Post # 1
I’m normally pretty assertive and sure of what I want and don’t have a problem being a little bossy…lol but when it comes to the wedding I find myself being less assertive and trying to be super laid back to the point where I feel like people are almost taking advantage of that. For example, my bridesmaids were told they could wear whatever they wanted within reason, but they all chose extremes. My wedding coordinator told me to be more firm about things. I thought it was funny for her to say that because normally I wouldn’t have a problem with that.
I just don’t want to be labeled a bridezilla!!
Post # 3
I’m sure you know, there’s a difference between being assertive and aggressive. I think the term “bridezilla” is for the ladies that just take things to a whole other level. But, making decisions and being firm are not things you should back away from. It is your day after all and being the bride means you get to make those kinds of choices!
It’s not such a bad thing to be “aware” of how your actions come across to others. A true bridezilla wouldn’t think that way so I’m pretty sure you won’t ever be labeled that 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with pinkstripes. I’m an assertive person and I know what I want. that doesnt automatically make a me a bridezilla. I’m not going to change who i am just to avoid that term. I will try to stay true to who i am and not fall on either extreme of bein too laid back or too uptight. hopefully i succeed
Post # 5
@kate169: Uh, ME!!!
I have a VERY strong personality in every day life. I decided long ago that I would not bring that aspect of myself into our wedding. I did not want to come away from this w/ more enemies than friends & my family thinking I’m a raging spoiled douche.
I have been so laid back that my mom has taken that as a sign to totally take over our wedding and make a majority of decisions.
Just 10 more days & I don’t have to deal w/ this anymore!
Post # 6
Me! Me! Me! I’m terrified of people thinking I’m freaking out and being a bridezilla. But it’s just that I’m so worried because I’m the person who’s on the hook for these things. If people don’t like choices, it’s going to fall back on me. And so as a result of all that stress, I could imagine overreacting from time to time. Except, because I’m sooooo worried about the ‘zilla label I feel like I’m walking on eggshells and just holding everything in.
Post # 7
I feel bridezilla on the inside but on the outside cool and calm. I think you can have all the say in the dress and that is expected, but in your case it may be too late for that. But I bet your BM are delighted they got to choose their own dresses.
Post # 8
lol I think it has something to do with the fact I used to watch bridezillas marathons before being engaged and am pretty afraid to be like that.
Post # 9
Me! So me!
I’m normally clear about what I want and not afraid to say NO!
But, I’ve been so terrified of the “bridezilla” label that I’ve turned into the people pleaser I don’t even recognize. I call her “codependa-bride”
I’ve finally come to terms with it. If being called a bridezilla is the price I need to pay for having the wedding my FI and I put all this work and in money into being what we dreamed, then so be it! Better a bridezilla than a miserable doormat!
Post # 10
I’ve had to basically stop having opinions altogether! >: some of my friends were calling me bridezilla over simple things like wanting all the bridesmaids to wear sunflowers in their hair or when i tried to find tasty gluten-free options for cake!