(Closed) Who is signing your ketubah?

posted 6 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The ketubah witnesses need not be people in your bridal party.  As for who can sign, check with your rabbi.  Ours (Reform) was okay with our having nonJewish witnesses, which definitely simplified things.

Post # 4
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@google:  agree with the PP.  Your signers do not need to be in the bridal party, neither of our witnesses were. 

And again it depends on your officiant, but some will allow non-Jewish signers.  Our cantor told us we did need non-blood related Jewish signers, so we had DH’s uncle (through marriage) and my good friend sign.

My sister however had her BIL sign (so blood related to her DH) and a mutual friend who was not Jewish.

Post # 5
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was really surprised with what my Rabbi told us about signing the ketubah.  He said it can not be a blood or NONE blood relative.  So not even someone married in!  I was upset by this because I wanted my aunt’s (father’s sister) husband to sign it, but now he can’t.

So we are using a really good friend of mine from High School, and a close family friend of FI’s parents (who we spend high holidays with and Thanksgiving).  Both are Jewish.

I am not sure if this is every Rabbi’s rule, but I would ask.

Post # 6
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

my rabbi did not have a problem with relatives but does want them jewish

Post # 7
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

our very close friends (friends of my family) who are like second parents to me are signing our ketubah. Our ketubah was really expensive (over $1000) and after we asked them to sign it, they told us they were going to buy it for us as our wedding present. So its super special and meaningful to us.

Post # 8
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

4 close family friends. Our rabbi said no relatives, had to be Jewish and preferably as observant as possible, but women are ok as witnesses (I’m conservative). So we’re having 2 men and 2 women who have been close friends of my family and know FH and I well.

Post # 9
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our Conservative Rabbi wants Jewish males who are non-relatives, preferably shomer-shabbos. We chose a close family friend from each side, and both men were very touched to be asked.

Post # 10
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have an orthodox rabbi, so it will be him and two Jewish male witnesses who are not related and who keep shabbat. I am a convert, so this is very serious for Fiance and I as it will determine jewish lineage for future generations.

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