Who is paying for your bridesmaids dresses?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who is paying for the bridesmaid dresses?
    The couple getting married. : (39 votes)
    22 %
    The bridesmaids : (129 votes)
    73 %
    Other. Please state : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    @TG123:  I think that is partially why in the UK they tend to have so few in the wedding party v. in the States. Where I am from the bridesmaids pay for the dresses.

    Post # 5
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    245 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My girls are. They don’t mind, and I just want a matching color, fabric and length. My girls know  how to make themselves look good so I know they will pick cute dresses. I just don’t feel right dictating what they wear when I can’t buy it for them.

    ETA: I have 7 maids (2sisters, my 3 girls from high school, a middle school bestie and a close college friend/my son’s godmother.) 

     

    Post # 6
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    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @TG123:  I’m in the USA. I felt that asking my friends to pay more than $150 for a dress was not for me. The dresses I liked best clocked in at something like $165 each, so FI and I ordered the dresses and just asked for $150 from each bridesmaid, and we picked up the difference. 

    I think it’s best to ask your friends what they expect/what they can afford. 3/4 of my BMs are gainfully employed with expendable income and the fourth (my MOH) is a graduate student. I offered to pay for hers, but she insisted on paying for it.

    Post # 7
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    42549 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @TG123:  If it’s traditional for the couple to pay for the BM’s dresses where you live, I suggest you do that.

    I also suggest you ask your stepmom if she is willing to pay for the step sisters’ dresses as she is the one who  insisted they be in the wedding party.

    Post # 8
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    7412 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @TG123:  If it is traditionally the bride and groom in New Zealand that pay then why would you change that?

    In Australia the B&G traditionally pay for the bridal party attire.

    I definately do not buy the weddings are expensive line. It is YOUR wedding so it shouldn’t be expensive for anyone other than you. The couple control the cost of their wedding. If you want to save money have less bridemaids, spend less on your own dress or cut something else from your wedding.

    Post # 9
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    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @TG123:  

    I am paying for my bridesmaids and I thought that was standard in NZ because I didn’t pay for the dresses (or hair, shoes etc) in the three weddings I have been in. However a few people have told me recently that they had to pay for their own bridesmaid dresses, so it seems that NZ uses both “traditions”.

    How about your stepmother pays for her daughters dresses since she insisted on them being bridesmaids?

    Post # 10
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    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    In the UK, the bride/couple usually pays (which is what I did). Coming from that tradition, I don’t think it’s acceptable to ask bridesmaids to pay for the dress unless they get to choose it. 

    Post # 12
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    724 posts
    Busy bee

    We will be paying for the birdal party’s attire.

    I once regretted not declining the honor of being a bridesmaid because at the end of it all I was not happy with how much I had been “asked” to spend. I would have much rather just attended as a guest, and because this was a really great friend of mine the feeling was so, so sucky. I don’t want to put our nearest and dearest in that position even if ever so slightly, so it’s out of the question that we would let them pay.

    Post # 13
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    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @TG123:  I definetly think you need to ask your bridesmaids what they are expecting. For instance, because I am in the US, my girls paid for their dresses (just at $100) and they full expected to and no one once asked me if I was paying or contributing, they just ask I try to stay under $150 and I let them pick the dress as a group anyway. If your bridesmaids accepted the role under the assumption you would pay I think you have to do that but if they are thinking they are paying then thats fine too. Maybe you and your girls could split the cost? 

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    The bridesmaids paying for their own dresses is really just a US thing. If it is customary in NZ for the bride and groom to cover the cost, then that’s what you should do. I think it’s better than way anyway.

    Post # 15
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m in the UK – we paid for their dresses and will be paying for their hair/make-up/shoes. That is just what is traditional here 🙂

    Post # 16
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    147 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @TG123:  I had 4 bridesmaids and one flowergirl.

     

    We paid for their dresses, hair and make up. They paid for their own shoes (unmatching, I just specified a range of colours).

     

    Every time I have been a bridesmaid, my dress was paid for by the bride.

     

    I quite like it because

     

    a) as a bride, I just bought all their dresses online and they arrived in the post at my house – I didn’t have to chase anyone to buy their dress or pick up their dress etc

     

    b) as a bridesmaid, I quite like someone paying for a dress I will never wear again!

     

    ETA: I am from Australia.

     

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