happy as so thats great :)
my boyfriend and i plan on getting married and he is my first real love. before him i never had a relationship that lasted more than a month.
my FH is defninitely my first and only... i have fallen for other guys before, but i'd never said "i love you" to them. in fact, FH was my first real, serious relationship. after nearly giving up hope on finding the right guy, all of my college friends actually predicted that the first guy i ever had a real relationship with i would marry. they were right!
i had a bf of 7 1/2 years before him. it was a horrible relationship. but like the idiot i am, i did love him.
I will say my FI is not my first love...but he is my best love. My daughter's father I guess can be called my first love. I didn't love him enough to marry him or give up my independence so I don't know how DEEP a love it was. I can honestly say I have never loved as deeply with my whole self before my FI.
My FI is my first and last love. We didn't date anyone in between, but we did break up at point point for a summer (we've been together for 8 years). However, we both felt that is was a good break for us to grow and change and make our relationship that much better when we did decide to get together again. :)
wow i'm so surprised by how many people are marrying their firsts and only... i guess you girls were better at weeding out the No's than me! :)
FI is my first love - we started dating in college. I think I had some high standards so didn't want to date just anyone :)
I am :D I dated casually a lot previous to meeting the FI, but I didn't fall in love until him :D All of my other relationships were in high school, and very un-serious. It's so great to share all of my firsts with my hubby to be :D
My first love and I did buy a home together and were planning to get married,but it just didn't work out for us.
Yay me! since now I found the love of my life
SO is definitely not my first love, I've had a few before. I am the first love for my SO though.
I am! I had one boyfriend for a few months before FI, but it was nothing special, but FI and I have been together since our Sophomore year of High School....7 1/2 years later, we're finally getting married! He's my first everything except for my first kiss.
He is most definitely my first love! I never would have pegged myself to marry the first man I fell in love with, but life throws interesting surprises at you. I count myself very lucky to have met someone so early on who I know is right for me. :)
I thought I had been in love once before I found my FI. And the time where I thought I was in love does not even compare with how I feel right now. I think that "you just know" feeling is soooo true.
Wow, same as Golden here! I know that's so dorky, but I couldn't stop dating him in high school (even though we were that "on-again/off-again" couple)!
I guess I was right about something!
I would say I've discovered a whole new, and much better, grasp of what "love" really means with FI, but I wouldn't say I've never been in love before. I've fallen in love with every guy I've dated, all three of them.
My parents have been together since they were 13 and 15 years old, so I think it was weird for my mother to have to see my sister and I go through breakups.
My husband was my first love, first kiss, first boyfriend, first holding hands...all of it. I was 20 when we started dating, and he was 19. Our 1 month anniversary of dating was also my 21st birthday and the day I graduated from college.
I was also his first girlfriend, kiss, love. We date for a bit over a year and a half when he proposed and were engaged 13 months. Now, at the end of this week, we'll have been married 2 months. He's also my best friend.
We had attened the same school since 3rd grade. I always knew who he was and the circle he hung out with because they were the "popular" kids. Lol, if there is a such thing in elementary school. Then the summer before our freshman year of High School he first "saw" me at the mall. Me going up an excalator, He going down. He says at that moment he had to know who I was.
Then the first day of High School he walks into my 2nd period class (ceramics, lol) and sits right across from me. We started dating later that year and now almost 13 years later we are still madly in love, but also a great team, we crack each other up and were engaged Xmas 2009 and are planning a Spring 2011 wedding :)
I am! (and it's a good thing, since we started dating at 14.)
Honestly, though, we were very lucky and very dedicated to our relationship. It has by no means been easy, and I'm quite surprised that my first real boyfriend and my first love turned out to be such an amazing partner. We grew together and will continue to do so.
The funny thing is that when I was 15, I read an article on the New York Times website about young relationships and first loves. It was rather down on teen relationships and basically said that "love" is overused. Which may be true, but didn't stop me from writing a very opinionated comment! The writer of the article actually wrote back to me, wishing our relationship the best. It's so hard to believe that at that age, when love was so simple, I still felt what I do today.
I was engaged before to a guy in High school. I said yes when he proposed because he was abusive and I knew I couldn't get out safely (I also lived with him and his mother for a year at that point). A few months later I went to school in a different town, and right away started making the move to end things. I actually met my FH while engaged, and he was the one that gave me the courage to leave. I saw how well that my FH treated me and realized just how bad my situation was...
I loved my exfiance, but in an unhealthy love. My FH is the only healthy love I have had (only had the one other)!
No, I loved 2 others before my FI and honestly I still love these 2 guys and always will. There was nothing really bad about the other 2 relationships, they are both awesome guys and are 2 really good friends of mine still. It just wasn't going anywhere. Well one of them could have potentially gone "somewhere" but he moved for grad school and it was difficult and it just didn't work out. Anyhow, both of these relationships ended very civilly and I am so happy about that because they are both wonderful people. My FI is totally okay with this, since I am so open about it which I really appreciate. It makes me love him even more!
Yes!! Met and fell in love 9 years ago. Broke up for a couple of years because there is a 4 year age difference (I was 16 he was 20), but never fell out of love. Got back together 4 years ago and are still madly in love... more so then day 1!!
FI and I are both NOT each other's first love. I've said "I love you" to 4 people before FI (all relationships between 1.5 - 3 yrs long...I'm a serial monogomous, I know), and looking back I'd weed out one as not really being LOVE.
I think I had great loves for each period of my life as I grew and changed. The first was my high school bf whom I dated for almost 3 yrs and loved as much as a 16 yr old can love. Of course, I broke up with him when I went to college and never looked back. I was the MOH at his wedding this summer as he married my best friend of 16 yrs (I love to joke that I knew them each longer than they've known each other!). The 2nd was my college bf, my first time living on my own, and the 3rd was my first longterm relationship after I moved to NYC after college. I don't doubt my feelings for them at the time and think I loved each of them with the capacity I had at that point in my life. The love I have for my fiance is different, deeper & more profound; part of that is for who he is but part is also for who I am now.
I've said "i love you" before. But honestly, i never felt the way about them I feel about my husband. Nor the way I felt about him a year into our relationships (my longest relationship was 8 months before him). It was just way better from the get-go and way deeper.
I think you can "love" a lot of things/people without being "in love". I wasn't really "in love" before. i was always able to imagine my life without those people and see the positives of that. When i think about not having DH in my life, I imagine it's because of some tragedy and I don't see it as a positive thing (like I did with other guys, as a way to 'start fresh') but more as something that would take me a long time to deal with. If that makes sense
i voted other, because i've thought i was in love before, but realized after i met and fell in love with fi that it wasn't really love at all before. i'm my fi's first love though :)
I picked nope one before in reality even though I said I lvoe you and was in a serious relationship for a long time before him I feel he is my first TRUE love.
We have both been engaged before, and thankfully realized it wasn't right, long before we even set dates with our ex's. I think it was a good experience for both of us, because it helps us to appreciate what we have this time around!
It makes me so happy to see that 50% of us are marrying our first loves. :)
Mine was my first love and then life happened and we parted ways and then he came back for me five years later. I'm happy that we had that time and those experiences and those relationships. I learned so much from all of them, but I'm happy that in the end I'm marrying my absolute best friend and first love.
I too was very careful who I gave my heart to. I remember thinking that I would never be able to let go enough to love. I don't know why, but it just felt right with FI and it still does 
We've definitely had our "learning moments" because we are young, but we've definitely grown together and I can't even imagine my life without him!
Yep! The fella is my one and only! LOL
We met when I was 19 - I'd never had a boyfriend before and within 2 weeks I knew we'd get married! We've been together for 5 and a half years and it's been fab! He's my bestfriend and we work so well together. I know some people think it's concerning to marry your first boyfriend but if I can't make it with him I'll have to join the nunnery and live out my childhood Sound of Music dreams! LOL
I am! Although it's kind of complicated.. He was my first love, my first time, all that, but then we split and I was in a serious relationship with someone else for four years and I ended up getting engaged.. So yes, he was my first love, but he wasn't my only :(
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